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morelippy · 18/07/2023 15:29

Papernotplastic · 18/07/2023 15:11

For the hard of thinking, no one thinks that what she did was a good thing. This is about what happens after that.

So killing a perfectly healthy viable baby doesn't require any sort of punishment.

Hmm

Freepo · 18/07/2023 15:30

morelippy · 18/07/2023 15:29

So killing a perfectly healthy viable baby doesn't require any sort of punishment.

Hmm

In fairness, a suspended sentence is a punishment

morelippy · 18/07/2023 15:34

A woefully inadequate one

drpet49 · 18/07/2023 15:34

Kingsparkle · 18/07/2023 15:14

The lack of compassion on this thread is quite sad. I can’t imagine this woman woke up one day at 33 weeks pregnant and thought I am going to have an abortion and put myself though a horrific birth at home alone for fun. Just the fact she turned herself in shows she was carrying tremendous guilt. I wonder if there was any pressure from her ex which contributed to her decision. I am sure I read she’d been in an abusive relationship. I don’t for a moment think she made the right decision but I have compassion for her in what was obviously a very difficult and scary time.

Are you for real? She knew very early on she was pregnant. She spent months, MONTHS doing nothing about it. She was more concerned about being found out there were two possible fathers and she didn’t know who was the father.

Brefugee · 18/07/2023 15:36

HelterSkelter123 · 18/07/2023 15:21

Yay! Intentionally causing the death of a viable foetus because you dont want your DP you want to reconcile with to find out you've been sleeping with more than one man, and facing no real consequences after killing your child and traumatising multiple witnesses is a victory for feminism!

please explain this post?
it makes zero sense.

Practically everyone on this thread thinks that what she did was awful, really really trully horrific.
But there is nuance, it has nothing to do with feminism as such, it revolves around the punishment, and her life and the lives of her children from now on. A custodial sentence wasn't appropriate in this case and it's good the judge has seen that and made a correction.

It does have to do with feminism in that we see how differently women are treated within the justice system according to their race class and vs how men are treated. There are several dozen studies on that already. It also has to do with feminism as we see how harshly she is judged by some people with no acknowledgement of the situation she was in. It also has to do with feminism because (and i am aware the entire events weren't within lockdown) of the way women as a class were impacted negatively by the covid restrictions.

TorviShieldMaiden · 18/07/2023 15:36

You aren’t pro choice if you put any limits on it, except the choice of the woman.

As early as possible, as late as necessary, for whatever reason.

You can actually access abortion after 24 weeks for medical reasons.

morelippy · 18/07/2023 15:40

TorviShieldMaiden · 18/07/2023 15:36

You aren’t pro choice if you put any limits on it, except the choice of the woman.

As early as possible, as late as necessary, for whatever reason.

You can actually access abortion after 24 weeks for medical reasons.

Are you suggesting it would be ok to choose to abort a child right up to term, if that was a woman's 'choice'?

Kingsparkle · 18/07/2023 15:41

The idea that you believe this woman did something wrong but also believe prison is not the best place for her can coexist. It doesn’t mean you condone her actions or not care about the baby.

I don’t understand this obsession with prison as a punishment being the best option. Nowhere around the world does a justice system focused on punishment help either offenders or society at large. America has one of the highest prison populations and one of the highest crime and reoffending rates.

It’s just this archaic idea that we must make people suffer for their mistakes to teach them a lesson but that is proven not to work. It doesn’t work on toddlers or teens or adults. Countries that focus on the underlying causes of crime and rehabilitation have much much lower reoffending rates but that is too nuanced for many.

Brefugee · 18/07/2023 15:42

morelippy · 18/07/2023 15:40

Are you suggesting it would be ok to choose to abort a child right up to term, if that was a woman's 'choice'?

are you ok forcing anyone to birth a child?

YetMoreNewBeginnings · 18/07/2023 15:43

It’s interesting that the court of appeal have said there was "exceptionally strong mitigation" yet some people on this thread think they know better, despite not knowing all the details the judges had.

morelippy · 18/07/2023 15:43

I need to step away from this post.

Kingsparkle · 18/07/2023 15:44

drpet49 · 18/07/2023 15:34

Are you for real? She knew very early on she was pregnant. She spent months, MONTHS doing nothing about it. She was more concerned about being found out there were two possible fathers and she didn’t know who was the father.

Yes I am for real. Do you know her? Are you intimately aware of what was going on in her head. Her living situation at the time? The exact thought process that led to her decision? Life is not so black and white, try to see the shades of grey from time to time.

Kingsparkle · 18/07/2023 15:45

YetMoreNewBeginnings · 18/07/2023 15:43

It’s interesting that the court of appeal have said there was "exceptionally strong mitigation" yet some people on this thread think they know better, despite not knowing all the details the judges had.

Well said. People need to put down their pitchforks.

KeyWorker · 18/07/2023 15:46

morelippy · 18/07/2023 15:40

Are you suggesting it would be ok to choose to abort a child right up to term, if that was a woman's 'choice'?

Yes.

The alternative is being forced to carry to term a pregnancy that’s not wanted.

Cattenberg · 18/07/2023 15:51

The “forced birth” argument really doesn’t apply in this case, as the baby was old enough to survive outside the uterus.

Brefugee · 18/07/2023 15:57

we were talking in general terms. Forced birth? not on my watch

Freepo · 18/07/2023 16:04

Brefugee · 18/07/2023 15:42

are you ok forcing anyone to birth a child?

I don’t get this. She would have had to give birth whether the baby was living or dead.

Has she said she didn’t want to be pregnant anymore and asked for an induction obviously that would be totally different, and in principle that should be accommodated. Doesn’t mean a healthy 34 week old has to die.

Kingsparkle · 18/07/2023 16:12

I agree that practically at 33 weeks you are giving birth either way. To me that lends even more weight to the theory that she was not thinking clearly or rationally and needed support.

@Brefugee has already said they are speaking in more general terms however and I agree with them.

FinallyLeavingDenver · 18/07/2023 16:15

I was glad to read this decision had been made. Prison was never appropriate.

ashesopera · 18/07/2023 16:20

I agree that practically at 33 weeks you are giving birth either way. To me that lends even more weight to the theory that she was not thinking clearly or rationally and needed support.

Absolutely!

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nonman · 18/07/2023 16:23

I absolutely support a woman’s right to choose, as soon as possible as late as necessary. And this woman knew it was necessary for her.

HellonHeels · 18/07/2023 16:27

EightChalk · 18/07/2023 12:57

I can't agree with a criminal conviction for taking action against the development of a foetus inside your body. Rationally I can accept the argument that abortion shouldn't be allowed once it's viable, but emotionally I can't accept the idea that you could have a baby growing inside your own body and not be allowed to stop that, regardless of how far along the pregnancy is. Thinking both rationally and emotionally, for the sake of her other children, the right decision was made in this case to reduce her sentence.

This!

AuntieJune · 18/07/2023 16:31

stbrandonsboat · 18/07/2023 11:40

Unsurprising. According to most people, the unborn aren't actually human. Quite why the journey of a few inches down the birth canal and a lungful of air makes such a difference to the make up of a being is beyond me, but there you go.

@stbrandonsboat because the alternative is to grant personhood to a person who is within another person's body.

Which leads to the nonsense you have in the us with criminal charges for using drugs in pregnancy, etc.

And when does that personhood begin? Do you decide it's a person at conception? Before you even know you're pregnant? A huge proportion of pregnancies miscarry very early without the woman knowing she's pregnant, what about that?

You can't give equal personhood to a being that is wholly dependent on someone else. Because that would overrule a woman's right to bodily autonomy.

Eg imagine being pregnant, being diagnosed with cancer and being told you couldn't treat it because it would harm the baby.

FOJN · 18/07/2023 16:31

Thinking that there should be some limits applied to when you can have a termination because you do not want a baby is not supporting forced birthing.

There is nothing necessary about waiting until you are 39+6 to have a termination because you do not want to have a child. No one in their right mind would choose to wait until foeticide becomes part of the termination process so the no time limits/for any reason argument is moot but it does arm the anti choice campaigners with a case that the majority of the population supports.

There is very little public support for late term abortion except on medical grounds and even less demand so why even try to make the argument for it?

The women who find themselves having late term abortions are usually devastated they have had to make that decision either to protect their own health or because of foetal abnormalities incompatible with life. It's essential we protect their right to access that care and not undermine it by making unnecessary arguments for no limits/any reason access.