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Would you have a 'Mummy Tuck' if..

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JazzyJeep · 29/06/2023 19:28

You were a single mum? I mean considering the risk of a general anaesthetic for unnecessary surgery? This is the only thing holding me back and although a small risk I have to consider it.

If anything happened to me young DC (1) would go to older DC (24) and financially they would be very well taken care of. I know that's not the point but there is a back up plan. (No dad in picture)

Am I being over anxious or is it just not worth the risk? After children, c sections and diastasis recti it would do so much for my confidence. WWYD?

I think I know the answer is 'not worth it' just interested to hear other opinions in case I'm just massively overthinking it.

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JazzyJeep · 29/06/2023 19:40

Aka a 'mummy makeover' like this cosmedicare.uk/the-mummy-makeover/

(In case nobody knows what I'm talking about 😬)

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AndrexPuppy · 29/06/2023 19:43

I wouldn’t have one, full stop.

If you do go ahead, please research your clinic and surgeon properly and do not go to Turkey for it.

blahblahblah1654 · 29/06/2023 19:44

I personally wouldn't want to go under general anaesthetic unless I have to. The risks are low but not worth it in my opinion.

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MaryJean87 · 29/06/2023 19:49

No, I've made my peace with my stomach and I wouldn't risk surgery. I was a single mum before I met my husband and I've never had a man comment negatively on it, in fact some even said they liked my tummy.

trevthecat · 29/06/2023 19:50

If I had the money, I would. Its low risk but would improve my mental health after

Tadashi · 29/06/2023 19:52

This is my entirely personal opinion and I don't judge anyone for making different choices etc etc

Yeah, my mum died under GA in her fifties so I wouldn't consider it for myself. I also think the recovery time is a bit long for me. I would feel silly if I ended up being a bit useless for a few weeks just so I looked a bit better in my jeans!

Recovery and risks of surgery aside, the cost of cosmetic surgery (for me) would be a lot better spent on regular PT sessions, a gym membership and paying into my pension and some into dcs savings. You may be a lot better off than I am though, so different situation

Infusionist · 29/06/2023 19:55

No. Why put yourself at risk for vanity?

OverTheCountryClub · 29/06/2023 19:55

I would never, ever have one. It makes me absolutely raging that mothers are shamed and guilted for the natural changes that occur during pregnancy and birth, while men are celebrated for their "dad bods" (which isn't even a thing - what the fuck do THEIR bodies do, other than ejaculate?!). The fact these cosmetic companies prey on women's insecurities and encourage them to pay / put their health and even lives at risk is absolutely disgusting. This isn't aimed at you OP - as a mum of 3 myself and post two c sections I know exactly how you feel about your body. But it shouldn't be this way, it really shouldn't. I wish we could get to a place where women are supported properly with postnatal health and accepted for how they look after having babies, not made to feel inadequate because they have extra weight, stretch marks and saggy tums/boobs.

Dipsydoodlenoodle · 29/06/2023 19:55

If there were zero risks and no recovery, absolutely.

Babdoc · 29/06/2023 19:57

Retired anaesthetist here. OP, the risk of dying from the anaesthetic for elective surgery in the U.K. is 1 in 100,000.
I used to tell my patients they were more likely to be hit by a car on the way to the hospital!
If you have no serious heart/lung conditions, are a normal weight, etc your risk is minuscule. You will be thoroughly pre - assessed by the anaesthetic team in any case and optimised for the procedure.
I would go ahead with the surgery if it would make you feel better. You are massively over thinking the risks.

Mamette · 29/06/2023 19:58

Not worth it IMO.

DemonicCaveMaggot · 29/06/2023 20:03

How will they achieve the tummy tuck? If it was going to involve the use of mesh then I, personally, wouldn't do it. There are cases where the mesh has migrated, shrunk, or tried to work its way out. I wouldn't be so worried about the anesthetic more with the other things that could go wrong.

Luxell934 · 29/06/2023 20:08

I personally wouldn't. But thats because i've never had an operation before and I'm an anxious person.

But if you can comfortably afford to get it done in the UK then I'd go for it.

User19844666884 · 29/06/2023 20:12

If I had the money I 100% would, yes. As @Babdoc says, the risks are minuscule.

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JazzyJeep · 29/06/2023 20:14

Thanks for all your thoughts. All my instincts say 'no' at the minute. Definitely need to give it more time to come to a decision I'm happy with.

Yes it would be in the UK there's a place in my city.

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Diversion · 29/06/2023 20:20

I think my body has undergone enough abdominal surgery after 4 C sections and after having a huge benign lump removed from one of my breasts they can stay as they are too, I am lucky still to have two. I am saggy, lumpy and bumpy but my body did amazing things growing and feeding four babies.

beatingtheodds · 29/06/2023 20:29

Babdoc · 29/06/2023 19:57

Retired anaesthetist here. OP, the risk of dying from the anaesthetic for elective surgery in the U.K. is 1 in 100,000.
I used to tell my patients they were more likely to be hit by a car on the way to the hospital!
If you have no serious heart/lung conditions, are a normal weight, etc your risk is minuscule. You will be thoroughly pre - assessed by the anaesthetic team in any case and optimised for the procedure.
I would go ahead with the surgery if it would make you feel better. You are massively over thinking the risks.

So sorry to hijack the thread but I've been waiting to see an anaesthetist here. I'm awaiting a surgery in the next few months. I have LQTS & SVT, does the risk with the anaesthetic increase with this?

I have another consultation beforehand so will ask the question there but I'm getting a bit anxious about it all. Please don't feel like you have to answer!

(Sorry to hijack OP)

Arewehumanorarewecupboards · 29/06/2023 20:30

I would spend the money on a good PT, gym membership and a nutritionist instead.

ShirleyPhallus · 29/06/2023 20:33

OverTheCountryClub · 29/06/2023 19:55

I would never, ever have one. It makes me absolutely raging that mothers are shamed and guilted for the natural changes that occur during pregnancy and birth, while men are celebrated for their "dad bods" (which isn't even a thing - what the fuck do THEIR bodies do, other than ejaculate?!). The fact these cosmetic companies prey on women's insecurities and encourage them to pay / put their health and even lives at risk is absolutely disgusting. This isn't aimed at you OP - as a mum of 3 myself and post two c sections I know exactly how you feel about your body. But it shouldn't be this way, it really shouldn't. I wish we could get to a place where women are supported properly with postnatal health and accepted for how they look after having babies, not made to feel inadequate because they have extra weight, stretch marks and saggy tums/boobs.

I couldn’t agree more.

hilbil21 · 29/06/2023 20:36

If Cosmedicare is where you're going (as per the link) yes I would.

drpet49 · 29/06/2023 20:40

Arewehumanorarewecupboards · 29/06/2023 20:30

I would spend the money on a good PT, gym membership and a nutritionist instead.

My friend lost alot of weight. Had 4 kids but now has a very large and excess amount of loose skin around her midriff. She can’t wear nice clothes because she is so out of proportion with the rest of her body. No amount of exercise will ever get rid of it.

Missingmyusername · 29/06/2023 20:44

I would diet and exercise first, I think you probably have to but nothing gets rid of loose skin, if it’s a good hospital /surgeon then possibly. I would factor in children’s ages and pain levels /recovery time after though. I wouldn’t go abroad.

I don’t always think it’s shaming- loose skin hurts, it can smell due to yeast, no matter how clean it can get sore. Do what makes you comfortable. Shouldn’t shame either way.

NannyGythaOgg · 29/06/2023 20:53

I would, and I would happily have it done in Turkey too.

I had a tummy tuck about 10 years ago. One of the best things I have ever done. I had it in the UK and my children are adults but I would definitely be happy having it doned elsewhere. And the risks are miniscule

Chardonnay73 · 29/06/2023 20:56

@NannyGythaOgg the amount of horrific post surgery problems I’ve seen from Turkey patients….. oh god please don’t consider it!

Chardonnay73 · 29/06/2023 20:57

Sorry, just seen that your surgery was in the Uk but don’t be recommending surgery in Turkey!

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