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Which man would you choose?

77 replies

Logg · 27/07/2023 06:43

Man A

  • Good looking, sexy, a bit rough around the edges, funny, laid back and relaxed, very thoughtful, confident, generous, great with kids, nans, anyone really, a real people person. Great in bed.
  • can be too laid back at times, jobwise- low to average pay, not very romantic, well can be but in his own way.

Man B

  • He has a very good job £££, works in tech, a bit geeky in an endearing way, kind and thoughtful, funny, romantic, great in bed.
  • not very confident as Man 1, a bit socially awkward at times, can get a bit stressed / annoyed over small things, possibly a bit stingy with money but not overly so but can't be too sure yet.

B is more my "type" but I really really like A but I'm worried im just infatuated with him and it will wear off. B is more the guy you probably would settle down with and A you'd have fun with.

OP posts:
tescocreditcard · 27/07/2023 06:47

Choose for what? Dating? Boyfriend? Husband?

Can't you just carry on dating both of them for longer to see if time helps?

WunWun · 27/07/2023 06:48

A

Nothingbuttheglory · 27/07/2023 06:49

If I couldn't choose between them I don't like either of them enough.

PrettyScotland · 27/07/2023 06:50

Spoilt for choice here OP

Brk · 27/07/2023 06:52

I chose Man 2. We have a life that is very comfortable financially. But as he got older he got more and more uptight and tense about the small stuff. He doesn’t have friends, doesn’t seem to like most people. Rude to strangers and cold towards my friends and famijy (didn’t used to be). Was yseless during the baby years as he couldn’t bear dirty nappies / food mess etc.

If you choose Man 1 you might have to be the breadwinner, but your life might be a lot more relaxed and happy. Don’t settle down with someone who gets stressed about small things is my advice to you.

StartSWagaintomorrow · 27/07/2023 06:52

Why do you have to pick one now?

cushioncovers · 27/07/2023 06:52

Can I have whichever one you don't choose please.

Bansheed · 27/07/2023 06:53

B. Better life partner potential.

A is laid back about a job would drive me nuts and I would not want children with him.

There is option C though, keep looking?

Whichclubisittonight · 27/07/2023 06:54

I think take away the looks and money side of things, and think about which one has qualities you like and are more compatible with.

Looks fade and money can disappear over night, which one could you weather storms with?

Tighginn · 27/07/2023 06:56

Wonder if either a or b have other options too? Think you need to wait until you can truly find the one!

Morewineplease10 · 27/07/2023 07:11

Bloke A for short term.

B for nothing. Stinging is horrible characteristic and is indicative of traits/behavior that go way deeper than splashing the cash.

AgnesNaismith · 27/07/2023 07:17

Neither.

A - you’d end up paying for him

B - annoyed at small things???? Red flag!!

Thatswhatitis · 27/07/2023 07:31

Are you thinking of stealing my DH who is B completely.

I am also a similar personality as him though. It does mean with all that careful with money malarkey we will have a nice early retirement. Our stinginess is like this, happy to walk a distance to save on parking, take a flask for coffee, make a pack up, wear clothes till knackered, but that money saving has meant loads of fab holidays.

Atalanta1 · 27/07/2023 07:37

If you have to weigh up pros and cons neither are the right one. You feel it in your gut, like you’re finally home.

PimpMyFridge · 27/07/2023 07:39

Atalanta1 · 27/07/2023 07:37

If you have to weigh up pros and cons neither are the right one. You feel it in your gut, like you’re finally home.

This

timegoingtooquickly · 27/07/2023 07:42

I wonder what the title of the book will be 🤔

Somanycats · 27/07/2023 07:46

Go for man b. Dsil who has had countless husbands always goes for man a. She marries a man who she enjoys dating. She seems to think marriage and dating have the same skill set. They don't. She is then surprised when these cheerful dozy chancers she marries become variously cocklodgers, debtors, or adulterers

Fannyfiggs · 27/07/2023 07:48

PrettyScotland · 27/07/2023 06:50

Spoilt for choice here OP

😂😂😂😂

topnoddy · 27/07/2023 07:50

A for the weekends

B for during the week

Bodybop · 27/07/2023 07:50

B

Clymene · 27/07/2023 07:53

Potential cocklodger or stingy uptight snappy bloke?

Neither

shelbabab · 27/07/2023 07:54

Guy A for me. Having a gd job is further down the list for me. It's a nice to have but not as important as other things. I was the breadwinner for most of time we been together (20yrs). I earned more than double what he did. He recently retrained though and earns decent money.

Re guy B. I hate ppl that are stingy with money! That's a red flag for me. He might have a better job but god u won't see any of the benefits as he won't want to spend it!

C1N1C · 27/07/2023 07:54

I wouldn't be sleeping with two people at the same time, but that's just me.

I think if you can do this, you're not serious about either.

coodawoodashooda · 27/07/2023 07:56

Clymene · 27/07/2023 07:53

Potential cocklodger or stingy uptight snappy bloke?

Neither

Agreed

determinedtomakethiswork · 27/07/2023 07:56

Neither of them. B is out because he is stingy. I couldn't bear that.

A - in my experience, being too laid-back, usually means that everything is left to the woman to do