Until recently I didn’t even realise MIL’s partner had any children. I have known him for quite a few years and not once has him having a child ever been mentioned. I assumed maybe he didn’t want kids or couldn’t have kids. I’ve always found him very creepy but can’t put my finger on what it is about him that’s off. I’ve found out this week, when I casually asked my husband if he thought he just didn’t want kids, that he actually has 4 kids and some grandkids too. My husband doesn’t know their names or anything but just knows none of them speak to him. I’m sure there are cases where there could be an innocent explanation for this but I just get such a bad vibe and think what would someone have to do for NONE of his 4 children or any of his grandchildren to want anything to do with him?! It’s only came up since we had a baby last year and my MIL insists on referring to her partner as her grandpa, which I’m really not comfortable with 🤦🏻♀️ Why would none of them want anything to do with him?
tailinthejam · 23/05/2023 21:41
I knew someone who was estranged from his dc and never saw his grandchildren. I used to feel sorry for him, and assumed it was because they'd sided with his ex-wife, their mother.
Then I found out why. No prizes for guessing. He's currently serving a jail term for child sex abuse, and it turned out he'd been accused before, years ago, but got away with it that time. The family about it, which was why they went no contact, and wouldn't allow his grandkids anywhere near him.
GL123 · 23/05/2023 21:47
@scoopoftheday thats my fear that it could be exactly that and that was like his past life that I have no way of knowing anything about. He sees my child when we go to visit and even find that creepy if he says anything to her because in my head I’m just telling myself he’s one of these people 😩
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