How Can I Hint For A Hoilday?

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How can I hint for a holiday?

We've not had a holiday, abroad or in the UK since pre covid, September 2019.

My DH came into some money 6 months ago. We are not struggling but are not rolling in it.

I'd love to be able to take the kids ( 6 & 1 ) away this year but I don't want to directly mention it to DH. Everyone else seems to be going, it just makes me feel a little flat.

How can I plant the seed/drop hints that I want us to go?

Why can’t you just talk about it directly?

Why do you not want to just ask him?

hey jim see that money you gave, how about we use some of it for a family holiday? We could all use a break?

Don't hint for things! Ask for what you want

Can you not speak to your husband directly? What is all this business of dropping hints about?

This is so odd. Is it not family money?

Just say to DH you fancy a holiday and get one booked.

Why can't you just say "do you think we can do a holiday this year?"

Bizarre. Just speak to your DH as an adult having a conversation in an equal relationship

I'm not sure why. I just feel awkward about it. It's DH money to be fair, so that's maybe why, as we would need to use it/his money. He's 100% approachable, great husband & father.

Do some research, find holidays that you like the look of, cost them . Make sure there is a range of prices and destinations. Then ask him to choose one.

I say I want to go on holiday all the time and we literally have no money to go anywhere. It shouldn't have to be awkward. The worst he can say is no or he doesn't want to. Just say shall we look at going on holiday again soon.

Is there no way you can have a holiday without using his money?

I feel I'm going to ask the question everyone else is going to ask....by why can't you just ask?

Is he going to get annoyed at the suggestion he spends his windfall on the family?

TBH, if he hasn't already considered it, I imagine hints that he buys a family holiday are going to have to be pretty blatant - and probably feel more presumptuous than if you just asked.

Hinting about how its such nice weather, wouldn't it be nice to spend a few days at the beach, getting away from it all, how you all need a break etc. just feels...not right.
Like you want him to go...."shall I spend my money on a family holiday" and you go "oh! how lovely and thoughtful....I just happen to have this amazing plan"

Rather than just saying "DH, I was thinking it would be nice to go on holiday this year, would you mind/like to use your windfall on that, or did you have something else in mind?"

Hinting is manipulative AF and sets you up to fail if he doesn't take the hint. Just say what you mean.

I think you need to take a step back and ask yourself why you want to go on holiday with someone that you can’t even talk to about basic things like going on holiday!

Talking about places you’d like to visit together is completely normal between couples. You see a Jet 2 Ad on TV- “ those waterslides look fun”, DS would love them, shall we go away this year?

“Jenny in the school run says they’re off to Florida this summer, maybe we should make some plans?”

Look at the beautiful blue water in this newspaper article, have you ever thought about going to Croatia?

“oh, there’s a new episode of Travel Man tonight, let’s watch it. “

”Remember what a fab time we had in Italy on our honeymoon?”

Don't hint, it's weird. Try, Hey love, fancy going on holiday with the kids this summer/October half term?

I would straight up ask, or just say shall we go on holiday. But all our stuff including money is ours and not individual.

Everything goes into a single account.

Why do you need to hint? Just suggest it based on the money he received. Surely you’d discuss together what to do with the money? It’s family money not his

Some posts on MN leave me shaking my head in bafflement, and yours is one of them, OP.
He’s your husband, for goodness sake. Why on earth would you feel you can’t have a perfectly normal conversation with him about going on holiday? Being in a relationship with someone who is incapable of communicating in an honest, straightforward manner would drive me bonkers.

Just talk to him!!

You just say you'd like to go on holiday.

Hinting about it will be a lot more annoying.

You are married.
There isn’t his and your money.

At his place, I’d have CHOSEN to talk about a hols as a way to treat everyone (not all the money blablabla).
Id also have had a chat to you about what to do with said money.

If you are wondering how to approach it, I’d start by asking him wha5 are his plans for the money.

I don't get the his money/my money. Whenever either of us have come into any it goes to our joint savings and we spend it as we agree to. Talking about going on holiday should be a entirely normal and uneventful conversation.

What a strange relationship you must have if you think this is a normal or appropriate way to approach your husband about booking a holiday. How do you normally pay for holidays?

Just suggest a holiday to your husband straight up. If he says no, then at least you have planted a seed and he knows that your wanting a holiday...so he may go off and have a think about it and come round to the idea

Why would you hint?

How is he great if he hasn't shared the money already? Or at least discussed how to all enjoy it?