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Wishing I could be invited to a wedding

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beeonmybonnett · 09/07/2023 23:18

I haven’t been to a wedding since before covid and I have to say I wish I could just receive an invite to one.

they are so exciting. I love seeing everybody dressed to the nines and I love sitting in the audience watching the couple say their vows.

Although I think my most favourite part is the Reception when everybody is up on the dance floor dancing to the music the DJ is playing. What’s everybody’s favourite song to dance to at a wedding?

hopefully somebody I know will decide to get married and invite me to their wedding soon! Anyone else really want to go to one or is it just me?

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MrsMiddleMother · 10/07/2023 22:54

Yes me too! I've only been to 3 weddings, including my own! Would love to go to another one

TheresBoozeInTheBlender · 10/07/2023 22:58

Of the last 4 I went to only one couple are still together. One tolerate each other but hardly speak and the others absolutely hate each other. Cost a bloody fortune too.

CarPour · 10/07/2023 23:00

I love weddings too!

They are exciting because you get to see and chat to people you probably normally wouldn't day to day. You get to dance and have fun, you get to dress up. Wedding discos are just more fun and silly than a night out and it's just fun.

Honestly people can be such twats about weddings. There's nothing worse than a misery guts who shits on other people's fun

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Forgottenmypasswordagain · 11/07/2023 03:02

Nothing wrong with enjoying a wedding. :)

healthadvice123 · 11/07/2023 03:10

Have got 2 weddings this year and both evening invites which i so much prefer.
one is friends we haven’t actually seen for a while so will be a nice change and other family and a good opportunity tp catch ip. Also hive me chance to wear some nice dresses I bought for holiday and never got the chance to actually wear

EversoDetermined · 11/07/2023 08:25

Yes, I like an evening only invitation too, it's a shame to miss the ceremony but far better than not being invited at all and I totally understand that couples can choose to invite closer friends and family to the daytime part, but on MN it seems to be widely regarded as an insult.

Lindy2 · 11/07/2023 08:49

I enjoy a good wedding. We're at an age where we only get the very occassional invitation now and that's generally for friends getting married for a second time.

It will be when the children get to the stage of getting married that there will be wedding invitations again.

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beeonmybonnett · 11/07/2023 10:31

Has anyone been to a wedding were there has been a big brawl?

Not sure how many of you (if any!) are Corrie fans, but you might remember that at Gemma and Chesney’s recent wedding, Gemma’s mother had a barney with some other woman (can’t remember her name).

Go on, give me a laugh 😆

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Darkmodeison · 11/07/2023 10:37

They're generally far too long but if you're close to the couple can be lovely. I've not been to that many, I've got lots of friends now but they're either all single or were married before we met so I do feel like I've missed out on all that wedding 'season' business

pleasestopmessagingme · 11/07/2023 10:39

beeonmybonnett · 10/07/2023 00:52

I think it’s depressing that I’ve been to more funerals in the last few years than I have weddings!

That comes with age....

BogRollBOGOF · 11/07/2023 12:57

I love weddings. Dressing up, catching up with family/ friends, dancing.

The last 2 I've been to in the past 6 years were both small registry office ceremonies. One had a lovely meal after but was done by 5pm, the other was ceremony only because of the uncertainties of Covid rules. They were both lovely occasions, but I'd love to go to a big wedding again. None on the horizon though. I think the next likely round is nephews/ nieces in 10-15 years.

I'm at a funeral stage of life at the moment. 4 funerals in 18 months is crap.

Keykat · 11/07/2023 13:07

I really like close family weddings. It's a chance to see all the cousins, out laws and in laws, aunties uncles, some great neighbours etc. all in the one place!

However, the weddings of friends is a bit different (for me) as often I don't know many of the other guests, and honestly there is nothing worse than being seated at a table of 8 and having to make small talk for hours with people you don't have anything in common with! If lucky might be seated next to a mutual friend, but it doesn't always work out that way. Same goes for weddings of friends of DP etc. But I try, and it can be hard work and a very long day.

I'd say if you got an honest answer from most people, it would be yes, weddings are great, but they can be hard work and expensive gigs for guests too.

MoltenLasagne · 11/07/2023 13:38

I love a wedding. My favourite is a family wedding because, quite selfishly, I enjoy seeing extended family that we live too far away from to see regularly. There's something so joyful about seeing all the kids and elderly relatives together and celebrating the joining of two families.

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beeonmybonnett · 11/07/2023 16:19

Keykat · 11/07/2023 13:07

I really like close family weddings. It's a chance to see all the cousins, out laws and in laws, aunties uncles, some great neighbours etc. all in the one place!

However, the weddings of friends is a bit different (for me) as often I don't know many of the other guests, and honestly there is nothing worse than being seated at a table of 8 and having to make small talk for hours with people you don't have anything in common with! If lucky might be seated next to a mutual friend, but it doesn't always work out that way. Same goes for weddings of friends of DP etc. But I try, and it can be hard work and a very long day.

I'd say if you got an honest answer from most people, it would be yes, weddings are great, but they can be hard work and expensive gigs for guests too.

Yes i totally agree with you re the point about going to friend’s weddings and not sitting beside people you know.

I’m introverted so I find those things difficult. There is only so much conversation I can make then I don’t know what to talk about! So totally agree with that.

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WillowtreeHouse · 11/07/2023 17:25

I was so disappointed with the last wedding I was at because hardly anyone had dressed really fancy. There were about half a dozen of us 'wedding' appropriate (in my view) and the rest were relatively casual. Weddings are fancy! 😁

Sceptre86 · 11/07/2023 19:55

I love a wedding. I love the multiple outfits (asian weddings) jewellery, music, food, seeing family and catching up.

mainbrochus · 11/07/2023 19:59

@beeonmybonnett go to Abba Voyage and make sure you go to the Snoozebox before / after. It is JUST like a wedding party.

everyone is happy and dressed up, people of all ages, some people chatting. It’s ace.

obv helps if you like Abba but even if not I think it would be fun

LlynTegid · 11/07/2023 20:09

I've not been to one and I am not missing them at all. I admire couples who have a simple wedding with just a few people, especially if they are of no real religious belief. Two couples I know who did this (and were not 'shotgun' weddings) have been together over 20 years.

QueenBitch666 · 11/07/2023 23:54

Tighginn · 10/07/2023 00:59

I see weddings in the same light as I see professional footballers, the most disgusting waste of money imaginable.

Absolutely spot on. Both are equally abhorrent

Waffle78 · 12/07/2023 05:49

Not me personally but there was a bride and mother in law arested at a local hotel from outside the area for fighting. I know they spent the night in the cell's and had to return for court. But we never got an update on what was said in court.

The2023 · 12/07/2023 05:58

I love a wedding too and haven’t been to one for ages. A couple of my friends are getting married next year and I can’t wait.

BeautifulWar · 12/07/2023 05:59

Jesus no, they are tedious affairs!

Go to a bar with live music, a club or even a ball if you want to get dressed up and party!

maimeo · 12/07/2023 07:33

I'm surprised no one has mentioned the speeches at wedding - unfortunately now my least favourite part of the day. Don't get me wrong, I appreciate a well crafted speech - warm, witty, not too short and definitely not too long, one or two short anecdotes about the bride or groom, thanking all the right people, proposing a toast, and then shut up and sit down! Three or four speeches at the most, and, most importantly, advise each which angle to cover so they don't all repeat each other!!
Unfortunately nowadays, in my experience, the speeches can take up to 1.5 hours and give carte blanche to far too many fools to commandeer the microphone and bore guests silly!!
Ah, but yes, I love weddings mostly!!

caringcarer · 12/07/2023 08:18

beeonmybonnett · 10/07/2023 00:52

I think it’s depressing that I’ve been to more funerals in the last few years than I have weddings!

I was just thinking the same. All my friends are already married.

WhatNoRaisins · 12/07/2023 10:53

For me it's more the chance to have a proper get together with people alongside the dressing up and nice event. Call me a cow but I'd probably decline a wedding where I didn't know anyone else and I'd hate it if they had a "mix them up" seating plan.

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