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Was my answer annoying and AIBU

64 replies

Totalk · 19/07/2023 19:52

Yesterday, at dinner table, DS, DD and me are sat having our own bowl of soup noodles, Hubby comes along, sits to have dinner (his own bowl of soup noodles) and looks at me and asks, “Does anyone want more of this”. I replied, If you want to have the rice and curry in the kitchen (leftover from yesterday) you can have that. He then just stomps off and bangs the door behind him.
Today he comes home with allergy (never had them before) and I ask him, what he had eaten, and he replies some Kebabs (frozen supermarket) for packed lunch and “
MY NOODLES” (which he had yesterday night in addition to the leftover curry and rice)

Was I unreasonable to be offended by his behaviour last night and now
implying that, there was something wrong with the soup noodles I made?

OP posts:
MiladyBlue · 19/07/2023 20:02

Was he trying to give you his soup noodles or was he going for a second bowl and offering you both a top up? You offering him an extra meal was an odd response to his question really. He asked if you wanted more so I’d have thought the response Would be ‘no thank you’, or was it a PA ask?

Why is the allergy assumed to be from something he’s eaten rather than pollen/perfume/something he drank?

How’s communication between you generally?

Also I don’t really know what soup noodles look like as a meal but is it that he didn’t feel it’s a substantial meal for him? (Yes I know he can cook for himself!) Just asking as DH & teen DS are meat, potato and veg eaters so I know soup with noodles in wouldn’t touch the sides, despite them being trim.

CalistoNoSolo · 19/07/2023 20:05

You didn't answer his question, he's wet and soup noodles sound vile. Maybe start actually talking to each other in future though.

nasanas · 19/07/2023 20:08

What are soup noodles?

I can barely follow what happened, he didn't want your noodles but he ate them later?

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pickledandpuzzled · 19/07/2023 20:13

We love soup noodles- though we have quite a hearty version.

I think you have been misreading each other.

I've started checking what DH thinks I've asked, and clarifying what he's said, because it turns out we hardly ever say what we mean. Actually he doesn't listen and answers what he thinks I've asked instead of what I actually said.

minou123 · 19/07/2023 20:14

I'm lost.

Did he want a second helping of soup noodles last night, but you told he had to eat the left over rice and curry instead?

Is that why he stomped off, banging the door?

Amispringy · 19/07/2023 20:48

What's soup noodles

What is the issue here

Very confusing

Although I switched off at "hubby" Envy

Original poster
Totalk · 19/07/2023 21:02

To clarify, he came and sat on the table to have his share of soup noodles, in his bowl (already served on his side of the table). He looks at me and asks, does anyone want more of this? I was confused because he was asking about everyone but only looking at me?
I assumed he wanted the rice and curry instead and so to make a long conversation short suggested he could have the rice
and curry instead if he liked. Was I so horrible wrong to suggest that? Did he not over react to my response?

OP posts:
nasanas · 19/07/2023 21:03

Why does him offering you more mean he wants leftover curry?

How on earth do you get through the day having to communicate with people Confused

JorisBonson · 19/07/2023 21:04

I have no idea what's going on but would like some noodles now.

Talipesmum · 19/07/2023 21:07

Did he think it wasn’t enough and was implying he himself wanted more, or was he offering his portion up to everyone else because he didn’t like the look of it? I can’t see what you did wrong really, other than neither of you saying what you really meant.

discardedBox · 19/07/2023 21:07

What are soup noodles?

CatchHimDerry · 19/07/2023 21:08

No clue what’s going on either, but after soup noodles sounds great!

CatchHimDerry · 19/07/2023 21:08

*agree

RhosynBach · 19/07/2023 21:09

What are soup noodles?

soundsys · 19/07/2023 21:10

I think soup noodles is one of those things that the more you say it you start to doubt that soup noodles is a real thing...

What are soup noodles, please?

WimbledonPimms · 19/07/2023 21:14

Super noodles? Or pasta/noodles in soup?

Thepossibility · 19/07/2023 21:15

I think you mean noodle soup?
He sounds like he was trying to tell you he didn't approve of the dinner.
I'd be a bit annoyed that he ate it anyway so it was apparently fine, he just wanted to get a little jab in.

Tilllly · 19/07/2023 21:15

I googled

I've now got lots of noodle soup recipes but otherwise, none the wiser

OP, yes he over reacted
But honestly, is this the worst thing the two have you going on?
You're married. Speak to each other

VisionsOfSplendour · 19/07/2023 21:17

Also no idea what soup noodles are but your answer to the question doesn't make any sense but neither does the allergy thing so maybe you are not well suited

VimFuego101 · 19/07/2023 21:19

You answered a different question instead of the one he actually asked.

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SwedishEdith · 19/07/2023 21:20

I can't work out what's happened either but soup noodles don't sound like a very filling dinner. So I'm assuming he was still starving.

Scarydinosaurs · 19/07/2023 21:22

I think the problem is that instead of answering his question, you “made the conversation short”.

This is probably why he got cross - next time, try to have a more frank conversation, and if he doesn’t like what you’ve made for dinner, try to not take it personally.

Sometimes we argue about stupid things like what’s for dinner - and ignore the big actual problems that really need addressing.

CurlewKate · 19/07/2023 21:24

I don't understand the scenario here.

GameOverBoys · 19/07/2023 21:28

Thepossibility · 19/07/2023 21:15

I think you mean noodle soup?
He sounds like he was trying to tell you he didn't approve of the dinner.
I'd be a bit annoyed that he ate it anyway so it was apparently fine, he just wanted to get a little jab in.

I think she means Rahman or similar. Very popular all over Asia.

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