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Mum sentenced to 28 months in prison for abortion pills

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mumoftwobarnyboys · 12/06/2023 17:26

Used after the cut off point of 10 weeks.

Regardless of how far gone she was, surely this isn't right?

It is her body, despite me morally really thinking what she did was very wrong.

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2023/jun/12/woman-in-uk-jailed-for-28-months-over-taking-abortion-pills-after-legal-time-limit?CMP=twtgu&utmmsource=Twitter&utmmedium=&s=08#Echobox=1686577294

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JaneNormanBag · 13/06/2023 10:10

Notbeinfunnehbut · 13/06/2023 10:01

i also don’t think prison was the right thing here

im wondering if it’s more in response to the deception and the trauma inflicted on the medical staff as a result of that , terrible and sad all round

She acted illegally by killing her baby. Prison is really not a disproportionate sentence here

AgathaSpencerGregson · 13/06/2023 10:11

Labtastic · 13/06/2023 10:05

im sorry, but can you explain why you think the statutory position you advocate is less likely to be changed than the current one (which has endured for almost 60 years); and why you think our current statutory position is as insecure as the US position (which was never enshrined in legislation)?
both propositions seem like legal nonsense to me, but perhaps I’m missing something

I don't think you're missing anything - they're just different perspectives. The bottom line for me is that there is currently a law which states abortion is illegal, apart from certain exceptions. I would far rather that there was no law criminalising abortion, and that it was just widely accepted that it is a healthcare issue and nothing to do with the law at all. To me, it seems it would potentially be easier for a bad actor government to amend the 67 Act to remove the exceptions, than to re-criminalise it after full decriminalisation, but perhaps that's just my gut instinct.

So in fact you think the law should change not to secure women’s rights but to accord with your ethical beliefs.
nope.

7eleven · 13/06/2023 10:12

MadamWhiteleigh · 13/06/2023 09:49

But when you say control,what do you mean? Say I’m 32 weeks pregnant and request an abortion. What if I don’t ‘meet’ the guidelines and regulations? Am I refused one?

For me, yes you are.

oakleaffy · 13/06/2023 10:14

JaneNormanBag · 13/06/2023 10:10

She acted illegally by killing her baby. Prison is really not a disproportionate sentence here

It was her “Not Guilty” plea that finally put her in chokey though.

She made some very poor decisions all round.

Bananananananananana · 13/06/2023 10:14

AbraKedavra · 13/06/2023 02:39

According to some posters we should really change the definition:

Woman. n. type of human who has infallible wisdom, is immune from making mistakes, and can always be trusted to make the right choices.

And if you disagree, you're a misogynist trying to take away women's right to choose abortion.

Labtastic · 13/06/2023 10:19

So in fact you think the law should change not to secure women’s rights but to accord with your ethical beliefs.
nope.

Eh? What ethical beliefs are you referring to?

AgathaSpencerGregson · 13/06/2023 10:22

Labtastic · 13/06/2023 10:19

So in fact you think the law should change not to secure women’s rights but to accord with your ethical beliefs.
nope.

Eh? What ethical beliefs are you referring to?

Your belief that abortion should never be criminal and should be treated as a healthcare issue solely (although I’m not sure the latter point actually gets you to where you want to be - the criminal law impinges on many areas of healthcare, not just this one).
the law is not there to reflect your personal beliefs. It is there to reflect the compromise our society as a whole has reached. I personally thin the current law does that well and we undermine it at our peril.

Lolitaisfree · 13/06/2023 10:23

JaneNormanBag · 13/06/2023 10:10

She acted illegally by killing her baby. Prison is really not a disproportionate sentence here

Agreed.

She intentionally ended the life of her child many weeks after the legal abortion limit. And repeatedly lied to do so. Not just to medical professionals but to her family, her estranged partner and the father of the baby

Had she gone into labour spontaneously at 32-34 weeks and suffocated the infant, she would have been charged with more serious offences.

The intent was the same (to illegally end the life of the child), the result was the same. The court sympathised with her predicament and she was fortunate to be treated sympathetically.

It's relevant legally that she was not charged with infanticide but not morally. The intent and outcome were the same, she wanted to end the life of her child who could have lived had she not taken that action. And she ended that life.

Overturning abortion laws or discussion of abortion laws are not really relevant in what she did.

Scottishdreams1991 · 13/06/2023 10:25

Im so torn about where i stand on late term abortions but i have a question for people who think abortion to term is ok.
If a pregnant women was killed and she was over 24 weeks. The person who killed her would also be charged with killing her unborn child ( rightly so)
If abortions were allowed after 24 weeks would that no longer happen? As surely the law be different for wanted/ unwanted. Genuine question.

BusterGonad · 13/06/2023 10:51

At the start of this thread I thought the mother was awful and appalling but after reading through everyone's point of view and informative information I actually do believe it is every woman's right to have total control over her body. A late abortion sounds horrific but she must have been desperate to do so. I'm really baffled by the comments along the lines of 'are you a mother' 'I've had a premature baby and I'm disgusted' I don't see the point of such views. What difference does it make? I'm a mother, I had a baby at 28 weeks weighing 1lb 10oz, it doesn't change the fact that this woman, for whatever reason was desperate, I'm sure she was well aware of its size and what being a mother is like. Some of these comments are like something out of a fairy tale. 'why didn't she just put it up for adoption'. Life is so easy for some. Some problems just don't have easy answers. It's awful. I just can't imagine the desperation.

BusterGonad · 13/06/2023 10:53

Scottishdreams1991 · 13/06/2023 10:25

Im so torn about where i stand on late term abortions but i have a question for people who think abortion to term is ok.
If a pregnant women was killed and she was over 24 weeks. The person who killed her would also be charged with killing her unborn child ( rightly so)
If abortions were allowed after 24 weeks would that no longer happen? As surely the law be different for wanted/ unwanted. Genuine question.

Abortion is a choice, being murdered whilst pregnant isn't.

AgathaSpencerGregson · 13/06/2023 11:00

BusterGonad · 13/06/2023 10:51

At the start of this thread I thought the mother was awful and appalling but after reading through everyone's point of view and informative information I actually do believe it is every woman's right to have total control over her body. A late abortion sounds horrific but she must have been desperate to do so. I'm really baffled by the comments along the lines of 'are you a mother' 'I've had a premature baby and I'm disgusted' I don't see the point of such views. What difference does it make? I'm a mother, I had a baby at 28 weeks weighing 1lb 10oz, it doesn't change the fact that this woman, for whatever reason was desperate, I'm sure she was well aware of its size and what being a mother is like. Some of these comments are like something out of a fairy tale. 'why didn't she just put it up for adoption'. Life is so easy for some. Some problems just don't have easy answers. It's awful. I just can't imagine the desperation.

i think it needs to be understood that lots of people are in desperate or confused states when they commit offences. This might be mitigation but it is not an excuse. I am not sure why this case should be different.

ThePygmy · 13/06/2023 11:00

I am sorry but what she did amounts to murder in my view

yes she should be jailed

Bananananananananana · 13/06/2023 11:03

Abortion is a choice, being murdered whilst pregnant isn't.

Its not about murder.

She's specifically asking why it's ok (according to some posters) to unlawfully kill a 32-34 week fetus if you are the mother.

But not ok for a third party to kill a fetus, such as if the mother is attacked or killed. We'd all say that killing somebody else's fetus is abhorrent and deserves a charge in relation to that act (in addition to assault or murder).

BusterGonad · 13/06/2023 11:05

AgathaSpencerGregson · 13/06/2023 11:00

i think it needs to be understood that lots of people are in desperate or confused states when they commit offences. This might be mitigation but it is not an excuse. I am not sure why this case should be different.

Because it was her body. Why should someone be told what to do with their body. It's not the same as other crimes. She couldn't just walk away from it.

Peverellshire · 13/06/2023 11:08

Where America leads do we, gradually, follow?

Gothambutnotahamster · 13/06/2023 11:12

Labtastic · 13/06/2023 09:47

Abortion is still illegal in the U.K. It’s easy to forget that. Access isn’t actually that easy. You can be denied aftercare treatment by HCPs who morally object to abortion (it’s happened to me in the U.K.). making it illegal gives weight to these viewpoints,

Exactly. The bottom line is that all women seeking an abortion are reliant on an exception to its default illegality. While in the vast, vast majority of cases this poses no problem, we should all be aware of the precarious nature of that position for the future. You only have to look at what is happening in the US to see how quickly things can change in the wrong hands. Women need much better blanket protection enshrined in law.

Couldn't agree more.

FlippyFloppyFlappy · 13/06/2023 11:14

I’m a bit surprised she’s been “named and shamed” in the media, I think she should have been given anonymity.

Lolitaisfree · 13/06/2023 11:15

AgathaSpencerGregson · 13/06/2023 11:00

i think it needs to be understood that lots of people are in desperate or confused states when they commit offences. This might be mitigation but it is not an excuse. I am not sure why this case should be different.

Yes. Lots of people commit offences and could give mitigating circumstances.

Very, very few people charged with a crime say 'yeah I knew I was breaking the law and decided to do so hoping I wouldn't get caught or if I was, hope I wouldn't be punished because x, y and z reasons'.

She knew she was pregnant weeks before lockdown. Her estimate was that one of the people she was having sex with impregnated her at some point between Oct and December.

Her texts said in Feb she knew she was pregnant and not just a couple of weeks.

So even before lockdown in March she knew and could have taken steps to abort.

She didn't. And for months she was Googling how to get an abortion, how to get an abortion after the legal limit and if she would go to prison if she did.

She chose to lie to everyone including medical professionals to gain drugs to abort the foetus when she knew she was several months pregnant.

Several months where she knew she was pregnant, knew what the laws were and at one point Googled to see if she could go to prison for aborting a foetus after the legal limit.

She possibly thought she would possibly be able to hide the birth, or not go to prison so she did what she did.

She was wrong and couldn't hide it and was prosecuted and now has to serve a prison sentence.

Which is just.

She demonstrated months of planning but fucked up at the end and got caught. She deserves prison.

Bananananananananana · 13/06/2023 11:19

Because it was her body. Why should someone be told what to do with their body. It's not the same as other crimes. She couldn't just walk away from it.

The baby could have been birthed alive and relinquished, there was seriously no need for this. She gave birth either way, only now thy e baby died, possibly in pain.

WarmWinterSun · 13/06/2023 11:23

I find it hard to understand why she thought it was a better decision to abort at 32-34 weeks, rather than putting up with the pregnancy for another month and delivering a baby who could have been given a home with a loving family. By that late stage I believe the baby had rights too. I support abortion under the existing law but not at 34 weeks. It is absolutely heartbreaking that a mother is now being taken away from her children now. I don’t know what the right answer is in these difficult and complicated circumstances.

Lolitaisfree · 13/06/2023 11:31

BusterGonad · 13/06/2023 11:05

Because it was her body. Why should someone be told what to do with their body. It's not the same as other crimes. She couldn't just walk away from it.

Because a blanket theory of anyone being able to do anything they chose to with their body leads to abject nonsense which is unlawful and can damage all of society

Just look at the recent cases of the extreme mutilation cases of the fetishists removing body parts.

And the cases of women killed where the defence suggests they were in BSDM relationships and it was a oops went too far scenario?

It's their body right? So why not make that legal?

When it's women carrying viable foetus' there is another life to consider.

WarmWinterSun · 13/06/2023 11:35

For those saying the sole consideration is the woman’s body, I doubt they would condone smoking, drinking or taking drugs during pregnancy. Of course the body of the foetus matters too and that is why the law has a cut off point for ending its life (subject to exceptions where the mother’s life is in danger). To me it’s not as black and white as being solely about a woman’s body. I fully understand many women disagree (I support their right to do so) and it is incredibly important to discuss and debate the issue.

Labtastic · 13/06/2023 11:40

WarmWinterSun · 13/06/2023 11:35

For those saying the sole consideration is the woman’s body, I doubt they would condone smoking, drinking or taking drugs during pregnancy. Of course the body of the foetus matters too and that is why the law has a cut off point for ending its life (subject to exceptions where the mother’s life is in danger). To me it’s not as black and white as being solely about a woman’s body. I fully understand many women disagree (I support their right to do so) and it is incredibly important to discuss and debate the issue.

For those saying the sole consideration is the woman’s body, I doubt they would condone smoking, drinking or taking drugs during pregnancy. Yet no matter the extent of damage that a woman caused to her baby through these means, she still wouldn't be prosecuted for it, as far as I am aware.

Lolitaisfree · 13/06/2023 11:44

Labtastic · 13/06/2023 11:40

For those saying the sole consideration is the woman’s body, I doubt they would condone smoking, drinking or taking drugs during pregnancy. Yet no matter the extent of damage that a woman caused to her baby through these means, she still wouldn't be prosecuted for it, as far as I am aware.

Nope. Because those women were not intentionally seeking to end the life of the foetus.

The woman in this case was. There's the difference.