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Is there truth in when someone says something when they're drunk? friend texted me whilst drunk.

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juyeti · 27/07/2023 23:44

Friend is away for a couple of days for a stag do. He doesn't normally drink so guessing not much would render him quite drunk. Last night I received a text at 1am but didn't see it till this morning. It was written terribly with a lot of typos and repeated letters in words so took me a few moments to understand what it said. The coherent version...without some random stuff at the beginning..

"Juyetii, poppy. I miss you. I wish you were here with me. Its so fucking beautiful. So so beautiful. Is it too late to tell you how I feel. You're the one. Let's go back to the beginning. I'm just wasting time. I know it might be complicated but it doesn't matter. it will be okay. I'm too fucking scared to tell you. I wish you feel the same.

I haven't received anything from him yet nor have I replied. I don't know what to make it of it really. Im pretty sure he was drunk when he sent it. Does he actually mean it if he was drunk? Do I bring it up / ignore it?! I've been thinking about it all day!

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ThatFraggle · 28/07/2023 11:49

My money is on the 'complication' being that he's not single, or that he is the ex of someone close to OP.

Idrankyourbananamilk · 28/07/2023 11:51

Is the complication that he either did or does date/is married to another friend OP?

CurlewKate · 28/07/2023 11:53

@ThatFraggle "My money is on the 'complication' being that he's not single, or that he is the ex of someone close to OP."

Yep. And she'll "get pregnant" inside 6 months. I do wish experience hadn't made me so cynical....

ACurlyWurlyTail · 28/07/2023 11:55

I waited nearly a decade to send a message like that to someone well out of my league. Turns out that person never told me because they thought exactly the same . we had both been in and out of relationships and the timing never seemed right and then i got a bit tipsy and went for it. we have been together 10 years now :)

WhenHarryMetTaylor · 28/07/2023 11:56

I'm too invested not to comment here now purely for the update 🙃

Superfood · 28/07/2023 12:00

Mayhem3 · 28/07/2023 11:21

This is great but I’d also be a bit cautious.

It is possible he’s seeing his friend getting married and is now panicking that he’s going to be the only single one out of his friends and so he’s texting his ex’s as he feels lonely.

I don’t want to put a downer on it but I know a couple of friends who did the same thing and it was always when their friends got engaged, married or had a baby.
The relationships didn’t last.

What makes you think he's single?

PassTheSnacks · 28/07/2023 12:01

Eeeek. Is it your lunch break yet, OP? 🤣

Arniesleftleg · 28/07/2023 12:01

Well, seeing as most people lose inhibitions when they're drunk, I'd say he's in love with you.

Mayhem3 · 28/07/2023 12:04

ACurlyWurlyTail · 28/07/2023 11:55

I waited nearly a decade to send a message like that to someone well out of my league. Turns out that person never told me because they thought exactly the same . we had both been in and out of relationships and the timing never seemed right and then i got a bit tipsy and went for it. we have been together 10 years now :)

Did you tell them when you were on your friends hen do though?

The fact that it was on a stag night makes me see red flags.

I hope I’m wrong.

Beach11 · 28/07/2023 12:12

Excited for you op 🤞

WeeOrcadian · 28/07/2023 12:14

This is not me placemarking

I would never

Not me

Nope

💜🤞🏼💜🤞🏼

Wetandhorrible · 28/07/2023 12:20

juyeti · 28/07/2023 08:42

Omg. Can't believe there's so many people invested in this! 😂
We ended up texting till 2am last night and now I'm bloody late for work. Will update later.

You'd better update!!😁😁😁I'm an old romantic and this is making me happy!!

LittleBear21 · 28/07/2023 12:20

Totally here for the updates 😀

Ofcourseshecan · 28/07/2023 12:25

Hannahsbananas · 27/07/2023 23:59

Well, complicated or not - I’d say your luck’s in 😄

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Blondey2023 · 28/07/2023 12:26

Lucky girl! This sounds very promising!!

TheGoodBanana · 28/07/2023 12:34

I will start a thread for hat advice in S & B for the wedding, we are all invited I asusme?

Thebirdhouse · 28/07/2023 12:46

Keep us posted OP.

As a recipient of drunk texts, my advice would me to have the conversation face to face as soon as he returns.....

StefanosHill · 28/07/2023 12:47

CurlewKate · 28/07/2023 10:51

@juyeti

Are you both single? Sounds as if you're not. If you're interested, tell him that you're not prepared to do anything until you are both properly free. And that means PROPERLY!! And (forgive me-I'm old enough to be your mum!) if anything does happen before you're free then use effective contraception you're in control of. And try to do something about the "he's out of your league" thing. It will skew your thinking about the future.

Agree he needs to be properly single first

I’m guessing no dc involved

MrsPerfect12 · 28/07/2023 12:55

Love these threads! Glad he replied and meant it.
Hurry back with the details 🥰

becarefulofyourheart · 28/07/2023 12:56

so so cute! Lovely to read🥳

ladydimitrescu · 28/07/2023 13:03

I'm so invested!

lunar1 · 28/07/2023 13:07

Best thread ever!!

crazycatladyof6 · 28/07/2023 13:12

juyeti · 28/07/2023 08:42

Omg. Can't believe there's so many people invested in this! 😂
We ended up texting till 2am last night and now I'm bloody late for work. Will update later.

Love this x

faerieland · 28/07/2023 13:15

I would say he means it but approach with caution.

My ex told me he wanted me to be his girlfriend drunk then messed me around terribly.

Another man I had just started dating told me ‘we could be a couple’ while drunk with a huge full on declaration. He went back on it the next day and now we don’t speak. Granted, he hadn’t harboured feeling towards me for years but it was very convincing at the time.

He ought to be able to approach you whilst he doesn’t drink in him. As romantic as this message may seem, it may not be a good sign that he has needed Dutch courage to say how he feels.

However, it may all work out wonderfully and he may hurt have believed you could never feel that way for him.

3luckystars · 28/07/2023 13:18

Ok if you are short on time, we just need to know these 3 pertinent pieces of info:

1 . Are you going to meet him at the airport (like a scene from Love Actually)

2 . What is the complication?

3 . Is it Harry Styles?

Thanks a million.