Do your adult sons text you much?

[upandmumming]

My mum and I text each other randomly, pointless little things really, not full conversations but just regular back and forth, sharing what we're doing or a random thought. I know a few friends do similar with their mums.

I'm a mum of boys, and I wonder if it's the little things like this I perhaps won't get? I don't want my kids to be glued to me my whole life, but it'd be nice to remain close. They are currently very little and in the centre of their entire universe so the thought of them one day being like my husband and barely communicating with their mum makes me a bit weepy!

No!! However, I drop them messages to arrange meet ups and they always get back pronto. They don't enjoy the type of random, constant communication my daughter & I engage in.

My adult son calls me most evenings when he’s driving home from work mainly to moan .

I’m a woman and don’t text my mum like that. I wouldn’t assume if you had a girl they would text you or if you had a boy they wouldn’t.

My adult son messages daily, calls maybe once or twice a week, and visits every couple of weeks (work dependent) and is usually here for birthdays, Xmas etc.

I rarely text my mum. DH (and I) text his parents more than I speak to mine.

I don't think it depends on you having boys or girls. I talk to my mum a couple of times a month, my partner calls his nearly every day for a chat.

I have 2 adult DSs The older one (30) calls me on his way to work and on his way home. Calls his GF first though.
The younger ( 23) texts “hello” most mornings and sometimes calls at random times usually for a specific reason.

My ds doesn't but my dil texts me often. We have quite long chats.

Mine aren't adults yet, but my brother never texts my mum and rarely answers the phone. She has to go through his partner to find anything out/plan things but will get the occasional text message off him when he's poorly and needs sympathy. 😂

Our 25 year old son calls 3 or 4 times a week and we see him about every 6 weeks (live 100 miles apart)

Adult son WhatsApps and calls much more than adult DD, actually. They both WhatsApp their younger (primary aged) siblings a lot, though.

My brother pops in to see my mum for a few hours a week

I rarely see her as I live abroad

We text/call her the same amount I'd say.

My son usually texts a couple of times a week, but always on a Saturday as he calls in for lunch via the chip shop, so he always texts to tell me to get the bread buttered and the tea made as he's just setting off.
The daughter is hit and miss. Sometimes she'll message every day for a week, then she might not message at all for a couple of weeks or so, depending on how busy she is.

I'm a woman and I text my mum about twice a month and call her even less often. It's not that we don't get on, I just don't do texts and calls. My daughter is only tiny rn but I can't imagine it being any different with her when she's an adult - I just don't text people much except to arrange a meetup. I prefer to meet and chat in person.

So I don't think it's a son/daughter thing. More a personality/habit thing.

My sister used to call my mum very often for long rants and victimhood-whinings and reflections on the state of society/the economy/world affairs and requests for money prefaced with long-winded explanations (they're now LC by my sister's choice). So my mum doesn't mind that I don't call her much, it could be worse!

I don't think it's a boy/girl thing. My son calls me a couple of times a week and messages every day while he's working. We talk about what we're watching on TV, what we're working on (both freelance) and just general chat. When he was single he called me every day on his way home from uni. Now he's married he saves his conversation for his wife!

I speak to my mum once or twice a week usually, unless there's anything specific going on.

My husband speaks to his mum every single day, without fail.

I wonder what the hell they find to talk about tbh!

ds is better than dd, she would only message to make arrangements. Ds asks me how I am.

No they don't (I am mum to 2 DS in early twenties). But they do let me know they are ok, or they send a pic of something. I honestly actively planned to not be so invested in them (so took further training and plan to slightly change my field of work) so I still feel fulfilled as I am not expecting lots of comms/chat.

In some way it's great they seem well adjusted and independent adults, but I do miss them.

One messages most days, the other probably a few times a week

I speak to my Mum every day and my brother gets in touch very rarely and it's always when he wants something.

Dh only contacts his parents when I remind him to whereas his two sisters speak to them and visit them at least twice a week.

It's not that dh doesn't love his parents he just works a lot so is tired when he gets home then at weekends we either go to our caravan or have a lazy one at home.

My adult sons call me most days just for a chat. I like it.

This worries me as a mum to a baby boy. I text my mum every day all throughout the day and I’ll be so sad if my son doesn’t message me when he’s grown up 😭. My sister doesn’t message my mum anywhere near as much as me and often takes days to respond so nothing would be guaranteed with a daughter either.

We have a WhatsApp group between me, DH, DS and DS's partner . Between us there is some communication each day . However , DS is fairly young still (early 20s) and lives fairly close so we tend to see each other once or twice a week as well - mainly DS coming over to watch sports with his dad . I imagine I would see him less if it wasn't for this .

No, he's shockingly bad but his gf makes up for it so we know he's still alive!

We have a family chat and that works well. Everyone stays in touch and no one is left behind!