Can DD wear this to a Holy Communion?

[Crunchymum]

MIL said "she can't wear white" but I assume that rule was just for weddings

Dress is white tea dress and will be with a multicolour cardi and white sandals

If she doesn't like dresses, let her wear something else. We're also going to a family communion this weekend, my daughter will be wearing pink paperbag trousers and a pink and white t-shirt with some sandals. It's not a very formal occasion for guests, especially when you're unlikely to be in the church.

If your DD is only 5, then she won't be mistaken for a First Communicant. If she goes forward to receive a blessing then make sure she has her arms crossed over her chest, fingertips to opposite shoulders.

I would just suggest that she wears that lovely cardigan for any photos that are taken of her with the First Holy Communion child that you are spending the day with so as not to take the focus from the other child. And, if you are going back to their garden for a party make sure she has some practical clothes for running around in.

I don't think wearing it would be a problem, but if you don't feel comfortable with it then could you dye the dress a different colour?

If Catholic Church, no

could you add a bow round the waist or dye it one of the colours on the cardi

I would say it is fine as it is, I wouldn't have been offended if someone wore this to one of my DC communions, but if MIL isnt happy maybe ask her to pick something up for your DD to wear 😜

Tis fine 🙂

Be warned if you dye it that the embroidery is likely to be poly cotton and won't take the dye, so will either remain white or come out a lot paler.

roman catholic here ,let her wear it, it's totally fine, even without the cardigan.

I don’t think God gives a fig

We’re Catholic and have been to a fair few First Holy Communions. I think the dress is fine, in fact my daughter wore a cream party dress to her brother’s first holy communion last summer. I’ve even seen little sisters wear dresses to match their big sisters who were receiving the sacrament before now.

It's absolutely fine, and very pretty OP. You MIL is misinformed.
The important thing is to share the special day with the child who is making her first Holy communion.

Thanks guys.

MIL is lovely, no issue there. I just figured she is more of a church goer than me.

I won't by dying or sewing or doing anything remotely crafty with it as it's a very nice dress and I'll only ruin it.

I assume it will end up looking like a dishcloth by the end of the garden party afterwards anyway.

Then no, of course not. Why would you even consider putting her in a white dress?!

Ahh then after this update I think it's a no sorry some people might take it to heart and if you don't know them well enough why risk it

oh stop

an un-Communion like white summer dress and a multi coloured stripy cardigan. I somehow doubt she'll be mistaken for one of the girls making their HC.

looks nothing like a communion dress and some churches all the kids were the same cassocks over their outfits or just the cassock. depends on priest .

communions were getting worse than weddings at some churches

Because it's the only smart dress we have
Because child doesn't wear dresses so I don't want to shell out on something she'll wear one
Because it's a tea dress, not a communion dress

etc.

BUT it isn't unanimous so I was right to ask.

I’m Catholic and been to many first communions over the years. I was at one only last week. It’s absolutely fine to wear even without the cardigan. Don’t give it another thought

I probably wouldn't if you don't know the family of the child who's HC it is.
The cardigan makes all the difference and the dress wouldn't bother me at all if she wore it to one of my DC's holy communion but as you don't know the stance of who's invited you you're probably safer for her to wear something else

Your daughter doesn't have to wear a dress. I can't imagine anyone commenting on her not wearing a dress. Someone could definitely comment if she wore a white dress though, so I wouldn't recommend it. Best to go with something other than a dress than risk a white one.

when I did mine (albeit many years ago), every little girl wore white. I had a veil that a friend of my mum’s wore for her wedding (a short veil) which went well to my knees. We were like a little huddle of mini brides. And all the boys wore suits. Have conventions completely changed?

Oh, sorry, she isn’t taking communion herself. Maybe as others have said, a coloured cardigan to distinguish her from the communicants

I can’t believe some of these replies !! Of course she can wear it! It looks like a very pretty dress for a 5yo. Those saying no - are you RC church goers? Who do you think will mind?

I'm Irish and Catholic and your mil is wrong. Last attended a communion a week ago and there were girls wearing simple summer dresses, some white, some multi coloured and plenty more wearing leggings and t shirts. If your dd is going to be running about playing, on bouncy castle etc please dress her in comfy practical cloths, every communion I've been to both boys and girls changed in to a tracksuit or similar in order to play once they got home (majority had party at home).

Also what @ICanTuckMyBoobsInMyPockets said