I will caveat by saying that my kids are still primary age, and not ND (not officially anyway, but I do suspect ADHD in my eldest, as I do in myself). We also live abroad and the kids have 3 languages (inc English) to grapple with, and whilst they don't currently have phones, but have tablets, so I'm increasingly aware of screen time... So this topic caught my attention.
Anyway... I have no idea really how to answer the OP in her specific situation, but for me when it comes to my kids, the extra curricular stuff is about broadening horizons - new activities, skills, people, about belonging to something else, about finding a new or alternative way to thrive.
Kids should not be forced for sure, but with both of mine I've had times where I've prompted them to not miss X club or not give up Y club and encouraged them to keep on doing it. I don't care about the jujitsu or trampolining or violin or whatever, but I do want to teach them to show up, and to persevere. If I see they are really not enjoying it, or totally resistant, then I listen to them and they stop. But sometimes they are being lazy buggers and just don't want to go, so there's a tricky balance between supporting their actual desires and encouraging "growth behaviours".
I was the kid who did a million clubs and never stuck to them. I think the main reason was that no one at home was particularly interested so it all felt a bit, dunno, lonely. NOT saying that this is how the OP's daughter feels by the way, but no one encouraged me to go or not go, so I just went, felt like no one really cared one way or the other and like it was all a bit random, and then if I wanted to stop I was just allowed to stop.
I really wish I'd had more gentle encouragement to persevere, to keep going, to learn how to try, to get over the tricky hump of being in that part of the learning curve where it's all hard work and effort and not much reward. And help to find "my thing". As it is now, I am a quitter, I avoid hard stuff, and have not so much commitment to push on through. I do feel like I missed out on the team sport camaraderie because in the end I stopped going or didn't bother trying... It's like once I didn't bother once, I knew I could not bother again and all of a sudden a habit/pattern/behaviour has emerged. Of course, I have to take responsibility as an adult for those behaviours and traits, but I often wonder if I'd have had more engaged parents in my activities whether I would've thrived in them more. I notice it with our own kids now - the more we are engaged in something (club, activity, book, their interests generally) the more they are likely to to also be engaged and go deeper in to the topic.
As I say - I am not suggesting this is the case with the OP's daughter, more just contributing to a discussion on the topic as it's one I often reflect on myself. And I'll reiterate again that this is just my own thoughts and reflections - certainly no judgement from my side on how many clubs or not another kid does!
OP - all of parenting is a tricky balance between being child-led or parent-directed. The best advice I ever had was "go with your gut"... good luck with your DD!