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Would you have a couple of glasses of wine if your dc had a friend sleep over?

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BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 15/07/2023 21:25

Dc (year 7) asked a friend to sleep over quite last minute today. Said yes of course. But usually dh and I would have a couple of glasses of wine with a movie on a Saturday night.

I've left the wine in the fridge as I'm just not sure what the "rules" are on this!

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entitledparents · 16/07/2023 00:15

@AP5Diva no the parents.
I'd normally check myself but it's not uncommon for Yr7/8/9 DC to arrange sleepovers and the host parents to be out until later on. They may go out themselves on the basis that their Y7 isn't home alone

TastesLikeStrawberriesOnASummerEvening · 16/07/2023 00:16

AP5Diva · 16/07/2023 00:12

You had no idea if your 12yr old came home on a night? And that’s somehow brag-worthy to sober shame other parents? 🫤

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That's not what was said at all, your comprehension skills are lacking, good job you don't drink...

AP5Diva · 16/07/2023 00:19

TastesLikeStrawberriesOnASummerEvening · 16/07/2023 00:16

That's not what was said at all, your comprehension skills are lacking, good job you don't drink...

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Year 7/12yrs old is high school age in the U.K.
Dont know what planet you are on, as that is definitely what was implied by “no clue if they are even home” [during a sleepover]

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AP5Diva · 16/07/2023 00:21

entitledparents · 16/07/2023 00:15

@AP5Diva no the parents.
I'd normally check myself but it's not uncommon for Yr7/8/9 DC to arrange sleepovers and the host parents to be out until later on. They may go out themselves on the basis that their Y7 isn't home alone

That’s not filling me with confidence. 12yr olds with no parental supervision at night?

Illegallyblonder · 16/07/2023 00:22

I’d drink as much as I wanted. Wouldn’t get pissed but we are taking tweens not newborns.

FFSwhatisthis · 16/07/2023 00:24

AP5Diva · 15/07/2023 22:14

Sounds like yours is the plain sailing life if you are not aware of the chaos factor.

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@AP5Diva
ive no idea why you're on about euther. Chaos Factor?

maybe some of us can handle life better than others. One 12yo child staying the night -what a lot of fuss over nothing.

@BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz over the age of 4/5/6 or the child never having done a sleepover before it wouldn't occur to me not to if there's no particular reason to abstain.

WildUnchartedWaters · 16/07/2023 00:28

Illegallyblonder · 16/07/2023 00:22

I’d drink as much as I wanted. Wouldn’t get pissed but we are taking tweens not newborns.

So you wouldnt drink as much as you wanted.

FFSwhatisthis · 16/07/2023 00:29

Oatcookies · 15/07/2023 23:34

If my child has a friend to sleepover I don’t drink wine personally. Just in case x

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@Oatcookies

'just in case'

just in case of what?

AP5Diva · 16/07/2023 00:30

FFSwhatisthis · 16/07/2023 00:24

@AP5Diva
ive no idea why you're on about euther. Chaos Factor?

maybe some of us can handle life better than others. One 12yo child staying the night -what a lot of fuss over nothing.

@BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz over the age of 4/5/6 or the child never having done a sleepover before it wouldn't occur to me not to if there's no particular reason to abstain.

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What fuss? I merely prefer to be sober when minding someone else’s child during a sleepover. If it’s “a lot of fuss” for you to avoid wine on the odd sleepover weekend, then you may have an unhealthy relationship with alcohol.
Which would indicate you’re not better at handling life if you need a buzz to cope with one extra 12yr old under your roof for a night.

CrazyArmadilloLady · 16/07/2023 00:32

WildUnchartedWaters · 16/07/2023 00:28

So you wouldnt drink as much as you wanted.

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Where did she say she wanted to get pissed….?

Drinking ‘as much as you (generic) want’ doesn’t have to equate to getting pissed….?

Probably ‘as much as she wants’ is 1 or 2 glasses….?

Oatcookies · 16/07/2023 00:33

Just incase the kid needs dropping back, just incase of an emergency. I wouldn’t feel comfortable having a drink whilst looking after someone else’s kid x

pinkyredrose · 16/07/2023 00:46

AP5Diva · 15/07/2023 22:58

I was simply referring to the fact that a sleepover can have random, unpredictable behavioural elements to it. Your child will not stick to their routine, nor will the visiting child.

Like flour snow angels on the kitchen floor & nail Polish spilled on carpet, or as a pp stated sleeping in the cat bed at 6am, or deciding to go star gazing and sneak out at 3am, or thinking it’s a good idea to take a bubble Bath while playing music on a charging phone sat on the side of the tub. Or scaring each other silly by watching horror films. Two 12yr olds can get up to a lot if you’re not paying attention.

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They're 12 not 5.

WildUnchartedWaters · 16/07/2023 01:03

pinkyredrose · 16/07/2023 00:46

They're 12 not 5.

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5 is easier if you actually read the post.

WildUnchartedWaters · 16/07/2023 01:04

CrazyArmadilloLady · 16/07/2023 00:32

Where did she say she wanted to get pissed….?

Drinking ‘as much as you (generic) want’ doesn’t have to equate to getting pissed….?

Probably ‘as much as she wants’ is 1 or 2 glasses….?

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Is it? Says who?

WildUnchartedWaters · 16/07/2023 01:05

FFSwhatisthis · 16/07/2023 00:29

@Oatcookies

'just in case'

just in case of what?

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In case the child was injured, I'll...
You are being obtuse.

CallieQ · 16/07/2023 01:09

Of course it's fine to have a couple of glasses 🙄

Oatcookies · 16/07/2023 01:11

Sorry to be a fun kill. But I wouldn’t have a drink if I’m looking after someone else’s children.. I would expect the same.

CrazyArmadilloLady · 16/07/2023 01:12

WildUnchartedWaters · 16/07/2023 01:04

Is it? Says who?

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Says the person you’re quoting, of course.

user1477391263 · 16/07/2023 01:30

We have no car and don't drive. We'd get a taxi if there was a problem.

DogbertMcDogglesworth · 16/07/2023 03:51

I wouldn't drink it, but only because I dislike wine.
I would crack open the vodka though.

PomTiddlyPomPom · 16/07/2023 07:07

We seem to have kids here most weekends at the moment. I drink what I fancy (wouldn't be off my head pissed but definitely couldn't drive).
The other parents I know are the same.

Riapia · 16/07/2023 07:48

With any luck the word will get round about you having wine and you’ll get no more requests for sleep-overs.
Win win.
😉😁😁😂

Beezknees · 16/07/2023 08:24

Yeah, I would. I'm a non driver so I wouldn't be driving even if I was stone cold sober.

Crunchymum · 16/07/2023 08:31

All these emergencies.

Where do you all live???

I don't drink so its moot but I'd have no problem with the parents having a few glass of wine if they had my DC for a sleep over.

doorstopper123 · 16/07/2023 08:35

Having a glass of wine at the weekend is second nature to me. It's a glass of wine, not heroin!

I wouldn't think 12 year olds need looking after! They're not toddlers

What are the chances they need driving home or to hospital?

Really quite low

Some of the responses here are very OTT

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