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If you are wealthy what do you day dream about?

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Cocteautriplet · 13/05/2023 15:07

Every week I have my little ritual of buying one lotto ticket looking at the jackpot and daydreaming what I’ll spend it on: a 4 bed detached house in the New Forest, less stress for my partner, private school for my three children, a round the world trip etc…

I’m realistic that I’m very unlikely to win but the daydreaming and planning gives me a lot of joy and entertainment. It got me thinking if you have your material needs more than comfortably met what’s on your imaginary wish list … do you dream of working less, of being healthier or having a better body, romance or are your dreams more outward facing … an end to world conflict, better economy etc?

This is not meant to be a goady post … I acknowledge that most people work extensively hard to afford a comfortable lifestyle and good on them … I just want to know how my focus /daydreams will change when I win the lottery this evening 😉

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Emotionalstorm · 15/05/2023 16:51

If I won the lottery I would quit my job and run a cat sanctuary. Otherwise I wouldn't change anything about my life.

IAgreeWithHim · 15/05/2023 16:51

I can afford a haircut, it's just not on my list of spending priorities. The last cut I had cost £90 and I am still not sure why. I'd rather spend £90 on other things.

Drowninginoptions · 15/05/2023 16:59

Reading this thread reminds me of one of my favourite sayings:

"Money can't buy happiness but it can buy horses"

You can't have enough horses!

yoga4meinthemorning · 15/05/2023 17:02

I know a paper millionaire who still buys euromillions tickets.

For him it's a big big house. Fancy holidays. Top end car. Eating out more/all the time. Private schools. A boat.

ladykale · 15/05/2023 17:05

IAgreeWithHim · 15/05/2023 16:47

I think we are quite wealthy on paper. 2 kids in private school and enough to meet our needs inlouding DH's Very Expensive Hobby that costs around £15 k a year.

But there is not alot of disposable income after mortgage; fees; DH hobby etc. I have not had a haircut since before covid as I can't justify spending the money. DH keeps saying we need to tighten our belts and I just point wordlessly to his hobby.

I dream of - proper holidays. moving to working part time or less. Taking my Dcs to more trips abroad.

We are wealthy but our spending priorities are not where i would like them to be. If I won the lottery I would distribute millions to family members and then i would spend the rest on trips abroad. (And possibly ponies. )

This is the most bizarre post ever. You send presumably £35k min on school fees and your husband spends £15k on a random hobby, yet you can't afford a £100 haircut that you would like?!!!

Think your family need to sort out priorities or you need to prioritise yourself more definitely

IAgreeWithHim · 15/05/2023 17:07

No I can afford a haircut, it is just not a priority.

IAgreeWithHim · 15/05/2023 17:09

The question was what do you dream of. I said we are wealthy on paper and I dream of things like working part time and going away on holidays and (most definitely) ponies.

Swishhh · 15/05/2023 17:10

The 15k hobby/no haircut is bonkers. You need to start taking 15k a year for yourself.

shiningstar2 · 15/05/2023 17:27

My focus is particularly on dgs at moment. 18 and spiralling down with mental health issues. First priorit would be best help possible. Then money on education. Dropped out of A levels and is now devastated at his choices. Assurances that when better he can do it all again he he wishes without any financial pressures ..or any other route he chooses. Then DD and husband and dgd. Better house for DD with no mortgage so she can choose to work or not so much more quality time with dgd. For myself and DH? Bigger ...but not too big house with great large garden for entertaining. People to 'do' for us so hose and grounds always lovely so I can choose decor ect and have others do it. House always visitor ready because others have done the heavy lifting so I just need to smile, entertain and maybe cook for them. She has always loved his garden but getting on now. He can choose it's design, choose the plants ect and mainly supervise how he wants it done with some of it a kitchen garden so lots of in season fruit and veg. This only needs to be small. Our one apple tree is very prolific so a tiny 'orchard' of about four would mean I could gift fruit and puddings ect all home made. I would have a bungalow on the grounds for my independent 92 year old mother with appropriate help so she could be near but separate. All of this would be lovely to come home to after the amazing holidays we could go on. There are one or two special friend who would find themselves no longer paying mortgages and others who would find themselves the recipient of a special holiday or cheque in the post. Doesn't look like I'd need much does it 🤔 but it is lovely to dream so thank you for the thread op. 💐

shiningstar2 · 15/05/2023 17:28

She?? That is dear husband 😁

Fudgewomble · 15/05/2023 17:32

We’re wealthy. But all the money in the world won’t open the closed waiting lists for London’s top paediatric psychologists and psychiatrists for DD (and obvs you can’t buy a CAMHS appt). If I had a windfall lottery win I would give it to a child MH charity. That’s what I dream of.

ThatFuckingPaddington · 15/05/2023 22:08

I’m quite tickled by the “I’m wealthy but if I had more money I’d definitely help a good cause” posts on here.

The time is now, people.

If you have more then you need and class yourself as wealthy, spread it around. Do some good. It’s not all up to the multimillionaires. Even a £20/month direct debit to a small charity can do a lot of good.

(And I say this as someone who puts herself firmly in the “wealthy” category so it’s not sour grapes)

SpringNotSprung · 15/05/2023 22:12

@CountMushroom because it isn't what DH wants and he's the one who provided the very high income for decades.

Tauranga · 16/05/2023 18:13

@ThatFuckingPaddington I said I'd give my money away if I had more..I have a comfortable life and already give to charity and have actually set one up myself, but I don't have the money that a lottery win or a JK Rowling book deal would give me. I don't think wanting to give your extreme imaginary wealth away means that people are currently not donating to charity...

Cherryblossoms85 · 16/05/2023 18:24

Not having to work for my money, and therefore having complete financial security. I'm always one fuck-up (mineborbthe company's)away from setting my life on fire, even if by income I guess I'm well off. I don't really think anyone who depends on a salary rather than fully owned assets for their welath is actually rich at all.

Sunnycornwallanddevon · 16/05/2023 21:27

IAgreeWithHim · 15/05/2023 16:47

I think we are quite wealthy on paper. 2 kids in private school and enough to meet our needs inlouding DH's Very Expensive Hobby that costs around £15 k a year.

I dream of - proper holidays. moving to working part time or less. Taking my Dcs to more trips abroad.

Nah you're not in the wealthy club sorry. You've got a mortgage and don't get your hair done....£15k on a hobby? Add a couple of 00 and you might be heading that way I suppose!

Swishhh · 17/05/2023 14:52

*I think we are quite wealthy on paper. 2 kids in private school and enough to meet our needs inlouding DH's Very Expensive Hobby that costs around £15 k a year.

I dream of - proper holidays. moving to working part time or less. Taking my Dcs to more trips abroad.*

I was the opposite to you when my DC were younger, state schools, lots and lots of amazing holidays and plenty of fun money for the weekend.

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