Being called Posh… when we’re not…

[Poshornot]

Feeling a bit offended really - have been called posh on a few occasions. But we aren’t posh or come from posh backgrounds. We live in a terraced in an average town with average-below average schools and earn an average income.

We work hard to pay for nice things but now i feel a bit of an outsider in our own community. I don’t want people thinking we’re posh / don’t fit in with them just because we have a 5 year old car not an ‘old banger’ or because we keep our house / garden well kept :/

anyone else experienced this?

No one actually posh would use the word posh, so you’re fine.

Totally, and I find it hilarious.

I grew up in the East End, moved to the north west and suddenly became Eliza Doolittle 😂Apparently, I even earned the nickname 'fancypants' with one of the school mums when my eldest first started school. She got over it, and we are great friends now by the way.

Yeah, whenever I tell someone I'm from Cambridge, I get comments about being posh and rich. I just say no, I was born there, its different. 😂

I met the neighbours of a friend once. They all decided that I was posh because, and I’m not making this up, I read books.

bonkers. I’m not posh. I’m from a working class Yorkshire background!

Do you think the response to going to Spain was a joke?

If someone (I knew well and liked) told me they were going to Spain I might respond 'oh aren't we posh' with obvious irony (obviously if they were good enough friends as there would be no malice intended) because nothing makes me think of budget holidays more than Spain (obviously there are lovely places and lovely holidays in Spain - it's just a stereotype)

are you sure they aren't just teasing you?

I get called posh all the time because I speak well (I have a lisp so I like to pronounce things properly). It doesn’t bother me - I’m friends with a real range of people! As long as you’re welcoming and not actually stuck up then no one cares!!!

This made me laugh 🤣🤣🤣

I was called posh as a kid because I didn’t live on a council house. The fact that my bog standard mid terrace had a tiny back yard and was in a notorious flood zone, was in the main road through town and my parents were a lorry driver and a book keeper was irrelevant.

Now I get told I’m posh because I inherited my mums English accent - I’m Scottish and don’t even sound especially English, i just don’t have a broad Scottish accent.

🤣

Omg it's @bussteward 🤠

Can concur, as a dirty southerner living in Liverpool!

Unlike the others on this thread though, I take it in the spirit it's intended - a lighthearted poke at accents...

My daughter got labelled posh for going to an independant pizza restaurant instead of Pizza Hut/Dominos 🙄

I absolutely hate the phase " we have worked hard for what we have"
It implies that those less well off are in that position due to a feeble work ethic or feckless with money

I work my bollocks off in a demanding job but I can't afford a holiday or " nice things" or a car
And if ever I have had a holiday or " nice things" I'm careful about my audience before I brag ( talk ) about it
If you think people don't like you , have a private word with the nicest of the group and ask if you have been insensitive or offended anyone - if you haven't just crack on enjoying your " nice things". You have worked so hard for

That is such a posh explanation @ChiefWiggumsBoy 🤭

Agreed. I've been called this at various times, usually I think because I'm fairly quiet and keep to myself. Haven't remotely got a "posh" accent or one that's different from people around me. Nor do I have a fancier home, more money etc. It's just veiled hostility in my view against anyone who's perceived as different.

A colleague once included me in the description “ we’re all middle class because of our profession, qualifications etc” I was incensed, I’m working class, always have been , always will be.
I understand your pain.

I suppose these things are relative..

I wouldn’t loose sleep over it

My ddil family are constantly calling me posh because I come from the Home Counties and they come from an ex mining village up north! I live in a council house and am covered in tattoos, but apparently im " posh"!!!

I found out my SIL had been calling me posh behind my back for nearly fifteen years when, on her hen weekend, a friend of hers said I wasn’t posh at all, I was lovely. Not sure if I’m more offended by being called posh or not posh at least I’m lovely 🤣

Posh is relative.

Posh is absolutely relative.
It is also light hearted, and just a little bit of banter.

Totally agree. So bloody patronising. I hope one of Dante’s levels of hell is reserved for dicks who use that phrase.

As for op I say, kindly, get over yourself. Going to Spain does not make you posh. Being part of the aristocracy and owning vast amounts of land makes you posh. Is this you? Either way if it is, laugh is on you. If not, laugh is on the thick egits who think affording a fight on Easy Jet is living the high life. Really. Why are you worrying about what the village idiots think of you?

I AM posh and get mocked but I'm not allowed to be indignant/offended because I'm posh. It's the world's worst catch 22. People take the piss out of posh people all the time but heaven forbid posh people take the piss out of non-posh people. Welcome to my world.

For the hard of understanding, I might be poking fun of myself and others in this post!

100%! When I lived down south no one ever asked what kind of school I went to because, even after years of trying to change, little phrases slipped through that told all other southerners where I was from. Now I live in Greater Manchester I regularly get asked what kind of school I went to until I get 3 glasses of wine deep and it becomes very bloody clear!

Feeling sad tonight for all those who are made to feel like outsiders in their own community because of their five year old cars, well kept gardens and Spanish holidays. Nobody should have to suffer like that.