Would you have a 'Mummy Tuck' if..

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You were a single mum? I mean considering the risk of a general anaesthetic for unnecessary surgery? This is the only thing holding me back and although a small risk I have to consider it.

If anything happened to me young DC (1) would go to older DC (24) and financially they would be very well taken care of. I know that's not the point but there is a back up plan. (No dad in picture)

Am I being over anxious or is it just not worth the risk? After children, c sections and diastasis recti it would do so much for my confidence. WWYD?

I think I know the answer is 'not worth it' just interested to hear other opinions in case I'm just massively overthinking it.

beatingtheodds, the short answer is that yes, you are at increased risk of cardiac complications under GA with your condition. It is very important that you mention it at the pre-assessment clinic and to your anaesthetist pre op. Also tell them if you have an implanted defibrillator.
However, every beat of your heart will be displayed during induction and surgery, via the ecg monitor, your bp and oxygen level will be monitored, and every operating theatre has immediate access to a defibrillator and the full range of resus drugs. Your anaesthetist will use the safest technique for your procedure- many
operations can be performed under local blocks, for example, avoiding a GA altogether - and will be with you throughout. You will also be fully monitored in the recovery room with a one to one nurse. Any regular medication you take will be optimised pre op. Everything will be done to reduce your risk as far as is possible.
It may reassure you to consider that you will be in the safest, best possible place if you are unlucky enough to suffer a complication from your condition - the staff regularly update their emergency training and will be very competent to deal with you. Far better than having a cardiac event in the street or at the checkout in Tesco!

You’d be a fool too. There are a worryingly disproportionate number of British cosmetic surgery tourists dying following surgery at Turkish clinics. It’s such a concern that the Foreign Office issued a warning.

No the recovery looks horrendous wearing a supportive belt around your whole torso for weeks

I'd absolutely go for it.

I'm having one in September with muscle repair to fix diastasis recti (muscle separation). I have wanted it for 12 years! 3 c sections later and A lOT of research.

I also tried PT, running, diet. I am slim but I have a terrible tummy.

I'm using a surgeon that someone I know has used and has a great reputation ( a lot more expensive). The recovery looks hard, but I am so excited to (hopefully) be happy with my body.

I'm getting into the best shape possible to try and aid my recovery.

Only if it was medically necessary or considerably effecting my life, not just to look a certain way

I'm a single mum after a decade plus of marriage and I don't like my post baby body. Never really minded when I was with my ex, figured I had given him kids so he couldn't complain but shudder at the thought of being with someone new. I want my boobs doing but it's more the money holding me back.

I say go for it.

Honestly, it's very very personal. I'm 10 weeks post op with my tummy tuck right now and couldn't be happier. I was healthy weight and very athletic/muscular but the state my tummy was made me feel quite miserable. It was by far the best thing I've ever done for myself. Go for it! And if you want to chat more about it, feel free to DM me.

If your instincts say no, then no/go with your gut. Otherwise, personally having had to have a GA for an emergency c-section if the GA was my only concern I'd go for it, as for me the GA was fine & despite DH regularly telling me that I'm beautiful I am very self conscious about the overhang my pregnancies left me with. But if your gut says no, listen to it. Personally whenever I've ignored gut feelings/intuition things went wrong. Whilst unlikely in this case/its pretty safe if you're not 100% on board don't do it.

Learn to love yourself as you are OP, you are uniquely you, and perfect exactly as you are.

Also bear in mind the people you see in films and on tv don’t just have a few procedures to keep their bodies looking like they do, they have nutritionists, chefs ,
personal trainers, and very strict diet and exercise regimes. Who wants to live like that? I am a fan of healthy living- eat well and enjoy treats in moderation and make sure to move lots to keep your heart healthy but life is too short and too precious to put so much energy and time into looking a certain way.

No amount of workouts and eating healthily will correct split stomach.

OP I have had the surgery. Feel free to PM me

I’d do it in the UK with a reputable company. I wouldn’t travel overseas for any medical procedure though, as there seem to be more issues with standards of care / follow up care afterwards. Plus the idea of getting on a plane home soon after surgery doesn’t sound sensible.

Thank you so very much for this, it's really helpful.

The surgery is for catheter ablation, and they will be putting in a pacemaker and potentially a defib. They have said already that it will be under GA.

I only have a ILR fitted at the moment and they even gave me a sedation to put that in. (My heart / SVT is incredibly reactive / symptomatic) but they're doing 2 birds with one stone to put the device in for the LQTS too.

Thank you so much for answering. I'll make sure I go through everything with the anaesthetist and cardiologist beforehand.
The procedure is being done at a cardio hospital too so i'm in the safest of hands.

(Again sorry OP for hijacking your thread, I've been desperate to ask this question!)

No, never. I despise the idea that a woman needs serious surgery to "makeover" changes to their body that have come as a result of growing and bearing a child. It's so sad and plays into women's insecurities.

No worries @beatingtheodds glad to see people helping each other out.

Thanks all so much this is really helpful.

I'm going through some information and this place has excellent reviews.

Like others, I just look like a beanpole with a giant lump in the middle post baby. Can only wear certain clothes etc. I mean if someone asked me when I'm due i wouldn't be offended because that's exactly what it looks like.

For recovery I would have help for a few weeks at least so not too much of an issue there. Like I said it's more the fear factor that something goes wrong, need to get past that first.

I'll keep looking into it.

If this was in the UK and a properly registered clinic, I’d say go for it if that’s what you want. I Any level of cosmetic tourism involved and I’d say hell no.

If you decide to go ahead please don’t use one of these commercial companies. Find yourself a proper plastic surgeon who is a member of BAAPS and is an NHS consultant who has a private plastics practice. Do the proper research and don’t rely on glossy advertising from magazines.

I'm not a single mum, but I have had the mummy makeover. Tummy, boobs, and some help with stretch marks and other wear and tear. I'd recommend it to anyone, as long as you do it safely and have those back up plans.

I’d do it. By the time I can afford it I’ll be late 60s which is probably too old, wish I’d done it years ago

I truly want one and have read numerous reviews about how much better people felt after successful ones but I personally cannot bring myself to have surgery 'just in case' while I still have young dc. I feel so guilty the thought of anything going wrong just for my own vanity (even though I really really hate how I look now)

Just me though and don't judge those that actually get it done!

I'm also in the position (and I got as far as having a surgeon consultation to have one) that no amount of gum work will get rid of the belly flap...

Gym*

I've had a 360 FDL and boob lift done in March this year.

I'm 52 and love it

Yes 100% if i had the cash🤣. Currently giving myself a kick up the arse with calorie counting and Pilates. My own mother (single) had a breast augmentation when I was 10. I stayed with my grandmother and barely slept the night of her surgery. All went okay though and the confidence it gave her made her such a more outgoing vibrant woman.
Just a couple of weeks of healing and it made me that little more responsible (I was a very old soul as a child). I pitched in with housework and did any lifting she couldn't manage ie carry loads of washing up the stairs, not exactly concrete slabs for those wondering haha 10 year old me could manage.
She didn't want one just 'because' but she had lost weight too quickly after having me and they'd lost fullness and size, she lacked confidence and I think breasts for some women are one of the symbols of their femininity.

No for no reason at all just no