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Would you let your 10 year old do this?

115 replies

ThatsANiceHandbag · 10/06/2023 20:30

Me and dp can't agree.

Dc 10 has been invited to a new classmate's birthday party along with the rest of the class. The party is at their house. I have never met the parents and only ever seen the child once, never spoken to them. As there will be so many children (hopefully) going, they have requested that parents do not stay.

Would you let your dc go?

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ThePoint678 · 10/06/2023 21:30

Yes

Lovepeaceunderstanding · 10/06/2023 21:30

Yes!

CurlewKate · 10/06/2023 21:31

Yes.

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CatsOnTheChair · 10/06/2023 21:32

Yes.
And I happily had 4 kids dropped off at DS's 10th birthday party during Covid. We'd only recently moved, and I only recognized 1 of the kids, let alone their parents!

Whenharrymetsmelly · 10/06/2023 21:32

Gosh your child is TEN! Of course!

xyz111 · 10/06/2023 21:34

Yes, not sure why you wouldn't?

CurlewKate · 10/06/2023 21:38

@dinoice "No. Wouldn’t be for me. But I am very rural. So know the parents. And have a child protection background so no."

Sorry- I don't think you have "child protection background".

ElBandito · 10/06/2023 21:51

Yes.

luckylavender · 10/06/2023 21:52

ThatsANiceHandbag · 10/06/2023 20:30

Me and dp can't agree.

Dc 10 has been invited to a new classmate's birthday party along with the rest of the class. The party is at their house. I have never met the parents and only ever seen the child once, never spoken to them. As there will be so many children (hopefully) going, they have requested that parents do not stay.

Would you let your dc go?

He's 10. What else would you do?

WelcomeToMonkeyTown · 10/06/2023 21:56

Why would you not?

My 5yo does this regularly

Alargeoneplease89 · 10/06/2023 21:57

Pocketfullofdogtreats · 10/06/2023 20:37

Yes. It's normal. You'll be picking up and dropping off, won't you? So you'll see if they live in a shack in the woods or have a couple of wolves for pets.

😂😂

EyelessArseFace · 10/06/2023 22:01

Yes of course.

Quornflakegirl · 10/06/2023 22:04

Yes I would but most definitely not a sleepover.

LifeIsPainHighness · 10/06/2023 22:06

Bloody hell OP o thought you were going to say they wanted to go to the shops alone, not a supervised birthday party - of course they should go!

quietheart · 10/06/2023 22:08

What is your objection?

He will be with his regular classmates.

My question is who in their right minds would have a whole class at a house party?

RoseMartha · 10/06/2023 22:10

Yes

Original poster
ThatsANiceHandbag · 10/06/2023 22:12

Dp thinks that dc should go. My concerns are that I've never met these people and my dc will be in their care for a few hours. I know they will be with their friends but it just seems odd to me. These are complete strangers.
Dc is very nervous around dogs too. I don't know what pets they have but Imagine a dog around all those unfamiliar and lively children. Anything could happen!

If it was a friend or someone I was familiar with I wouldn't have hesitated to let them go.

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DinaofCloud9 · 10/06/2023 22:13

Of course I would.

PN54DJS · 10/06/2023 22:14

Your child is 10..

10 and above year olds don't have their mum hanging around at parties when there's adequate supervision!

I think you should let them go.

Twillow · 10/06/2023 22:14

mrscheema · 10/06/2023 20:52

I have a no sleepover rule even with family or close friends.

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Can I ask why?
When my children were in primary, ten years or so ago, house parties were pretty much the norm.

XiCi · 10/06/2023 22:16

Surely you wouldn't have expected to stay at a 10 year olds birthday party? Parents usually drop and run at a much earlier age

AngryGreasedSantaCatcus · 10/06/2023 22:16

ThatsANiceHandbag · 10/06/2023 22:12

Dp thinks that dc should go. My concerns are that I've never met these people and my dc will be in their care for a few hours. I know they will be with their friends but it just seems odd to me. These are complete strangers.
Dc is very nervous around dogs too. I don't know what pets they have but Imagine a dog around all those unfamiliar and lively children. Anything could happen!

If it was a friend or someone I was familiar with I wouldn't have hesitated to let them go.

You need to learn to let go.For your child's sake. He's 10 , not 3.

Clymene · 10/06/2023 22:17

ThatsANiceHandbag · 10/06/2023 22:12

Dp thinks that dc should go. My concerns are that I've never met these people and my dc will be in their care for a few hours. I know they will be with their friends but it just seems odd to me. These are complete strangers.
Dc is very nervous around dogs too. I don't know what pets they have but Imagine a dog around all those unfamiliar and lively children. Anything could happen!

If it was a friend or someone I was familiar with I wouldn't have hesitated to let them go.

Does your child have additional needs? What are you concerned about?

XiCi · 10/06/2023 22:18

Please don't let your anxiety negatively affect your ds life. This party is entirely normal

AtleastitsnotMonday · 10/06/2023 22:18

If it would make you feel more comfortable phone the parents and ask about pets. It would give you a chance to at least speak to them