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Do dress your age!??

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wwyd83 · 03/06/2023 15:46

I've been told I don't - however I don't care .....

Do dress your age!??
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Shutupyoutart · 03/06/2023 22:27

I think you look great op :) you have a fab figure and I say if youve got it flaunt it. My mum is almost 60 has a fab figure and looks good in anything and she always worries that certain clothes are "too young" for her. I don't get it! wear what makes you happy and that you feel comfortable and confident in :)

LagoonaBalloon · 03/06/2023 22:30

I don't think dressing your age is a thing now. Woman generally wear what they like and feel comfortable in at any age.

Farmageddon · 03/06/2023 22:33

wwyd83 · 03/06/2023 18:24

Thinking back to when my mother was my age, it was floral skirts, silk shirts, patent heels, tailored trousers, I don't think she owned a pair of jeans!

My sister who isn't much older dresses entirely different. Skirts and embroidery tops. Very 'white stuff' looking.

I'm usually live in dungarees and DMs it's only today I put jeans on, I got them from a charity shop and made the rips.. trying my £3 bargain out..

My mother is 79 and wears slim fit jeans and trainers, I think she looks great. There aren't really the same rules anymore.

You sound a bit judgey about what your sister wears though...

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neilyoungismyhero · 03/06/2023 22:41

I'm 70 and wearing skinny Levis, old pink DMs and a t shirt and waterfall cardi. Pretty much what I've worn my entire life.

wwyd83 · 04/06/2023 00:46

@scrivette

I watched a YT video, took ages and it was messy. All you need is a pair of scissors, tweezers, patience and a hoover!!!!

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wwyd83 · 04/06/2023 00:48

@Farmageddon

Not judging her at all. She has lots of money and always dresses very feminine and smart ... The opposite to me. I apologise if I came across judgmental I was just saying we
are completely different.

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wwyd83 · 04/06/2023 01:04

My son who is 24 said to me this morning 'You look like you're wearing xxxx clothes', she's my 19 year old niece!

I really don't care how I dress or where I get my clothes from. It took me a long time to be comfortable in what I wear. Growing up I wanted to fit in with my girly friends and I never felt right - then probably 10 years ago I threw away all the dresses and skirts I had never worn, got rid of any shoes that looked remotely girly.

Since I have attempted to be girly for exes to be what they wanted and it never worked out .. i couldn't force it.

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Maireas · 04/06/2023 01:13

Well, your son needs to be a bit more open minded about women's clothing - although he may just have been teasing! You're dressing how you want to. If your style is a bit more gender neutral, so be it. It's hardly radical nowadays, so just go with it. No need to conform to others' expectations.

DiscoBeat · 04/06/2023 01:17

If you look like that it's your call, totally.

Vitriolinsanity · 04/06/2023 01:24

Hmm I asked my son what outfit tonight for a bar drinks. Age 16 he managed not to reference my age, in fact he thought I should wear trainers. Maybe your DS needs a word with himself.

SleepingStandingUp · 04/06/2023 01:25

You're the same age as DH, he lives in jeans and Marvel TShirts. No one cares if he's in the same style as 30 years ago, on account of his penis. It shouldn't be any different for women.

LordSalem · 04/06/2023 02:58

Nope. Very short and skinny. Goth and love it. I like dresses, lacy mini skirts, fishnets, platforms and accessories. Treated like a teenager because I’m baby faced. I’m about to be 34 and have an 11 year old.
I don’t complain, except for when I’m verbally abused in the street over the way I look. I’m a sore thumb around here. Not that that's stopped me since the age of 13 🤘🏻

CallMeTomorrow · 04/06/2023 03:07

Your son is rude and a bit of a misogynist if he thinks women should dress a certain way. I’d have told him to fuck off and to sort his attitude.

Its jeans and a vest, it’s a generic outfit. Although the 19 year old girls don’t here don’t really wear what you are. Who cares. If you like it, wear it.

PatchworkDonkey · 04/06/2023 15:43

I'm usually live in dungarees and DMs it's only today I put jeans on, I got them from a charity shop and made the rips.. trying my £3 bargain out.

I'd say whoever said it is jealous. For a start you're slim which a lot of people aspire to but struggle to achieve. You're experimenting which lots of people don't have the guts to do. You've got tattoos and don't feel the need to cover them up to appease people who don't like tattoos. You're wearing a simple, basic outfit and look good in it. I find people can be very jealous of a confident person, which is what you look like. That comment about dressing your age was designed to put you down, diminish you, make you uncertain and less confident.

I don't know if I dress my age. That depends what you mean by it. Do I dress like a current 20-something? No. Do I still wear the clothes from my youth mixed with modern pieces? Yes. Do I wear items of clothing sometimes seen as the preserve of the young, like sleeveless top, mini skirt, latest style jeans etc? Yes.

A lot of the time I think "dress your age" means jealousy. It's code for "how dare you be so confident as to be able to wear whatever you like, and why haven't you got fat yet?" as if with both you've committed some sort of crime. I think some people want anyone past the first flush of youth to mark themselves as older by wearing the most basic of generic clothes, that may not fit well or be in good condition, or else look very obviously dressed up in a try-hard, young-people-would-never-dress-in-this-style kind of way. Like the clothes are the equivalent of a tattoo across you face reading I'm Unfashionable And No Longer Young. And if you don't conform, you're fair game for snarky comments about dressing your age.

sawnotseen · 04/06/2023 18:05

Nope! I still wear clothes that I had in my 20s..... I'm 52 now!

Idratherbepaddleboarding · 04/06/2023 18:18

Nope, I dress like a teenage girl 😂. My argument is, I dressed like that long before they did so I’m not changing!

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