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Is there truth in when someone says something when they're drunk? friend texted me whilst drunk.

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juyeti · 27/07/2023 23:44

Friend is away for a couple of days for a stag do. He doesn't normally drink so guessing not much would render him quite drunk. Last night I received a text at 1am but didn't see it till this morning. It was written terribly with a lot of typos and repeated letters in words so took me a few moments to understand what it said. The coherent version...without some random stuff at the beginning..

"Juyetii, poppy. I miss you. I wish you were here with me. Its so fucking beautiful. So so beautiful. Is it too late to tell you how I feel. You're the one. Let's go back to the beginning. I'm just wasting time. I know it might be complicated but it doesn't matter. it will be okay. I'm too fucking scared to tell you. I wish you feel the same.

I haven't received anything from him yet nor have I replied. I don't know what to make it of it really. Im pretty sure he was drunk when he sent it. Does he actually mean it if he was drunk? Do I bring it up / ignore it?! I've been thinking about it all day!

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Anaemiafog · 27/07/2023 23:46

How do you feel about him?

Crucible · 27/07/2023 23:46

It depends...what do you think about him and are you both single?

Tara24 · 27/07/2023 23:47

The answer to that depends on how you feel.

Do you like him in that way?

ErikaReadsTheDailyMail · 27/07/2023 23:47

It's quite in depth for there to be nothing in it, drunk or not.
How do you feel about him?

blacknredsweeties · 27/07/2023 23:47

Maybe he doesn't mean it and he was lonely/ down. Maybe he regrets it.

Maybe he meant it?

brokenlore · 27/07/2023 23:48

Yep definitely drunk, but it gave him the courage to say how he feels, and if you're not interest he saves face by pulling the 'drunken rambling card'.

XelaM · 27/07/2023 23:49

Sounds like he meant it. I always say the truth when I'm drunk and want to text my ex.

Really mean of you to just ignore the message.

Windinmyhair · 27/07/2023 23:50

Was it his stag do? Or your soon to be DH's? What does he mean it is too late to tell you?

Hannahsbananas · 27/07/2023 23:53

How do you feel about him, op?
There’s definitely something in that text, it’s quite comprehensive.

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juyeti · 27/07/2023 23:57

How do I feel?
Well, if he didn't mean it, i'd carry on with my life but if he did mean it, I would be absolutely amazed. He is gorgeous inside and out but he's way out of my league for reasons i won't go into and so i have never entertained the idea amongst other reasons. And he is right, things would be a little complicated.

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juyeti · 27/07/2023 23:58

Windinmyhair · 27/07/2023 23:50

Was it his stag do? Or your soon to be DH's? What does he mean it is too late to tell you?

His friends stag do. I am single but with DC

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Hannahsbananas · 27/07/2023 23:59

juyeti · 27/07/2023 23:57

How do I feel?
Well, if he didn't mean it, i'd carry on with my life but if he did mean it, I would be absolutely amazed. He is gorgeous inside and out but he's way out of my league for reasons i won't go into and so i have never entertained the idea amongst other reasons. And he is right, things would be a little complicated.

Well, complicated or not - I’d say your luck’s in 😄

determinedtomakethiswork · 27/07/2023 23:59

I think this sounds absolutely great! What are the complications? Tell us more!

Raindropsoncanvas · 27/07/2023 23:59

Are you with someone as he asks if it’s too late and suggests it might be complicated? How do you feel about him?
A casual, ‘You having a good time?’ gives him a chance to reiterate or duck out. (I suspect it’s the former and he’s looking for positive feedback.)

Opine · 28/07/2023 00:00

He definitely meant it. Perhaps it isn’t that simple in the cold light of day but all that hasn’t been picked out of the sky.

Reply & say you need to know if he many any of that before you say anything. Ask him to be straight with you.

Someoneonlyyouknow · 28/07/2023 00:00

There's another thread on MN tonight where the OP claims nobody sends texts nowadays.

Opine · 28/07/2023 00:00

*means any of it

Archeron · 28/07/2023 00:01

I would just reply and say “Let’s talk about this in person when you get back”. Gives him time to sober up and if he wants to he can say he was drunk. Or maybe he will stand by his words and you can snog his face off. Totally jealous btw!

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juyeti · 28/07/2023 00:01

XelaM · 27/07/2023 23:49

Sounds like he meant it. I always say the truth when I'm drunk and want to text my ex.

Really mean of you to just ignore the message.

God, no, I didn't mean to be mean. I just didn't know to deal with it. Didn't want to make it into a joke in case he was serious or tell him how i feel when he might not have meant it! 🙈

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Raindropsoncanvas · 28/07/2023 00:01

Sorry. X post, OP.

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 28/07/2023 00:02

If you feel that way just text-do you want to talk? And go from there-he’s probably waiting on tenterhooks!

Suspific · 28/07/2023 00:03

If you want this to be true you shouldn't ignore it or he'll never pluck up the courage to say it again. I would say something like does your sober head want to talk about this when you're back?

Gabiabbi · 28/07/2023 00:04

Message him back! Ask him if there was any truth in it and go from there? I cant imagine anyone sending a message like that, drunk or not, unless there were feelings there

Someoneonlyyouknow · 28/07/2023 00:04

In this case maybe respond "Sounds like you're having fun. Speak when you get back?"

AcrossthePond55 · 28/07/2023 00:05

What's the 'complication'?

You've said you're single, but is he?