Was my answer annoying and AIBU

[Totalk]

Yesterday, at dinner table, DS, DD and me are sat having our own bowl of soup noodles, Hubby comes along, sits to have dinner (his own bowl of soup noodles) and looks at me and asks, “Does anyone want more of this”. I replied, If you want to have the rice and curry in the kitchen (leftover from yesterday) you can have that. He then just stomps off and bangs the door behind him.
Today he comes home with allergy (never had them before) and I ask him, what he had eaten, and he replies some Kebabs (frozen supermarket) for packed lunch and “
MY NOODLES” (which he had yesterday night in addition to the leftover curry and rice)

Was I unreasonable to be offended by his behaviour last night and now
implying that, there was something wrong with the soup noodles I made?

Asking if anyone wants anymore doesn't imply that he's starving does it, it sounds like a perfectly normal question if all the food hanf been eaten

We had some food left this evening and I asked exactly that question of my children, it would have been very odd if they'd suggested I eat yesterday's leftovers in response

Do you both have communication problems? Why was he asking if anyone wanted more noodles when he had only just sat down to eat his? Why did you assume he was asking for a completely different meal? What has the allergy, or indeed the next day kebab, to do with any of it?

But it sounds as if he hadn’t actually eaten his dinner yet?

I don't understand why him asking if anyone wanted more soup noodles made you assume he didn't want his and to offer him curry? That's not what he asked?

If my DP asked if anyone wanted more of what we were eating, it would be because he wanted more but didn't want to finish it if someone else wanted some too.

If he said to me 'does anyone want more X' I wouldn't just say 'there's left over Y in the fridge' If I did he'd interpret that as 'you're not allowed any more, go eat something else' which is a bit rude...

I'd interpret that as he wanted to top his bowl up before he started eating, if no one objected.

On reading it again I think youre possibly right which maybe means he was wondering how much there would be left for him once everyone else had had enough so still not implying he was starving or didn't lie the meal

We need the OP to come back and explain. It more clearly

If DH offered me his food, I would assume he didn't want it or didn't like it. I would probably ask which one.

You sound like my MIL. I can't ask a question without her assuming I actually mean something else. Because she never directly says what she wants, it's all smoke and mirrors, she thinks everyone else operates like that too and looks for hidden meanings in everything I say.

Anyway. If I've read it right, next time I'd just answer the question you're asked, not the question you're assuming you've been asked.

And stop repeating soup noodles!😁

"Anyone want more?" once we had empty plates, we use to ask if anyone wants seconds.
With a full plate infront of him, I'd assume he was offering his dinner out as he didn't want it.

Nothing wrong with noodle soup as a meal.

Surely the correct answer was no thanks or yes please?

I'm so confused.

He asked a question, you answered a completely different question that he didn't ask, he went away in a huff and ate his soup noodles (ramen???) and a curry... Now he's having allergies and is blaming the soup?

Are you both aliens pretending to be human?

Same, with some beef and an egg!

@Totalk what are soup noodles?

I think this is what happened

everyone except dh is sitting around the table having the soup noodles

dh walks in and sits down and says does anyone want any more. OP thinks he is is implying he doesnt want his soup noodles and is trying to give them to someone else as a top up to their existing soup noodle portions.

Rather than asking the dc, or getting into why he doesnt want his, she just offers him curry and rice as an alternative.

So maybe he just didnt fancy the soup noodles then, but after the rice and curry was happy to eat them, or maybe he just wanted to be a bit of a pain about what was served for dinner…. OP you could always ask him if he likes your soup noodle recipe and if he wants you to cook them again some day

Either way he wasnt polite, but life is short and I would move on

Exactly this!! also if I can add… he had seen me heating up the rice and curry, which I forgot to serve on the table.

Exactly this!! also if I can add… he had seen me heating up the rice and curry, which I forgot to serve on the table.

That's what I thought as well.

I suggest if this is your normal way of communicating then he's probably completely fed up with you. You answered a question with an unrelated answer. You were so unclear you had to rewrite your OP.

What I would have assumed from what he said was "does anyone want any more so I can get it for them as I'm about to sit down?"

I have never read the words “soup noodles” so many times in all my life.

So are soup noodles some.fancy ramen plus meat and veg delicacy or 25p cup a soup?

Why won’t you answer what soup noodles are OP?! Many of us are wondering…

Oh! I thought we could all search the web. Anyways I have mentioned it too many time already and it’s getting irritating for some. Posting a pic.

I’m envisioning a table of pink knitted Clangers eating Soup Dragon’s soup and blue string pudding.

To go back to "Was my answer annoying?"

I think your answer was confusing as it didn't answer the question that was asked.

Many of us are also confused if your dh was saying
"Does anyone want any more" meaning 'I don't really want these, can someone else eat them?' or if there were more in a central serving bowl or in the pan, and he was asking if he could have them as well, or have them for lunch tomorrow, if no-one else wanted them during this meal.

I am confused as to why you would heat up a left over meal when you weren't serving it though (the curry).

Do you both speak the same native language?