Do you get drunk in front of your children?

[HugoDarracott]

I know drinking and children can be contentious but I'm wondering what is generally considered acceptable. Is drinking alcohol in front of children ok? Is it ok to get properly drunk? as in slurred speech, and a bit wobbly. Not talking very small children where their safety might be an issue but older primary age or secondary. So more about the example you're setting to them.

I've been wondering the same and have actually provided wine as an option for any adults at all the kids parties I've hosted. Most had a glass of two. No one got drunk.

God yes. But I'm a "good" drinker, no changes to my volume or temper. DP is the same. Would be different if one of us had a tendency to be shouty/slurry/otherwise in any way unsettling. Love a kitchen disco with the DC after a couple of glasses of wine. That said, I've never hit my drunkenness peak in front of them because: 1) they go to bed at 7 and 2) hungover parenting is not fun.

Friends adopted a girl from a family with a tricky relationship with booze to say the least - could be triggered by the smell or sight of it, so none of us has a drop when she's around quite rightly

Sometimes yes but not like slurring words, or falling over, or vomiting drunk and usually only on an occasion like a wedding or new year or something although they see me have a glass of wine fairly frequently. I really don't think it is a big deal as long as there is a designated adult or as long as everyone is completely capable of responding to an emergency and noone is sloppy drunk

No. Never.

The misery as a young child feeling responsible for my younger siblings with piss head parents not in any fucking state to do anything if there was an emergency or to even make sure we were fed, safe, in bed at a decent hour because of their social drunkenness is a situation that I will not inflict on my children.

The complete disengagement of a parent throwing back drinks, socialising and laughing with people for hours into the night over and above our needs has etched deeply in my mind.

The utter utter disgust at smelling alcohol on the breath of a swaying, incoherent parent who I knew could do absolutely nothing to save or protect us should the need arise is unforgivably selfish in my eyes I’m afraid.

Yes, I have got drunk around my teenage children (youngest 14). It's not something I make a habit of, but there are times when I go out with my friend for lunch and a drink and they are still up when I get home. They have been at NYE family party where we were drinking, or other family parties etc.

I didn't drink when they were young- not because of them, it just wasn't something I enjoyed until I reached my late 30s.

No, I can’t think of a time actually although obvs we have had NYEs that have been boozy or been to weddings. But the kids are generally not around for bigger events or in bed or have a sitter.
And we don’t make a habit of getting wrecked.
onenof the advantages of being older parents!