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Which man would you choose?

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Logg · 27/07/2023 06:43

Man A

  • Good looking, sexy, a bit rough around the edges, funny, laid back and relaxed, very thoughtful, confident, generous, great with kids, nans, anyone really, a real people person. Great in bed.
  • can be too laid back at times, jobwise- low to average pay, not very romantic, well can be but in his own way.

Man B

  • He has a very good job £££, works in tech, a bit geeky in an endearing way, kind and thoughtful, funny, romantic, great in bed.
  • not very confident as Man 1, a bit socially awkward at times, can get a bit stressed / annoyed over small things, possibly a bit stingy with money but not overly so but can't be too sure yet.

B is more my "type" but I really really like A but I'm worried im just infatuated with him and it will wear off. B is more the guy you probably would settle down with and A you'd have fun with.

OP posts:
SoupDragon · 27/07/2023 12:23

hev126 · 27/07/2023 12:10

I'm surprised by the amount of people saying man B over man A. Is this down to income??

Maybe they don't value a laid back (lazy) unromantic man?

Everyone likes different types!

CindersAgain · 27/07/2023 12:26

B will be like living with Victor Meldew. Very careful and a bit stingy will increase with time. Right now he’s on best behaviour and trying to impress you.

CindersAgain · 27/07/2023 12:26

I agree with the PP who thinks neither are right or you wouldn’t be asking.

wayyour · 27/07/2023 12:44

I've tried B and it didn't suit, so would try A. I wouldn't want a socially awkward, penny pinching person who gets annoyed over small things. Absolutely not again.

wayyour · 27/07/2023 12:45

Though I agree with @CindersAgain and other posters that neither are right, or ideal.

Blossomtoes · 27/07/2023 12:54

I wouldn’t even look at B. Mean with money, mean with love.

MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE · 27/07/2023 12:56

neither

none of them sound appealing to be honest

KnitFastDieWarm · 27/07/2023 12:58

what you want is a man who combines the positive qualities of A and B. Don’t settle for anything less.

coodawoodashooda · 27/07/2023 12:58

ringsaglitter · 27/07/2023 07:58

What's a 'cocklodger'?

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I guess it's someone who stays in the relationship and moves into the home for an easy life and sex. They don't contribute financially or take their responsibilities seriously. However, they say all of the right things so that they keep their partner hopeful that things will improve. Future faking promises.

StarlightLady · 27/07/2023 13:05

One for weekdays and one for weekends. It's always good to have a spare. 😂

DaisyThistle · 27/07/2023 13:09

A friend of mine chose man A over man B. I was surprised as B was much better looking and much cleverer and had a far better job. She told me he was stingy and that was all I needed to know to understand her choice. She is very happy with man A and has been for years.

fluffi · 27/07/2023 13:13

Neither.

Although the stinginess and getting irritated over minor things will only get worse over time. However lack of ambition and being very laid back is also unattractive. If I had to chose then A …

NooNaNa · 27/07/2023 13:23

It's all compromise isn't it?

Man A sounds easier in the long term, but only if you will be satisfied/fulfilled materially. If you are ambitious for a nice house and stuff etc etc then you may feel resentful of him. However, you may feel that a made to measure life with someone who is good
fun and easy company is more important than a naice house and things.

Man B sounds as if he will be hard hard work in no time at all.

Beezknees · 27/07/2023 13:28

A sounds like my ideal type.

Laid back doesn't necessarily mean lazy. I consider myself laid back and I'm a lone parent that does everything at home. I just don't see the point in stressing and living life at a million miles an hour.

I don't care about promotions and climbing the greasy pole either. Life is for enjoying. I'd rather have less money and less "stuff" than a stressful job with lots of responsibility. I guess I'm like that myself. I like to do my job and forget about it as soon as I walk out the door.

So really it depends what you want out of life and if you're compatible that way.

Worldgonecrazy · 27/07/2023 13:31

Whichever one can win any disagreement by taking off his shirt and rendering you weak with lust ……. even when you’re both in your 50s.

MisschiefMaker · 27/07/2023 15:53

I would go for the one who you will have interesting conversations with for the longest. You want someone fun.

If the above factor is neutral then probably B BUT does he snap at you when he gets annoyed? if so I would ditch him immediately.

IncompleteSenten · 27/07/2023 15:56

If I had to pick I'd choose b.

Tbh if you are having to make a list and weigh up pros and cons then neither are right for you.

Toss a coin. Heads A, tails B. See if while it's in the air you suddenly think I hope it's...
Sometimes we know but don't know that we know iyswim.

MardaNorton · 27/07/2023 15:57

Worldgonecrazy · 27/07/2023 13:31

Whichever one can win any disagreement by taking off his shirt and rendering you weak with lust ……. even when you’re both in your 50s.

While I'm loath to rain on the middle-aged lust parade, I'm curious to know how this would work in practice. 'Oh, now that I see your delicious pecs, of course I'll vote Tory!' or 'You win -- we'll go back to bloody Butlins instead of the south of France, all because you've flashed me your manly greying chest-rug...'

Strugglingtodomybest · 27/07/2023 16:04

Definitely A for me.

PimpMyFridge · 27/07/2023 16:16

Is there a C?

decaffonlypls · 27/07/2023 16:28

A sounds great apart from low income. Depends if you ever plan to have children really. Probably fine short term but not long term.
B not at all - temper over small things and stinginess are no no's and if this is him making an effort it will not bode well

WowIlikereallyhateyou · 27/07/2023 16:45

Nah, neither sound like catch of the century.
Stingy and uptight or cant be arsed.

AnkleWidget · 27/07/2023 16:48

Who do you share long term goals and passions with?

No point picking Man A if he wants to live on a farm and you’re a city girl.

ChocolateyCrunch · 27/07/2023 17:59

PimpMyFridge · 27/07/2023 16:16

Is there a C?

OP hasn't met option C yet 😉

PimpMyFridge · 30/07/2023 12:29

I know, pity that, was nudging her to find one. 🙃

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