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School pick up twat

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Revoltingrhyme · 25/05/2023 22:11

We’re all anonymous here so we can secretly rage at the one person who drives us insane at school pick up.

Now I’ll start by saying this isn’t an attack on the women, I am a young, high maintenance woman myself- platinum hair, false tan etc but there’s a few groups of similar mums at the school pick up who come in gym sets, hair all done, lovely done filler. Very glam.

But it’s this one dad who sets my teeth on edge. He will cut the queue every day and walk up the path past everyone until he finds one of these mums and tries to flirt with them very blatantly. It’s the strut he does, the specific type of woman he looks for. He’s not even cutting right up to the front, just until he sees one of these mums who are simply trying to pick up their kids. Argh he makes my skin crawl and it never fails to irritate me every day 😂

Anyone else have that one twat at pick up who annoys you?

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HerMammy · 26/05/2023 13:55

@Toottooot
By the time they've spent on the hideous overpriced boden drab they've no money for hair or nails.
Boden with their predominantly white, non blonde models 🙄

elizabethdraper · 26/05/2023 13:56

would be without my dry robe tbh
for sea swimming and the pool, straight on home for a shower.
no flaffing at changing rooms

They are also amazing for standing on football side lines in winter.

Our school is a mixture of the hippy mums/gym wear but wft parents/ parent off on a run after drop off

There are no glam people i can think of

JaimeJardin · 26/05/2023 13:57

Thepeopleversuswork · 26/05/2023 13:28

Hear hear. I think it's a hangover from Puritanism and a toxic mixture of class snobbery and moralism.

These people aren't religious any more (mostly), but they carry with them a set of attitudes that harks back to a Christian ethic that any kind of self care or self-adornment is "flashy" and "fast" and is probably indicative that you are insecure OR looking for extra marital sex.

My mum was totally like this and it was all about insecurity because she'd married "up" She thought it was trashy to get a manicure or have your hair dyed blonde and she basically didn't like any kind of self-adornment so she was always pushing us to wear really dull, hippyish, gender neutral and unsexy clothes.

It left me with loads of hangups about beauty and self care and a lifelong love of the aesthetic she hated. I've always been blonde and made up and loved hot pink. God rest her soul she must be turning in her grave.

There's loads of it about. The Boden wearing, Birkenstock wearing, dry robe wearing, no make-up, clean nails crowds. They will all say its because it's practical and because they don't care what they look like and can't be bothered to run a brush their hair etc but mostly it's stealth snobbery.

You should definitely enjoy your colourful, fun style, each to their own. I don't find manicured nails and platinum hair particularly attractive. To me it comes across as affected and artificial, I prefer a classic, polished and natural look. It's not at all stealth snobbery to go for a clean nail look, I detest the feel of nail varnish on my nails and the faff of having to maintain all that. My dd loves a more fun, bright and loud look and I love it for her but it wouldn't be for me. How boring it would be if we all looked the same either peroxide blonde or subdued colours and baggy clothes.

Blueisthecolour1 · 26/05/2023 13:58

@TheodoreMortlock

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Hoppingmad231 · 26/05/2023 13:58

Am just wondering when gym wear became glam🤔 when I wear my gym stuff its togo the gym and believe me I don't look or feel glam then.

username100001 · 26/05/2023 14:02

We have the most unbelievably annoying mum clique group to endure. They judge you on your worth based on if you are 'cool' in their eyes or your child is in the football group. If you are deemed not worthy, you will be blanked in the streets and blatantly ignored 🙄😂

realityhack · 26/05/2023 14:04

HerMammy · 26/05/2023 08:22

@summerfinn
It seems to be a badge of pride to say oh I can't even brush my hair I'm soooo busy being a mum, comments like this Sorry but your description of "glam" is rather grim. Fake tans and platinum hair? No thanks are just nasty and bitchy, why do these glum women think it's ok to drag down someone's appearance? My DD has platinum hair, tan, nails and is an extremely hard working SW, does it lessen her abilities? no it doesn't, would she do better in leggings and tunic, no makeup?
The snide attitudes on here about anyone outside of the MC drab are so insular and snotty.

I agree. Its almost like a bragging contest over who looks the most shit 😂

Thepeopleversuswork · 26/05/2023 14:07

@JaimeJardin I agree and of course there are plenty of people who can't be bothered with the maintenance which goes with the high gloss look and fair enough. I often don't bother with this.

But there's definitely a strong streak of snobbery running through some of these posts with people pretending they "can't understand" how people can find the time to dye their hair and nails and fake tan etc.

What they are actually trying to do is say this is common without saying its common, so they come out with faux naive stuff about not having time to brush their hair etc. It's a stealth way of saying: "I'm far too busy and intellectual to worry about trivia like this, I prefer more wholesome pursuits and I think it looks cheap". Trust me, I grew up with this and I know the syndrome inside out.

Suan666 · 26/05/2023 14:08

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coxesorangepippin · 26/05/2023 14:14

Fag?

HerMammy · 26/05/2023 14:16

@JaimeJardin
You should definitely enjoy your colourful, fun style, each to their own. I don't find manicured nails and platinum hair particularly attractive. To me it comes across as affected and artificial, I prefer a classic, polished and natural look.

Very PA, trying to hide your sneering in among enjoy your colourful style 🙄

JaimeJardin · 26/05/2023 14:18

@Thepeopleversuswork
"I'm far too busy and intellectual to worry about trivia like this, I prefer more wholesome pursuits and I think it looks cheap".
I very much feel all this. But luckily as mums, we are forced to open our minds a bit 😂. My dd is loud when I'm discrete, she's is colourful and stands out when I want to blend in. She wears figure hugging clothes when I have always gone for comfort and a loose fit.

I can see how my dd's looks and style is based on her personality. Her clothes and accessories suit her and she finds it fun and satisfying to dress in this way. For example she loves dangly chandler earrings, I couldn't bare it, they'd annoy me so much and I'd just feel them and couldn't relax and enjoy myself.

I'm fiercely proud of her so am embracing this look as she rocks it. I love that she's not a carbon copy of me. We are different and as the cliche goes, that's a good thing.

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Hag…?

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What a spiteful spiteful post. Every time you think you can't be any more shocked by how vile people are, someone like you comes along.

Soubriquet · 26/05/2023 14:40

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Holy fucking shit.

itdoesnt · 26/05/2023 14:45

Holy shit 😂😂 that disappeared the second I finished reading. Dear god that was unreal reading 😂😂😂

Soubriquet · 26/05/2023 14:53

itdoesnt · 26/05/2023 14:45

Holy shit 😂😂 that disappeared the second I finished reading. Dear god that was unreal reading 😂😂😂

I’m so glad I got to read it. Honestly I’m still trying to pick my jaw off the floor

Thepeopleversuswork · 26/05/2023 14:53

@JaimeJardin

I agree: and its very noticeable that people often define their aesthetic in opposition to what their parents look like.

My mum was very much the Boden neutral natural fibres type and I have gone the opposite way: partly an instinctive act of rebellion against a parent but also because I somehow felt there was something rather puritanical and self-deprecating about the way she styled herself. But I can also appreciate that many people dislike the pressure that comes with the expectation of having to do yourself up all the time and frankly life is often far too short to spend having a manicure every other week.

It's obviously partly down to lifestyle and demographics but it's also very very Freudian.

misslooloo · 26/05/2023 16:10

Longwhiskers · 26/05/2023 13:25

I feel disappointed in our school yard. We are 5 mins walk from the beach yet never seen a dry robe, people must go and change before doing the school run!

We clearly do not live in the same seaside town.

A reliable source tells me they’re also regularly sighted in schoolyards nine miles inland.

Revoltingrhyme · 26/05/2023 18:19

CharlottenBurger · 26/05/2023 13:25

Maybe the OP was bringing it on herself with all the blather about the bottle- blonde/fake tan/and fillers look? As if it was something to admire? Not everyone feels that way.

If I hadn’t mentioned I was similar and said I was a Boden wearing, MC, Kate Middleton super fan id have been told I was judging them!

it wasn’t about the women ffs.

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Pearfacebananapoopanickle · 26/05/2023 18:27

We have annoying Grandad Twat. The one mum brings her dad to everything and he's first in the bloody queue for everything, goes to get a seat for her for assembly whilst the rest of us are dealing with kids, Sat middle of the front row each time. Comes to things that are supposed to be one parent only. Just his face annoys me.

13Bastards · 26/05/2023 18:31

Yes @misslooloo! I live on the coast and you cannot move for dry robes now. They are bloody everywhere as standard clothing.

waterlego · 26/05/2023 18:36

There's loads of it about. The Boden wearing, Birkenstock wearing, dry robe wearing, no make-up, clean nails crowds. They will all say its because it's practical and because they don't care what they look like and can't be bothered to run a brush their hair etc but mostly it's stealth snobbery.

See, this makes me worry about what others think of me. I don’t wear Boden but I do wear a Dry Robe when it’s cold or pissing down. I have short nails with no polish on. I don’t wear make up. I do brush my hair but it’s fairly pointless as my hair just does its own thing regardless. I don’t have the patience for grooming. I’m terrible at applying make up (and at my age, I find make up makes me look older anyway as it settles into the cracks in my face 😂) I don’t like having long nails as I find them impractical.

But I am absolutely not judging anyone else. A couple of my friends are similar to me but most of them are well-groomed and have long painted nails, get their hair done regularly, dress fairly smartly etc. We manage to get on with each other regardless.

I hate the thought that others might think I’m a snob. I’m honestly just trying to get through life.

SummerDawn2000 · 26/05/2023 18:55

Soubriquet · 26/05/2023 08:45

One of the mums here shows up with her horse every now and then…so her precious dd gets to ride the horse home.

Tbf. Though highly in appropriate that does sound lovely. I hope the horse is friendly and likes a pat from the children and teachers.