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My own little bolt hole

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RhubarbCrumbled · 22/06/2023 21:40

I'm seriously looking at buying a little caravan and putting it onto a campsite close by so I can have my own little bolt hole / haven away from everyone. Ive almost always lived alone or it's just been me and the boys. My OH moved in 2 years ago and almost immediately started working from home. I need a space of my own where nothing is moved or put away randomly or left in a mess or I'm talked to when I just want to sit in quiet!!!

I'm on the verge of buying one this weekend. Has anyone else done this or thought about it?!

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DustyLee123 · 22/06/2023 21:42

I’d love my own little house where ever is in its place.

DustyLee123 · 22/06/2023 21:42

*everything

TonTonMacoute · 22/06/2023 22:59

Why are you having to escape from your own house? Can't your OH rent office space to work in?

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NotBotheredAnymore · 22/06/2023 23:02

Why are you moving out. Tell him to rent a workspace even if its only for 3 days a week. Or get him to buy an office garden. Or buy the caravan and put him in it.

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RhubarbCrumbled · 23/06/2023 07:18

It's all a bit 'room of one's own'. A place that's just mine, I can have it how I like and there's no compromise.
I'm absolutely not being chased out of the house, I just dream of a quiet retreat that's just mine.

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endofagain · 23/06/2023 07:27

Your OH moving in was probably a bad idea. Has he taken over a room in your home for his office?
That isn't fair.
I have a friend whose husband has taken over every room in the house. He is a hoarder and works from home.
Yet she pays half of mortgage and bills.
She is miserable.
Think carefully about whether this relationship is fair and equal.
Who should be spending money on an outside space?

WaitingForSunnyDays · 23/06/2023 07:32

If you can do that it sounds like a lovely idea. I'd just be careful about idealising the campsite too much, as you never know if that might be noisy and full of people which may spoil the plan a bit. But, I get what you are saying about your own space.

ODFODeary · 23/06/2023 09:10

I think it's a brilliant idea @RhubarbCrumbled , do it

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RhubarbCrumbled · 23/06/2023 09:32

I've put in an offer on a tiny Eldis Wisp. I'm very VERY excited!!

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ODFODeary · 23/06/2023 09:51

I'm excited for you @RhubarbCrumbled , it can be your secret den !

AcclimDD · 23/06/2023 10:00

Will you be storing it at the campsite OP? I'm interested in doing something similar. How does it work, do the campsite owners pull it out for you when they know you're coming or does it stay out permanently? How much does it cost for the year?

FloydPepper · 23/06/2023 10:04

Blimey. Pretty sure a bloke spending (it’s always family money) on a caravan to have their own private bolt hole (hiding from family life, having an affair, generally being a manchild) would get ripped apart.

op as king as your partner is on board, and can sped the same on something for himself as well as having equal time to himself then go for it

however, if my partner did this I’d be rethinking things.

Whadda · 23/06/2023 10:04

Ages of your boys might be a factor. Are they small children who will be left with your boyfriend every weekend?

If that’s not the case I’d say go for it.

AcclimDD · 23/06/2023 10:25

@FloydPepper
I couldn't disagree with you more in this particular scenario where the DP has recently moved into OP home and, it sounds like he has taken over /spread his stuff far and wide.

If it was a long established joint purchased home and DP was the father of OP's DC, then I would agree with you regarding the spending of "family money".

LadyJ2023 · 23/06/2023 10:36

I would say odd relationship if you can't say you need a day in your house to yourself

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RhubarbCrumbled · 23/06/2023 11:01

AcclimDD · 23/06/2023 10:00

Will you be storing it at the campsite OP? I'm interested in doing something similar. How does it work, do the campsite owners pull it out for you when they know you're coming or does it stay out permanently? How much does it cost for the year?

I've had a look on UK Campsite and there are loads of sites near me that have seasonal pitches where I can leave the caravan all year and just go when I want to. Anything from £500 to £3000 for the year depending on facilities.

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RhubarbCrumbled · 23/06/2023 11:10

FloydPepper · 23/06/2023 10:04

Blimey. Pretty sure a bloke spending (it’s always family money) on a caravan to have their own private bolt hole (hiding from family life, having an affair, generally being a manchild) would get ripped apart.

op as king as your partner is on board, and can sped the same on something for himself as well as having equal time to himself then go for it

however, if my partner did this I’d be rethinking things.

We've had a chat about it and he knows that I need a space for myself. The room he now uses as an office was meant to be 'my room' - I still share it with him but it's not the same.
Family money wise, we have our incomes, we pay half the bills, some long term savings or agreed outgoings (like holidays, house maintenance) but the rest is our own.
He also has hobbies that take him away for whole weekends at a time. The boys stay with their Dad on alternate weekends and I definitely wouldn't be abandoning them! Or having an affair or hiding when I have to be at home. They would be coming with me when they're home, but it would be explicitly my space where no one else can have a say in decor leave their shtuff all over the place.

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RhubarbCrumbled · 23/06/2023 11:11

LadyJ2023 · 23/06/2023 10:36

I would say odd relationship if you can't say you need a day in your house to yourself

I'd say it's odd that you have a relationship where you can ask someone to not be in their own home!

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TokyoSushi · 23/06/2023 11:14

I'm not sure what's up with all the naysayers here, sounds glorious OP, enjoy!

TomatoSandwiches · 23/06/2023 11:15

Sounds lovely to me!
I want to buy a beach hut in my home town and make it my own eventually, they're as rare as hens teeth though.

ODFODeary · 23/06/2023 11:15

Christ some people love to read more into things don't they
I still think its a good thing to do, i can't be round people 24/7 I need my own space too @RhubarbCrumbled Enjoy it !
You'll need a name for it though Grin

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RhubarbCrumbled · 23/06/2023 11:16

Whadda · 23/06/2023 10:04

Ages of your boys might be a factor. Are they small children who will be left with your boyfriend every weekend?

If that’s not the case I’d say go for it.

Boys are 10 and 13 so on their weekends with me I suspect we'll all be going there quite regularly. It'll be an easy camping weekend and we all do love a weekend of camping! Other times at their Dad's or I might go up during the day in the week and use it as my office.

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RhubarbCrumbled · 23/06/2023 11:17

TomatoSandwiches · 23/06/2023 11:15

Sounds lovely to me!
I want to buy a beach hut in my home town and make it my own eventually, they're as rare as hens teeth though.

This is going to be like my beach hut! But moveable....

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RhubarbCrumbled · 23/06/2023 11:18

ODFODeary · 23/06/2023 11:15

Christ some people love to read more into things don't they
I still think its a good thing to do, i can't be round people 24/7 I need my own space too @RhubarbCrumbled Enjoy it !
You'll need a name for it though Grin

A name is definitely required. I'll come back once I've bought him / her for suggestions!

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AcclimDD · 23/06/2023 11:18

🤞you get the Eldis OP 🤞

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