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Can DD wear this to a Holy Communion?

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Crunchymum · 22/05/2023 15:18

MIL said "she can't wear white" but I assume that rule was just for weddings

Dress is white tea dress and will be with a multicolour cardi and white sandals

Can DD wear this to a Holy Communion?
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WeaselKingHenry · 22/05/2023 15:20

Of course she can

Marlena1 · 22/05/2023 15:21

I probably wouldn't if you have another dress she could wear. If not, I'd put a coloured cardigan over it. I've honestly never thought about this with communions though😁

Marlena1 · 22/05/2023 15:23

Actually on second thoughts I think it's probably fine, it doesn't look like a communion dress!

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Crunchymum · 22/05/2023 15:27

She hates dresses and this is the only formal-ish one we have (I don't want to buy another one that she won't wear)

Cardigan is like this one -

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LudicrouslyCapaciousBag · 22/05/2023 15:29

Is she one of the first communicants or a guest? If the latter and if it is a very traditional Catholic or high Anglican church then no, tbh, it wouldn't really be appropriate. Does she have something reasonably smart that isn't a dress?

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Crunchymum · 22/05/2023 15:30

This is cardi

Can DD wear this to a Holy Communion?
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Crunchymum · 22/05/2023 15:30

We're guests. She isnt the one taking her H.C

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Qbish · 22/05/2023 15:32

No, she shouldn't wear a white dress to someone else's first Holy Communion.

LudicrouslyCapaciousBag · 22/05/2023 15:32

How old is she?

SilentParrot · 22/05/2023 15:32

it's absolutely fine.

AnotherDayAnotherUsernameForMe · 22/05/2023 15:33

With that cardigan and some coloured hair accessories I don’t see a problem. How old is your DD?

neilyoungismyhero · 22/05/2023 15:33

Personally I think its fine.

CheeseCakeSunflowers · 22/05/2023 15:36

What type of church is this and is it a special service? In my C or E church its just normal dress for our regular Holy Communion service. I'm usually in my jeans but I'm guessing this might be a first communion in a Catholic church so there may be different expectations.

Dodgeitornot · 22/05/2023 15:37

Traditionally, no it's not appropriate. Maybe if she did the cardigan all the way up?

BigglyBee · 22/05/2023 15:38

I wouldn't be offended by it at all. The girls taking their FHC will be dressed very differently to that, and probably (although not always) be wearing veils as well.

ICanTuckMyBoobsInMyPockets · 22/05/2023 15:40

As a Cathecist in the Catholic church, it's absolutely fine, no-one will notice or care.

Church will just be happy that the communicant has the support of family and are keeping the church alive.

Have a lovely time.

icelollycraving · 22/05/2023 15:41

I don’t think it’s suitable, no, sorry.

SilentParrot · 22/05/2023 15:42

Although if your daughter hates dresses you could always put her in a pair of smart knee length shorts or something like that? she doesn't have to wear a dress.

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Crunchymum · 22/05/2023 15:42

DD is 5.

It's a Catholic H.C and I don't know the parents well enough (DP does but doesn't want to "bother them" to ask if the dress is okay)

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CartoonLlama · 22/05/2023 15:45

I think it’s fine in most respects but I’ve seen plenty of pics of first Communions / confirmations where based on this dress she would be mistaken for a confirmand. I think it’s fine from an etiquette POV but she might feel a little self-conscious. So maybe a bright cardigan etc.

deplorabelle · 22/05/2023 15:45

This will be fine especially with a colourful cardigan. I'd be tempted to add some other colour that will stay on if she gets hot and takes the cardi off. Would she wear a bead necklace or a belt or a purse on a shoulder strap? You could sew some novelty buttons on the front but I think that's above and beyond.

How tight is the dress? Could she fit a smartish but colourful tshirt underneath?

LudicrouslyCapaciousBag · 22/05/2023 15:46

Unless she is really tall for her age she won't be confused for a first communicant at 5. I'd keep the cardi on in the church but otherwise I think that's probably fine.

troppibambini6 · 22/05/2023 15:47

Honestly it's absolutely fine. I'm Catholic and my sons was last weekend there were loads of younger sisters there in pale dresses and one had a beautiful ivory dress on that could have been worn as a communion dress.
No one will care at all! It's not like a wedding there will be a loads of them doing it so it's not like you are taking attention away from the bride.

shiningstar2 · 22/05/2023 15:48

The dress will be absolutely fine with the coloured cardigan. No one will mistake her for one of those having their FHC and it wouldn't matter if anybody did. In the dress and cardigan she will seem exactly what she is . a little girl dressed suitably for a special occasion. Enjoy the day. 😄

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Crunchymum · 22/05/2023 15:48

I may see if I can find anything else on Vinted. Just to be safe (Irish Catholic MIL immediately said its a no no and she goes someone's H.C once a month!)

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