To wish I had money - it's as simple as that

[Gooloop]

Watched Rich House Poor House last night. The famous millionaire gay dad's were on it. Just looking at their house & their lives, I just wished money was no issue for me. They have houses in UK & florida & elsewhere. They own hotels in Spain plus much more.. They can jump on a business class flight whenever they want. Took us 2 years to save airmiles for business class flights for 2 of us. We're not Poor and are fortunate we can makes end meet but have had to cut back like everyone else due to COL. But to be able to jump on a flight and go anywhere at any time, to have the world at your feet, to never have to worry about money. I will never get to any of my dream holiday destinations due to cost. I'm currently debating if I can afford to spend £50 on a pair of Designer flip-flops. I can afford it but there are really other priorities where the £50 should go. We have some debt that we can afford to pay back, and we are paying back, the debt is a drop in the ocean for the dads on the TV show. They could pay it off in a month. It will take us several years.

I know, my friend just came back from Spain whereas I haven't been away since before covid. I felt truly envious of her and I know it's not a good look before anyone says anything.

I think i'd just like to feel securely average. Although, I'm sure I'd love to jet off found the world and have huge houses too.

But in terms of improvement to my wellbeing it would be nice to not have than gnawing worry about will i be able to keep my home, heat, eat what about my pension.

There's your problem you don't need designer flip flops. Normal flip flops do the exact same thing.

Save that money towards something else. Designer doesn't mean better.

Weird post. I have very nice holidays and see BC as a totally unaffordable rip off. Same for designer flip flops.
Those men have their own problems to deal with and I would not think having a relationship with your daughters ex is just fucked up. Of all the people to be jealous of, these are not the ones to choose.

@HadEnough2023 I'm not specifically buying the flip-flops because they are designer/ for the name. I'm not bothered by labels. I just saw these and loved them, regardless of who they are made by.

@littleripper I'm not jealous and we all have our own problems. I just wish I had even a quarter of what they have. It would make my life easier. Whose life wouldn't be just a tiny bit easier with some money behind them, enough to have no financial worries.

I’m not in the same league as rich house poor house but having money is wonderful. A couple of days ago I returned from a foreign five day solo trip which I booked at late notice and next week I am in holiday with my DH. It’s nice being able to squeeze in an extra holiday if we see a biggish gap between breaks.

You do have to invest in a good pair of flip flops that support your feet with a good arch and cushioning. Buy the flip flops. Feel good.

I know what you mean but envy does steal joy. Life changing is a different amount for everyone, for me owning a house would be enough to change my life, I would feel like a millionaire lol

You're not alone OP. That's why so many of us never forget to play the National Lottery!

I agree with @pinkfondu . For some of the people I work with getting safely across the channel on a dingy is life changing. Perspective is everything. Time will not stop for anyone’s dreams. Live your life as best you can and make the most of it.

People who say money can’t buy happiness are usually the ones who’ve never had to worry about money. (And I say that as someone who
is severely disabled, yes good health would be my biggest wish but having money gives you all sorts of choices and opportunities, I wish I had more money too)!

That couple are completely shallow though. I don’t envy them at all, but yes it’s great to have money to go on holiday whenever you want & not have debt. You’re not that badly off though if you can buy £50 flip flops.

Well, you're clearly not struggling if you can afford to spend £50 on flip flops and save enough airmiles to fly business class in the first place, I couldn't afford business class even if I saved for 10 years!

YANBU to want more money, most people do but if you have financial worries but are choosing instead to buy designer flip flops then that's on you really. Surely focus on paying off your debt as fast as possible and then you might have more spare cash.

If you can buy £50 flip flops you can save for a holiday. Nobody needs business class, it doesn't appeal to me. And frequent flying is bad for the environment, but even so you can get really cheap fares at off peak times.

My favourite memories of travel are actually the ones that cost very little whilst staying in very cheap but often very authentic accommodation. Appreciate that no travel is really cheap now, but it's just a sense of perspective.

Of course, I would definitely like extra money! But the main reason is because with money comes freedom from worry and things that you don't want to do.

It would be lovely not to have the worry I agree @Gooloop , buy the flip-flops if they will make you happy
You said your debt is under control so why not, life really is too short

Yeah. It’s shit. I don’t care about holidays and designer shoes. I’m sick of worrying where I’m going to lend from and who is going to be least annoyed by me asking. Every month thinking I just need to make it through to next month and then I’ll be okay, and somehow it never is. None of my debts are exactly impending and because I manage everything this way I’m not behind in any payments, but it’s the constant worry and thinking about it that’s draining, and feeling like I’m a burden. It’s humiliating having to ask, never mind having to ask repeatedly. Can I afford this school trip? Can I afford a birthday gift/£5 and fuel to get to whatever last minute party DC has been invited to? Not really, but I’ll have to find the money from somewhere, which means I then have to lend money, it’s easier to ask to lend money for a bill, but then I’m stressing about whatever bill that comes from.. etc. It’s exhausting. What’s worse is on paper my income should cover my outgoings, and I’m only ever down by a reasonably small amount every month (think £100-200 a month) but because I have to lend I’m just in an endless cycle of never having enough due to paying it back, and small things that crop up throughout the month, I have nothing spare. My MOT is due soon and I have no idea where I’m going to find the money from for that, so I’m probably also going to be without a car, which makes out life hell. Just once I’d like to not stress about money…

Get the flip flops

@Beezknees we joined the BA airmiles scheme (avios) & signed up for an amex card. We used this for any of our daily/normal spend where we could, to get the airmiles and a free travel voucher when you reach a certain level of spend. We turned tesco clubcard points into avios, we asked for avios for xmas and birthdays instead of gifts. We only got our petrol at tesco, for the clubcard points to turn into avios. We made use of a BA 100% sale, buy avios and get the same amount again for free. We switched bank account for the avios deal. I had the initial amex card and then referred my DH for a card. We then used his card for spend. We both got bonus avios, me for referring a friend and him as a new customer, once he hit a certain spend amount. We then merged our avios. We did anything we could to get avios deals. Family used our amex card to book/pay for high value spend, to give us the avios, and then gave us the cash to pay for their spend. It took a lot of careful planning and being savvy.
Our BC was paid for with the free voucher from the spend on our credit card and the avios. So no, we don't have the money to spend on BC.

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@YouNeverSeeTheRealMe THIS

A slightly different perspective that's dawned on me in the last year or so here.

Our life changed a fair amount literally over the course of a month.

We were both working opposite full time job hours and squeezing in a second job each just to try and cover bills thanks to covid and I have had many years of being literally on my ass but this was something else.

We were adding up shopping as we went round Aldi and panicking at what we couldn't buy but was essential.

My car oven and washing machine all went very wrong during this time and it was never ending.
Constantly borrowing from my parents to put fuel in my car to get to my second job was a daily occurrence at one point.

Our situation changed drastically and it's resulted in life being made a million times easier and opportunities are there due to having finances to support it all.

However in the last few months very close family have had real health struggles to which I'm physically belong with in a daily basis and mentally helping with but it brings home no matter how much you have in your bank the things that matter the most you literally can't fix with money

I'm absolutely shattered and drained and as a family we are still dragging ourselves through the uphill battle and we will get there.

But it's an awful feeling when for the first time in your life you have the means to help with practically anything g but health and well being.

I wish I'd inherited loads of money, some property and whatever else. Bloody hell it would have been brilliant, I don't feel actively jealous of those who did as there's no point, but would have loved it for myself! One of my friends has married a very wealthy man (he is lovely as is his family and she's an absolute catch) and honestly the things that money can afford you is just amazing. I don't mean just holidays, homes and whatever else- but not having to worry about if you can afford new school shoes, or saving and going without for months to go abroad or whatever.

Although of course money can't buy health and it is the most important thing, surely it makes other elements of life that bit easier to make it a tad easier to deal with?

You will never be happy if you keep comparing yourself to other people. It's a rou