No replies to the party invites

[HmAndAh]

I asked to handle out 15 invitations at my DC preschool a couple of weeks ago. The party is in three weeks. We received only one rsvp. My dc is really obsessed with a birthday party and so looking forward to it.

Today I overheard that my dc’s best friend is having a party in a week, and my DC is not invited. Other kids from the nursery are invited. I am not sure what we are doing wrong and what we can do to improve things. We moved to this small town a couple of years ago. I am from another country, my husband is not. Neither of us have problems with communicating in our usual circle, so I would not say that we are weird or rude.

I feel that we will need to cancel the party if only one child is coming otherwise it would be very awkward. Any suggestions welcome.

Hopefully it will be a nice party both for kids and parents :-)

I would definitely chase up the no replies.

11 is a decent number, I would chase up the non replies, if venue needs numbers. Lots of people forget to reply, or reply at the last minute

I still think you'll get people replying in the next few days.

And some who didnt reply might just turn up and attend.

Perhaps you sent out the invites a bit late. My son's party is early august and we've had some good response

Ah that's great! 11 is a good number :) nice to read and hope your DC has a lovely party

Hope she has a nice party. I think there might be a few turn up without RSVPing.

Agree, I'd definitely count the ones that haven't replied as a yes, just in case!

I had this. I spoke to the nursery who sent out an email about it.
I've now had more replies

I feel for you. In my opinion it’s a privilege to be invited to a party and they should rsvp or at the very least let you know they’ll get back to you once they know their plans. It’s just considerate. And I have no words for the mum not inviting your child who is friends with their child. Mean! I’m new to my area too so I totally understand how it feels at the school gates where the others all seem so embedded in their friendships. Just know it’s not you. My son would have loved to come to your party. An ice cream van sounds great. I hope your dc and both you and your husband have a lovely time and make some special memories. It sounds like you have a decent number. Try not to take any of the Mum politics personally some of the behaviour says a lot about them and nothing about you or your family. Take care.

Have you booked if for the first weekend of the school holidays? That’s a busy time for lots of families.

Hope your little one has a great party ❤️

You have to chase! I found I had to ask directly. It's not nagging. And I've found more than one invite at the bottom of the school bag at end of term - party long passed.

@HmAndAh
How did it go in the end? Lovely party for 11 or did the 6 non-replies turn up ??

It's my daughters party today and I only had one RSVP before the deadline date I put on it. People are terrible at this (including me!) I ended up reminding people at pick up time.