If you are wealthy what do you day dream about?

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Every week I have my little ritual of buying one lotto ticket looking at the jackpot and daydreaming what I’ll spend it on: a 4 bed detached house in the New Forest, less stress for my partner, private school for my three children, a round the world trip etc…

I’m realistic that I’m very unlikely to win but the daydreaming and planning gives me a lot of joy and entertainment. It got me thinking if you have your material needs more than comfortably met what’s on your imaginary wish list … do you dream of working less, of being healthier or having a better body, romance or are your dreams more outward facing … an end to world conflict, better economy etc?

This is not meant to be a goady post … I acknowledge that most people work extensively hard to afford a comfortable lifestyle and good on them … I just want to know how my focus /daydreams will change when I win the lottery this evening 😉

@Sunnycornwallanddevon I guess that word just means different things to different people. To me what you are describing is rich/loaded, whereas to me, "wealthy" means having more than most, affluent rather than rich. But fair enough if those are synonymous to you, we certainly wouldn't be wealthy by your definition.

I am wealthy, not private jet wealthy but extremely fortunate wealthy. I’m 54 and will never have to work again, I go on 10 (yes 10) holidays a year, have a nice detached house in the South East and a brand new electric car.
I don’t dream of or want for anything materially so my main goal is to help my youngest two DC as I’ve helped my eldest when it’s time for them to move out. They’ve been to university and are back home now. I have the money set aside for them but they seem very comfortable at home so there’s no rush.

Nor would I tbf! I was presuming that's what the OP was referring to by wealthy though, as in not thinking about any of the 'normal' stuff. What do you daydream about when you can do anything anyway basically.

So, this poster fits the bill, what do you daydream about? I daydream about going to South America for a month or having my house fixed but clearly you don't need to dream about doing these things as you just do them. Be interesting to know , has the OP disappeared btw

Hi sorry catching up with all the posts … thank you everyone who took time to comment. I guess I was thinking of those who are earning enough that they can pretty much meet any material need they want - house, car, holiday etc at a luxe level … think beautiful detached home with lovely features, a brand new car every few years, flying the family club class to exotic locations to stay in a 5 star complex etc.

It’s been eye opening to see the number of people that have health issues or children with AN’s in place of money worries. I’m so sorry - life’s a bastard and it seems to be geared up to being hard/painful in at least one area for everyone. I am a mum to three children with SN and care for a mum with aggressive dementia so I totally sympathise.
I still hope to win my jackpot one day as at the very least it could provide for my children into adulthood: all three of which have a very uncertain futures in terms of being able to work.

DH & I are wealthy but again not private jet everywhere wealthy.

I drive a Jaguar F Pace (albeit it is a year old) which was bought at the beginning of the year. We’ve been on 3 holidays this year - all in business/first class (it was our first time experiencing the Emirates on board showers which were a treat) and stayed at luxury 5* hotels (I’m talking Rosewood, Four Seasons, St Regis) however day-to-day life is quite mundane. My favourite pasttime is reading, cleaning and volunteering whenever I can.

Don’t have any material goals - just want to lose some more weight (I’m over 1st down from my heaviest) and learn to swim. We want an extension however the builders are taking the piss getting in touch with us so it would be nice if they could provide us with a quote. I also wish my parents were proud of me but such is life and I’m very grateful for how I live.

I still daydream my nan's are still alive.

I suppose there is always something that seems unattainable, and being able to throw money at the problem doesn't always make it achievable.

But I have a question for @Dontwantutono what do you mean by pointing out that your car is 'a year old'. Surely unless you're buying a brand new car every few months, which would be lunacy and tedious no matter how much money you had, even expensive new cars are always going to be a year, or three 'old'.

Not being arsey, it just seems such a strange thing to say, as in a 'what this old thing, we've had it aaages' kind of way.

Don’t mean it like that at all. Just saying I don’t have so much money I’m happy to buy a brand new car. Sorry if that came across in an entitled way!

What did Groucho Marx say?

MONEY CAN’T BUY YOU HAPPINESS. BUT IF YOU’VE GOT ENOUGH, YOU CAN RENT IT!

It’s funny isn’t it, it’s always the wealthy telling us that money’s not all it’s cracked up to be. But like people who have achieved their dreams always being the ones to say “you can achieve anything if you set your kind to it!”

if I won the euro millions I would travel round the world watching sport. Rugby in New Zealand, football in Brazil, tennis In Australia. And I’d have a box at my football team’s ground.

Ooo yes I’d have a box at my football team’s ground too! I actually looked at prices for a box a few games ago (so that I could have taken my baby before the end of season) for one game for my team and it was £400pp. Yes theoretically we could have afforded it, but did I want to spend that on one game? No.

It’s funny isn’t it, it’s always the wealthy telling us that money’s not all it’s cracked up to be. But like people who have achieved their dreams always being the ones to say “you can achieve anything if you set your kind to it!”
I am wealthy and it’s amazing.

Private jets are usually flown by pilots who fly them week in, week out, They are too expensive to leave lying around. Most companies that use them, lease them, and often companies that own jets rent them out when they don't need them.

You are the exception on this thread @Swishhh apart from you it’s all people saying how tiresome it is. Or how it doesn’t buy health - as if poorer people are too thick to work that out. Because being poor doesn’t guarantee health either does it?

what it does buy is time and opportunity.

Wow chippy. I haven't seen a single poster describe it as tiresome

Having money is fantastic. Don't let people tell you otherwise! It isn't be all of everything but it does make life a bloody lot more easier!

Not chippy at all. Just an observation.

You didn’t see the poster moaning how hard it was to coordinate all their staff? Or the dozens assuring the plebs that money doesn’t buy health in case they couldn’t work that out?

I’m very comfortable. But not wealthy. And I’d love to give really wealthy a whirl. I’ll let you know from my jet if my numbers come in tonight 😬

I hope I didn't give the impression that having money is tiresome. I am glad to have it.

The definition of wealth on this thread may not apply to all. It may surprise people to know we don't even have a car. Not because I can't afford it. I am in Central London and I prefer walking. As does DH. Not everyone has the same material needs.

Discovered limited edition Mint Twirls the other day which were pretty good!

But, respectfully, why don’t you ditch the ancestral pile and live in a small London pad?

That's where I live! We downsized in the pandemic. Much easier.

We aren't exactly in the ultra rich category, but rich enough that I literally never wish I had more money or daydream about things we could do if we had more.

(join gross salaries a bit under 200k, mortgage paid off on £1.5 mill house, small-ish morgage on an investment property, decent pensions)

I daydream about travel that we might realistically do, but we probably don't really have time to do all of it. About maybe taking a gap year and travelling round the world. Or, more realistically, shifting my job to a 9-10 month a year contract and having amazing summers travelling. Lots of focus on travel basically, but not totally unrealistic.

Slightly weirdly I sometimes imagine what I would do house-wise if my husband died (he's a fair bit older than me). I gloss over the heartbreak (I do love him really) and plan what smaller house/garden I would buy just for me. Sometimes it involves relocating, sometimes two homes, one in the village we live now and one in the city where I work.

Then there are the daydreams that have nothing to do with money/travel/property at all, but to do with relationships and stuff....

I have absolutely everything (and more) than i will ever need or want, not a penny of a huge win would be for me. I do have a list of what i would use the money for.
House and trust fund for each of my Grandchildren.
Donation to buy a life boat.
Halfway house for Military wives that need to leave their marriage's.
I need a very large lotto win.

I think we are quite wealthy on paper. 2 kids in private school and enough to meet our needs inlouding DH's Very Expensive Hobby that costs around £15 k a year.

But there is not alot of disposable income after mortgage; fees; DH hobby etc. I have not had a haircut since before covid as I can't justify spending the money. DH keeps saying we need to tighten our belts and I just point wordlessly to his hobby.

I dream of - proper holidays. moving to working part time or less. Taking my Dcs to more trips abroad.

We are wealthy but our spending priorities are not where i would like them to be. If I won the lottery I would distribute millions to family members and then i would spend the rest on trips abroad. (And possibly ponies. )

Your DH spends £15 k a year, but you can't afford a haircut?