No party food or drink provided

[ImaMumtoaboy]

So my ds(11) went to a football party yesterday. The minute we got in the car he asked to go the shop for a drink as he was so thirsty.
Party was at the local astro pitch, party room included that has 2 ovens, hob, 2 toasters, 2 microwaves and 2 fridges. Most parents bring in frozen pizzas and chips and cook them or order in pizzas.
Kids were running around for 2 hours in hot weather they were not offered any drinks during that time.
He said in the "party room" they got 1 small bottle of water (250ml) and a small slice of birthday cake. They only went into the room 10 minutes before I arrived to collect him.
When I went in the mother was packing up the cake which looked like there was about 3/4's left. I thought the kids must have had enough food that they didnt want cake. And parents cleaned up very quickly. Kids were all quiet(14 11/12 yr old boys) who are normally very loud at parties. Kids were just sitting waiting to be collected.Turns out they got a very very skinny slice, described by ds as thinner then a slice of bread.
Ended up bringing him to Mcdonalds as a treat and we seen 2 other parents of kids that were at the same party getting their kids food.

Yes I agree, really mean. Sounds as though the cake was being taken home for a family party. Why did they bother to have a party at all?

If I were you I wouldn't bother to take him if they have another party.

It’s not against human rights to go without food for 2 hours. A good lesson that perhaps not everyone can provide lashings of yummy food. I hope they enjoyed the football and DS doesn’t go back to school and complain about meagre birthday offering and spoil for birthday boy. That would be the real shame.

My daughter couldn't afford an expensive party but invited everyone to the park and provided food and drink. They all had a lovely time running around.

You are spectacularly missing the point here. It was a party, not just a kick around. By implication you would expect some food, not just a bottle of water and a small sliver of cake.

And they would have gone without food for more than two hours. Assuming these boys had breakfast at, say 9am, then they would have gone without food for over 5 hours.

Are you the party "host"?

I wouldn’t have fed my sons lunch if they were invited to a 12-2 party under the assumption there was food.

it’s really tight and I was wondering if something had happened to mess up their plans but I think they would’ve mentioned it and given bigger slices of cake?

Squash is cheap and frozen sausage rolls cost next to nothing. It’s tight and it’s weird and I feel dead sorry for the kid especially as his Mother clearly expects everyone else to feed him.

Good on you for making sure your son isn’t going to add to the comments about his party, poor lad.

That's really tight . Possibly could understand it if the party was 2-4

They could have easily done sarnies and
Crisps

Do you think they
Ordered food and were let down? Or forgot to place the Dominoes order?

Perhaps the parents did their best within their financial means and tried to meet their sons birthday wish! 🤢

They didn’t go without food for just two hours, what on earth are you talking about?

As has been pointed out before they went without food from breakfast to around 3? So a lot longer than two hours?

No one was asking for lashings of yummy food, but an Asda pizza would suffice as has also been pointed out and a jug of squash?

Why have a party over lunch time and not give lunch?

Also, another thing pointed out by OP, so just filter her posts, is she told her son not to mention the mean nature of the “hosts”?

I think you’ve spectacularly missed a lot of points.

Then they wouldn't have paid for a venue would they?

I don't buy that excuse.

Well don’t have a party at lunchtime then!

Perhaps would have been better for parents to be asked to send something doesn't have to be much crisps maybe perhaps they could have provided squash or pop doesnt have to be expensive

Come on, a party in hot weather with no drinks, or a party in any weather. How much would it have cost to buy a few bottles of squash and some jugs of water. Personally I wouldn’t host a party without providing food and drink, that’s the point of a party isn’t it. Even if they had just made some sandwiches and bought some crisps or something, especially as it was lunchtime, I bet most kids hadn’t eaten before they went. Perfectly reasonable OP.

I bet they did! Why wouldn’t they, I don’t but that they want to play football on an Astro turf, they just want to play football! Food and drink supplied, because mine were always “starving” at that age, or so they would tell me!

We had a nerf-party for our son last year and didn’t provide food because it wasn’t over a meal time, it was barely 90minutes long and the only option was rubbish food provided by the activity centre at an astronomical price (ie 2x the cost of the original hire). It was during the heatwave so we had copious amount of water and squash and we sent them home with bags of snacks, more drinks and KrispyKreme because I felt bad even though they were absolutely fine.

Yes it's a bit weird. I've always offered food at birthday parties. Sometimes it was hotdogs, other times we made and ate our own pizza's etc. That and a birthday cake. Maybe the parents have it hard financially? I don't know but it's unusual.

Too right! A bloody weirdo idea fora party. Who the hell would actually do that?

If party is 12-2 then should have food. No matter what timings, should have lots of drinks available. If a party is 2-4 I would think perfectly OK to not have food but offer a regular slice of cake.

A party without food or drink? Fuck that, I wouldn't be sending your son to any more of this boys birthday "parties"

they could have easily made a few sandwiches and some squash even if they are poor! if they are too poor for that then they should have said dont buy presents, bring a packed lunch instead. oh, and bring dessert since the cake slice will be thin as paper so we can take it home and trough it ourselves!

That's not a party .. and boys of that age don't shop eating .. Parents are being tight .. Id let them know about this thread 😂

I have been to parties like this, but the invitation will say "Cake and Ice Cream only" and would generally only be for an hour. Usually because the parents don't have much money, but you are expected to invite an entire class in some areas.

They are clearly stingy - fancy not letting a child have another slice (sorry sliver) of cake. My Irish genetics have turned me into a feeder so I always overcatered mine's parties for fear a child would go home hungry. In final year of primary, mine decided to have a disco with just doughnuts and sodas. I warned parents that this was all that would be on offer (although homemade Pusheen cake was also given in thick slices) and the kids stuffed their faces. Guess what? We still had leftovers... Just know if there's a next time!

I'd expect there to be a note on the invite if food not being provided! My son had a birthday party in a cave once so obviously no food other than birthday cake afterwards but I organised it for mid afternoon so it wasn't over lunch time and put a note to say only cake and juice available!

NO food or drink ? There were bottles of water and cake ? In this weather most kids playing sport would take water and I presume there was a tap in the kitchen?

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