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Would you let your 10 year old do this?

115 replies

ThatsANiceHandbag · 10/06/2023 20:30

Me and dp can't agree.

Dc 10 has been invited to a new classmate's birthday party along with the rest of the class. The party is at their house. I have never met the parents and only ever seen the child once, never spoken to them. As there will be so many children (hopefully) going, they have requested that parents do not stay.

Would you let your dc go?

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Silverribbons · 10/06/2023 20:53

100% yes

Nap1983 · 10/06/2023 20:55

Yes absolutely. I’d drop her off, leave details and get theirs, pick up a few hours later. Sleepover I would not unless I knew well.

Alongtimelonely · 10/06/2023 20:56

Yes.

imagine 30 kids in one house … those parents are mad!

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dinoice · 10/06/2023 20:56

No. Wouldn’t be for me. But I am very rural. So know the parents. And have a child protection background so no.

Clymene · 10/06/2023 20:56

Yea of course. Parents don't stay at 10 year old's parties, not ever. You don't need to know the parents. You know where they live, you know their kid is in your kid's class.

You/your husband need to get a handle on this because by secondary which is coming soon, you won't ever see the parents.

TheLoupGarou · 10/06/2023 20:57

At 10 and a class party? Yes of course, why not?

Obviously if you get there and they are lining up jello shots think again.....

Girliefriendlikespuppies · 10/06/2023 20:57

Yes of course.

Would be weird to have an issue with this imo.

mycatsanutter · 10/06/2023 20:57

Yes , I would say yes with no hesitation

2bazookas · 10/06/2023 20:58

When I was young, and when my kids were kids, all childrens parties were like that. Parents and sibling hangers on never stayed.
I'd delivered the invited guest to the party address; said goodbye at the doorstep and collect them at the end of the party.

Orangello · 10/06/2023 20:59

of course. Do some parents really expect to stay at that age? Drop and run surely.

MyMachineAndMe · 10/06/2023 20:59

Yes, I would and I have.

PuttingDownRoots · 10/06/2023 21:00

My DD had a group of friends for a party last year... most of the parents had never met me beforehand! They were nine. They all came.

Now at 10 they all play out together.

Iammetoday · 10/06/2023 21:01

Over 5 abd I drop and go. My 10 year old would be mortified if I insisted on going to a party she was invited to! Is your dc year 5? Secondary is fast approaching so you do need to cut the apron strings a little as you sound a little over the top....

Mummyoflittledragon · 10/06/2023 21:05

Yes. I would want the parent’s details and for them to have mine in case of any issues.

reluctantbrit · 10/06/2023 21:06

Yes of course. DD was 5 when I was pushed out of the door at one party by her.

We found a basic phone and a pre-arranged word in case she needed emergency pick up worked well, small enough to be in her pocket and it gave her confidence not to need it at all.

Sleepovers are a different thing.

Schoolchoicesucks · 10/06/2023 21:07

At 4, probably not. By 7 or 8 probably yes. By 10 definitely. They are entertaining your kid (and 5-20+ others) for a couple of hours. Who would want or be able to accommodate 5-20+ adults as well?

Tigger1895 · 10/06/2023 21:07

Yes, the norm is to drop kids off to birthday parties.

bladebladebla1 · 10/06/2023 21:13

I did this with my 5 year old, maybe I'm a bad un

NerrSnerr · 10/06/2023 21:20

No problem at all. Imagine if they had 30 kids and 30 parents!!

Aslanplustwo · 10/06/2023 21:21

2bazookas · 10/06/2023 20:58

When I was young, and when my kids were kids, all childrens parties were like that. Parents and sibling hangers on never stayed.
I'd delivered the invited guest to the party address; said goodbye at the doorstep and collect them at the end of the party.

Just what I was going to say. I can't believe any parents would stay at a 10 year old's party anyway. I was off to secondary school at 10 and would not have appreciated being treated like a baby

Artgalleryloner · 10/06/2023 21:21

Yes, if the outside of the house looked fine, I’d want to know that they didn’t have a breed of dog I choose to avoid though!

LaDamaDeElche · 10/06/2023 21:25

Of course.

Comedycook · 10/06/2023 21:29

Yes definitely...and I'm very risk averse and a total helicopter parent!

LBFseBrom · 10/06/2023 21:29

Yes, why not? Parents staying (with younger children), is a fairly new thing. When mine was small nobody did, they just dropped their child off and picked them up later. There was never any problem.

CherryYree · 10/06/2023 21:30

Yes.

Is it a big house / garden party?