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Who should get the double bed?

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deliciouslooking · 17/07/2023 09:40

Going on holiday with my brother and family at the end of August. Renting a big house in the highlands.

We have one child, he has three. Rented a large house just so each of ‘kids’ have a room each. There are three bedrooms with a single bed and one with a small double. Two other rooms are ‘girls bedrooms’ so my nieces are happy to have.

Our son is the eldest (22). But his cousin is taller than him at 6ft 2 but (16), when our son is 6ft. Who should get the double bed?

Son doesn’t seem that bothered. But tall cousin has demanded that he get the double bed because he is the tallest. Brother has stated that his son will be getting the double bed.

Out of principle dh thinks our son should say he wants the double bed as he is the eldest. Plus there isn’t much in the height, and both beds are same length.

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thatsn0tmyname · 17/07/2023 17:57

Draw lots for it.

WhysSheabitch · 17/07/2023 18:04

This reminds me of the time years and years ago when I was 18 and pregnant and we had to go and visit my grandparents (me , my narcissistic mother and golden child sister who was 14 at the time ). We arrived and got shown our room - a single bed and a half deflated blow up mattress ( had a slow puncture somewhere)
DM said dsis was having the bed. When I objected as I was 7 months pregnant I was told that wasn’t a reason and in fact was more of a reason that I didn’t get it to show me the error of my ways !!! My GM overheard and came in and said that I shouldn’t be dictating to the whole family and that I was selfish and of course little dsis needed the bed as she got a bit car sick on the way 🙄

I then decided to try and walk home (had been a 50 min drive) I managed 20 mins then got a taxi to a station and got a train home. It was always referred to as the holiday that I ruined 😂😂

Sennelier1 · 17/07/2023 18:35

I wonder why you even want to share a holiday with your brother and his family, let alone in the same house.

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Lessonsinbiology · 17/07/2023 18:38

How is the payment of the rental being divided up. Hope your brother is paying 5/8ths of the rental. Even then it doesn't give him the right to demand the bedroom.

WedTheBed · 17/07/2023 18:39

The entitlement of the teenager and his dad would bother me too, demanding and making decisions without conferring first..

However since your DS is mature enough not to care then to save falling a out I would just agree, just bitch and laugh about it when you’re back home 😂

Purpleturtle45 · 17/07/2023 18:42

Are both families paying an equal amount?

Shinyandnew1 · 17/07/2023 18:43

if your brother and his son are always like this, more fool you for planning to holiday with them.

This!

Zippedydodah · 17/07/2023 18:50

Shinyandnew1 · 17/07/2023 18:43

if your brother and his son are always like this, more fool you for planning to holiday with them.

This!

Absolutely!
🙄

rockpoolingtogether · 17/07/2023 19:18

Get a grip- your son doesn't care!

Aquamarine1029 · 17/07/2023 19:25

Your brother sounds like a real prick.

justanothermanicmonday1 · 17/07/2023 19:41

Who really cares. If your son isn't bothered then let the taller one have it. No big deal. Problem solved.

FYI your brother sounds lovely 🥴

TheBerry · 17/07/2023 19:47

Don’t get these responses.

Your son is happy to have the smaller bed.

His cousin wants the other bed.

Great! Everyone’s happy. Sorted.

EmeraldFox · 17/07/2023 19:52

deliciouslooking · 17/07/2023 09:40

Going on holiday with my brother and family at the end of August. Renting a big house in the highlands.

We have one child, he has three. Rented a large house just so each of ‘kids’ have a room each. There are three bedrooms with a single bed and one with a small double. Two other rooms are ‘girls bedrooms’ so my nieces are happy to have.

Our son is the eldest (22). But his cousin is taller than him at 6ft 2 but (16), when our son is 6ft. Who should get the double bed?

Son doesn’t seem that bothered. But tall cousin has demanded that he get the double bed because he is the tallest. Brother has stated that his son will be getting the double bed.

Out of principle dh thinks our son should say he wants the double bed as he is the eldest. Plus there isn’t much in the height, and both beds are same length.

Unless the 6ft man is paying towards the stay then he should be treated the same as the 6ft 2 lad. The taller bloke gets the bigger bed.

AmyOscar · 17/07/2023 21:36

'Son doesn’t seem that bothered.'

... there's your answer.

Follow your son's example and not your brother's. If you (or anyone in your family) make a fuss about it you are simply mirroring your brother's behaviour and behaving in exactly the same way. Yes your brother sounds a bit bossy but rise above it and be the laid back one - happy in the knowledge that you are not being petty. If he is generally demanding/bossy on holiday, then think twice about going with him next time, but otherwise let it go, this really is a tiny detail - focus on the fun stuff instead!

Ginola2345 · 17/07/2023 21:45

My son is 6ft 6’ and can manage to curl up and sleep in a single for the odd few nights away although if it had a footboard he would struggle.

Your brother and nephew are both behaving like entitled pillocks. The older nephew should get the double but if your son isn’t bothered I would let it go or suggest they toss a coin for the double.

TheWomanTheyCallJayne · 17/07/2023 23:20

Wonder if they think ops husband is behaving just as badly as she thinks they are.
Only one coming out of this well is op’s son.

However, I would allow the taller one to have it. It really can make all the difference to comfort. If you’re only an inch shorter than the bed then either you can’t use a pillow properly or your feet hang off the end.

TheModHatter · 17/07/2023 23:58

Oh FFS, who cares, all the 22 year olds I know are sleeping on each other’s floors and sofas and in tiny tents on thin mats at festivals. Not having their middle aged parents squabbling over beds in a holiday house.

Geordiebabe85 · 18/07/2023 08:19

Rock, paper, scissors

EAEK114 · 18/07/2023 10:20

Look who’s turned up for an argument.

EAEK114 · 18/07/2023 10:21

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 17/07/2023 10:05

What is a ‘girls bedroom’?

Look who’s turned up for an argument.

Littlefish · 18/07/2023 10:42

All the 'kids' names go in a hat.

The room numbers go in a different hat.

Pot luck for all.

SparklesTheSoupDragon · 18/07/2023 10:48

Yes, rock, paper, scissors surely should be the decider? Or the good old fashioned “who can run from the car faster & bagsy the double bed/best room” which still seems to be the method of choice to sort out this type of thing between DH and his brother at the age of 38.

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 18/07/2023 14:41

Look who’s turned up for an argument.

It’s a genuine question. I can’t help it if your critical thinking skills aren’t well enough developed to understand why it’s an important question as well 🤷🏼‍♀️

Underestimated4 · 18/07/2023 18:48

Your sons an adult therefore he should get the bed.

toomuchlaundry · 18/07/2023 18:52

Why aren’t the girls in the equation? Where are parents sleeping?