How old is 'too old' for a child to be naked at a splash park?

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Sitting here with the 4yo niece charge at a splash park... 6/7 year old girl running round starkers! I'm a bit shocked tbh.

Now I have been "caught short" before, but she's just been sent in the water in her knickers, because she can always just go commando on the way home.

I think anything around 3+ is too old tbh.

But I don’t put pics of my kids in public SM where strangers could see them. I certainly don’t put naked pictures of my kids anywhere. And really the fact that SM pics could possibly be doctored for nefarious purposes doesn’t mean we should throw the towel in and send our kids out naked in public.

I’m just making the point @Kanaloa that those frothing at the mouth about paedophiles lurking on every corner are probably being hypocritical and potentially exposing their children to indirect abuse in other areas. Personally I don’t have my kids naked running around the splash park but I get them changed there and don’t worry about the odd flash of bits. Same for the beach, etc. Same for myself really! If I saw a perv hovering nearby with a phone then I’d be unleashing merry hell. Online I try not to put pictures of my kids out into the ether as they can’t consent and you don’t know where they’ll end up. In fact I did once see a guy videoing my topless, massive-titted cousin on the beach (in the age of camcorders), while his wife lay sunbathing, but that was her choice!

I remember going on a brownies camp which would have been age 7-11 sometime around 1990 and the leader made us all strip stark naked to have a paddle on the beach. I remember everyone staring at us and feeling really embarrassed. I look back now and think what a terrible brownie leader she was.

At a certain point the kids become self conscious so it's not just about the people around them, kids know it's weird and wrong but don't always vocalise it because 'adults know best'.

... really?

First of all the majority of 6-7 year olds look like they're 6-7 that's how normal distribution works.

Secondly, if you bothered to read my posts, you'd know that my observation was actually correct.

Did you wake up in the middle of the night, think about something that happened in June, the go looking for a thread from June to post on about it?

No. Just making general conversation.

Because we were sat on the same bench watching kids play and I just struck up normal conversation with a fellow parent "is that one yours?" "What's her name? "How old is she" "been enjoying the holidays?"

You know the chit chat you have with parents at the park.

Jesus Christ. I have my own child, I look after kids a lot... I know what normal chit chat is.

Even if I had no kids it's hardly fucking rocket science to know what normal chit chat about kids is...

You're odd

Good lord woman. It's clearly just a normal conversation that the majority of people will have kids or not.

You've literally NEVER ONCE told a single person your child's age? Never ever come up in conversation with another adult... Ever?

You've never once had someone coo over your baby and fon"awwww, how old are they?" You've never once been in a situation where a person is being friendly and asked your child's age, "are they starting school this sept?" And you've said _oh, no they're not 4 until October " or just asked as a means of chit chat at a park/soft play/school gates/nursery?

It's not an unusual question
It's not strange to ask.

I remember this thread from months ago. What words were you searching to find it?😐

It isn't strange to ask a child's age. I have a toddler and attend many toddler groups with him. The most asked question I hear is this. Why would it be even more odd to ask when she's naked?

Wow. You must have never spoken to anyone.

I find it nearly impossible to believe that not a single person has ever asked your child's age at all in their life. Not once.

I can't imagine the world you live in where not a single person has cooed over your baby and asked "awwww, she's beautiful how old?" and you've been able to proudly say "she's 5days/weeks/months old" or "She's 3.... Yes she's tall/short for her age... No not going to school until next September" or whatever.

It's just such a normal question to ask about children, especially babies and children under 5.

Well, it wasn't the first thing I thought thanks... and again it was, just general chit chat. Not demanding to know how old the child was. You seem to be making up imaginary scenarios where I was interrogating the parent about their child.

I'm not sure how your interactions go with other parents at playgrounds. But, in my 20+ years experience - it normally just something along the lines of:

<both parents happen to sit on the same bench whilst supervising their kids>

"Hi"
"Hello"
"Nice day"
"Yes, lovely isn't it? Is that one yours?" <points to child>
"Yes - Sam loves it here"
"Ahh, so does mine" <points to child>
"Oh yes, I see him, what's his name?"
"Bobby"
"Cute. How old is he?"
"4 in March"
"Ah yes, mine's just turned 4"
"Oh she's tall!"
"yes, she is, you should see her dad though! ha ha"
"Yes, Bobby's Dad is tall too"

Etc

Now, I have no idea what it is you chit chat to about other parents at playgrounds - maybe you don't and keep to yourself. But it really isn't unusual, it really isn't strange... I still find it incredibly unusual that not a single person has ever once asked you how old your baby/child might be. <shrug>

I wouldn't like my child be naked in public ever, but what others decide to do with their children doesn't bother me.

People from different countries have different idea's about these things. Public nudity, even for adults (in saunas etc) is more normal in some countries.