Gaslighting (no not that gaslighting)

[Chiooh]

Anyone have any plumbed in gas lamps? I’m trying to talk DH around to having some outside.

I feel my husband is trying to gaslight me. I love him to bits and think he is great, but there’s times like tonight where he makes me feel like all arguements an are my fault.
Long story but we were putting my dads chairs in our car to borrow and he was getting stressed. He snapped at me a few times so I snapped back.
I then drove a bit erratically home and he said I was getting stressed because of my dad and I needed counselling. Whereas I was annoyed because he can be so rude to me.
Wind on to tonight without the children and he’s saying that I have issues with my parents’ separating. I don’t, I think it’s all him as he treats me terribly. They separated 3 years ago now. He was quite rude saying they both use me.
He has said I’ve changed recently but to be honest I’m fed up with his behaviour.
whenever I said something tonight he said I was so defensive and I need therapy. Any advice?