Desperately broody

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Have 2 children, 4 and 2. Both really bright (not a stealth boast) - 4 year old possibly on spectrum and really, really hard work. DH had the snip 2 weeks ago.

I'm so broody I feel ill. DH dead against it.

I can remember feeling upset when mine turned 2. Felt daft at the time but think it was just the end of babyhood hitting home.

If DH has had the snip that will be a huge factor in the way you are feeling right now.
I know some people crave a larger family and some just enjoy the baby time.

Sounds like you have 2 lovely children with maybe some tough times ahead along the way with the diagnostic pathway, school choices etc.
Try to live one day at a time. They are still quite young and time goes quickly so enjoy them.