Would you have a 'Mummy Tuck' if..

[JazzyJeep]

You were a single mum? I mean considering the risk of a general anaesthetic for unnecessary surgery? This is the only thing holding me back and although a small risk I have to consider it.

If anything happened to me young DC (1) would go to older DC (24) and financially they would be very well taken care of. I know that's not the point but there is a back up plan. (No dad in picture)

Am I being over anxious or is it just not worth the risk? After children, c sections and diastasis recti it would do so much for my confidence. WWYD?

I think I know the answer is 'not worth it' just interested to hear other opinions in case I'm just massively overthinking it.

No I would not but being a single parent has nothing to do with it.
I would never have unnecessary surgery, I knew 2 people who died under GA. One of whom was having cosmetic surgery

I absolutely would and I would do it in Turkey as well. Do your research properly and you will be fine, ive had surgery there before and their hospitals make ours look positively primitive. If you looked up the complication rates of some private hospitals in the UK you would be shocked.

‘Mummy Tuck’ what a repulsive term, no doubt coined by a man 🙄

I work in this industry and key points I would look at when choosing your surgeon are .
-check surgeon registered with BAAPS all good ones will be,

• avoid anywhere offering free cons, a good surgeon will not be doing that, it ll be a customer service agent talking you into a procedure that without physical examination by a surgeon have no idea if you are even suitable. —check prices cheapest never best unfortunately,

-go for a surgeon that has 20+ years experience, -expect to see your surgeon twice before surgery and 24 hrs and 7 days post op .. not a nurse ( some surgeons don’t see patients til 30 days post op) -discuss blood transfusion, and demand they take a sample to be matched just in case the need arises. -Read reviews on websites not linked to the company. -Travel to get the best care do not go with a company just because it’s local.

I was put to sleep for plastic surgery. I remember being terrified I wouldn't wake up. Don't regret it at all and it's made a massive difference to my confidence.

If I had the money I’d rather spend it on a personal trainer or similar and get fitter and stronger. That would be an investment in my long term health whereas this seems like a short term fix and a health risk

Totally agree! Awful terminology

I had a mini tummy tuck years ago in the uk
One of the best things I’ve ever done

If I had the cash to spare I absolutely would. I'd only have it done in the uk, and I'd research the hell out of it - it's not the situation where you'd be trying to get the best deal cost wise!

It's naive to suggest that absolutely every body hang up a person has can be sorted with diet and exercise.

I would wait about 4 years in your situation - until you don’t need to be picking up and carrying your youngest child anymore. I would be worried about damaging the muscle repair by lifting/wrestling a 10-20 kg toddler/child daily.

I have diastasis recti also and had resigned myself to awful stomach for life. I couldn't imagine being naked with anyone new. But I have worked really hard these last few months to make the best of my stomach, exercises, diet and a toning cream and it looks 100 times better it really does. I don't think I can justify going under the knife anymore.
Honestly try everything you can first before surgery, you may not really need it.

I had surgery in turkey and received an exceptional level of care. My doctor in this country is Turkish and said their surgeons are trained to a better level than they are here and I quite believe it. I am looking into a full mum makeover in Turkey and have absolutely no reservations about it. Unless you have been to Turkey for surgery, you have no right to comment.

Please don't have surgery anywhere, let alone in Turkey. A friend of mine had gastric sleeve surgery in Turkey. The clinic discovered a heart problem was causing her weight gain as part of the pre op checks but went ahead with the surgery anyway. Unsurprisingly the weight is still there as it's actually fluid caused by the heart condition.

As others have said, spend the money instead on healthy diet and exercise and physiotherapy for the diastasis. I had that after my second child and a c section but you would never know now as I saw an amazing women's physio who sorted it right out through exercise.

No.

My stomach isn't great and is covered in stretch marks. I've slept with quite a few men (after getting divorced!) and no one has ever commented on it or given it a second glance. Very few of those man have had children of their own so it's not as though they were familiar with stretch marks.

Why have you posted it phrased like that “Turkish doctors have a higher level of training”?

Do you know that for a fact, are you part of the Royal College of Surgeons accreditation board and can quantify this statement in some way or just repeating a story you’ve been told?

I’m pleased you had a really positive experience, genuinely. Of course there are great surgeons in Turkey, like everywhere. However there are also others and it’s churlish to not acknowledge the higher risks of travelling to another country where you don’t speak the language, you don’t understand the health care system or training, and yes that you are required to travel.

I've never ruled out a tummy tuck, and just that mental permission makes it feel more like an active choice to live with it. It's the recovery time that puts me off actually doing it.

I had a huge bump, an EMCS and my abdomen looks like its made of crimpline. I can vouch from experience that running marathons makes zero difference to it. Or yoga. Or swimming. Or weights etc. The slimmer I am, the more it sags and clothes always look lumpy in the middle. I don't want to look like a model or influencer etc, but there is a part of me that would like my adbomen to look like it belongs to the rest of me. I loatged it in the early years because it was numb and flabby and didn't even feel attached to me.

Just the mental permission to have one is empowering. I'm just not bothered about the effort of the research, doing it and recovering. I said initially from 40 so I wouldn't undo it with further children, but I'm still in no rush.

Yeah it's all about shagging men and what they think or comment on a woman's body🙄

Have to say I'm veering towards a yes this morning having slept on it. Things like being confident enough in swimwear to go in the pool with my son would make a massive difference to all our lives. I'll still give it a little bit more time and probably go for an initial consult early next year.

I'm researching surgeons at the moment for this and wondered if you wouldn't mind sharing who you're going with.

No. Spend the money on a personal trainer and overhaul your diet.
I'm a LP and always worried something will happen to me. I am very healthy.

Can’t believe you can have a ‘back up plan’ for your own death involving leaving a one year old 😱

I can’t believe no one else has pointed out that your baby is only ONE. This is so sad. Your body will change loads in the next year or two. It takes muscles a long time to recover.

There are exercises you can do for DR - with the money you could hire a PT. You can wear control pants, a corset for posture support. No woman likes what their tummy looks like with a one-year old, but so sad to jump to surgery already.

You don’t know what your tummy will look like by the time your youngest starts school. If nothing else, it’s a waste of money and risk on something which will likely improve loads anyway without surgery in the next few years.

There is a serious and growing issue os Americans women dying during or after cosmetic surgeries, especially ones done on the cheap in Miami, the Dominican Republic and Mexico. Dirty tools, inadequate post op care, surgeons working long hours, etc.

Our equivalent is Turkey. Definitely do not go there if you have concerns. If you're going to do it, you really need to dive into research.

Imo, it's not worth it. But I'm very secure with my very imperfect body tbh. I'd never risk leaving my kids with no mother to fix issues with my body after birthing them. This disgusting attitude towards our amazing bodies needs a slap of wisdom, and the answer isn't surgery.

Just to reassure that I'm not going abroad. The place I'm looking at is run by 2 consultant plastic surgeons, both with 30 years experience, BAPRAS registered and working in both NHS and private practice, at a well regarded private hospital. Cost is not an issue. I'm not looking for 'cheap'.

Your kid is only 1. It took me 2 years to get back to pre shape me after having my child.

The other thing of note is I wonder what your actual stats are? Because people’s self perception is sometimes very off. Some slim women think they are fat and some fat women think they are slim.