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What's your opinion on women who snog men on nights out?

93 replies

idontcarewhatanyonesaysithinkyourealright · 05/07/2023 13:03

Honest opinion.

I've not done this in a good while but am single and wondering is it still acceptable? Was it ever?

It was normal when I was growing up. But I grew up in a pretty scummy area.

I'm 42 now so say you saw a woman of that age snogging in a bar - what would you think?

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MyMachineAndMe · 05/07/2023 16:31

We used to have competitions to see who could snog the most blokes and I remember one occasion when I snogged (and only snogged) 2 blokes at the same time. I'm defo glad that this was back in the 90s when there was no such thing as camera phones!!

I'd snog dh in a nightclub now, despite us being in our 40s, but it would feel a bit strange in a normal pub or a cafe or the middle of tesco's!

FortheBeautyoftheEarth · 05/07/2023 16:31

Used to do this a lot when younger. Lol, married now, so wouldn't be doing this.

I have to say, if anyone takes a negative/judgy view of this, please bear in mind that sometimes what you're witnessing is actually sexual assault. Last time I entered a night club (age 29) my female friend totally abandoned me and got pissed and left me with this creepy guy who kept stalking me all night and eventually overpowered me, admittedly just with groping and a kiss but it was still thoroughly unwanted and not enjoyed by mean. I had no interest in him. It was very busy nobody noticed that I was trying to get him to leave me the f alone and fight him off.

Then my stupid (ex) friend kept wining on the way home like a teenager 'Oh nooo, do you think I'm ugly?! Can't believe you were with a 24 year old.' and I kept saying, I didn't want him. You can have him.

Haven't been to a night club since.

FortheBeautyoftheEarth · 05/07/2023 16:32

*me

SirenSays · 05/07/2023 16:34

Depends on the bar and how it's done. Snogging at the bar getting in everyone's way would annoy me

MissCalamity · 05/07/2023 17:19

LoobyDop · 05/07/2023 14:22

Rite of passage under 25- normal part of a good night out. I’d eye roll and take the piss if one of my friends did it now we’re well past 40. Unless she was getting over an arsehole- then I’d cheer her on.

Yep, exactly the same for me!

sillysmiles · 05/07/2023 17:21

Toddlerteaplease · 05/07/2023 13:23

I really do t understand how anyone can kiss anyone they do t know. Let alone sleeping with a stranger.

Best way to get to know them 😂😜

sillysmiles · 05/07/2023 17:23

I'm 42 now so say you saw a woman of that age snogging in a bar - what would you think?

7 o'clock in the evening over dinner in a quiet pub, I'd probably do a double take. 2 in the morning, crack on!

Dotandtime · 05/07/2023 17:25

I actually did this a few weeks ago. I'm not sure it was as full on as I would have considered a snog when I was a teenager, but a peck goodnight turned into a proper kiss.

I'm not proud and both the man concerned and I have pretended it never happened since 😆

MaryJean87 · 05/07/2023 17:25

I'm married now so I don't do it anymore but I've done more than snogging in nightclubs. Who cares?

Justleaveitblankthen · 05/07/2023 18:14

beeskipa · 05/07/2023 15:20

Good for them, I'd say! I might raise an eyebrow at extended snogging for ages but I'd say snogging on nights out is part of the fun when you're single and looking. There's a stairwell in the one big bar/club in my hometown where I and everyone I know had many a first (and only) kiss hahaha.

Ooh, you aren't from Lancashire are you? 😎

stbrandonsboat · 05/07/2023 18:16

I would probably worry about them getting cold sores or catching covid or something 😂

LunaNorth · 05/07/2023 18:21

I think bar snogging has gone the way of hedge-porn and white dog poo.

Summerslimtime · 05/07/2023 18:29

Nothing more exciting than the thrill of snogging a handsome stranger.

GoodChat · 05/07/2023 18:30

As long as it's not slopping, loud and there's no inappropriate touching I'd think go for it!

ThreeRingCircus · 05/07/2023 18:54

Oh I miss those days! I used to love snogging a random stranger in a nightclub.

Nowadays I tend to go to wine bars/pubs/cocktail bar type places where I probably wouldn't snog someone but if in a dark nightclub..... definitely 🤣.

Like PPs though I haven't seen public snogging in years.

IncompleteSenten · 05/07/2023 19:00

If they were doing it in front of me I'd think go do that somewhere else. I don't like to be sat next to the revolting noise of slurpy kissing.

Other than that I don't give a shit.

Riapia · 05/07/2023 19:05

Sounds like there’s an age limit for snogging in bars.
Do you need prove your under 25.
😉😁😁

ThatSunCreamSmell · 05/07/2023 19:06

Absolutely go for it!

GarlicGrace · 05/07/2023 19:13

I used to do this a lot - assuming the snogee consented, ofc. the last time was in my mid-fifties. I still would, at my advanced age, if there were any suitable 'victims' to hand (or face). I really enjoy kissing! So do quite a lot of men. Go for it 😘

mambojambodothetango · 05/07/2023 19:20

Don't understand why you're only asking about our opinion of women in this scenario. Are the men not taking part in the snogging too? Why don't you ask what we think of PEOPLE snogging in public? For a start it could be a couple. What about women snogging women? There's so much wrong with your question. I don't even know where to start.

Tosire · 05/07/2023 19:20

I don't have opinions on people who kiss on nights out or anywhere else. I haven't kissed anyone on a night out in decades because I'm married but if I wanted to, other people's opinions would not come into it.

Kaffiene · 05/07/2023 19:30

Recently single and in my late 40s and have recently re discovered the joys of late night bar snogging. Proper silly snogging, not groping or getting inappropriate just a good snog. And yes I am getting over an arsehole so exactly what the Dr ordered :-)

dartsofcupid · 05/07/2023 19:36

I’d think ‘somebody’s havin a good night!’ Anecdotally, am the same age as you, lots of single mates, doesn’t seem to be a thing so much now. Sad days 😂

LaviniasBigBloomers · 05/07/2023 19:45

Riapia · 05/07/2023 19:05

Sounds like there’s an age limit for snogging in bars.
Do you need prove your under 25.
😉😁😁

When you get your 'challenge 25' booze card you have to hand back your 'challenge under 25' snog card. It's tough, but fair.

@LunaNorth wtf is hedge porn??

bonfirebash · 05/07/2023 20:12

I'm 39 and was doing exactly that on a Christmas do in a club BlushGrin