Access to other half's phone.

[seventyfour75]

Reading another thread got me wondering how much access do you have to your husband/partners phone?

Do you know the passcode and are you able to use it freely/see their messages?

DH & I don't have access to each other's phone at all. I don't know his passcode nor does he know mine.

I have a rifle through his photo gallery every now and then and forward any photos of dd to myself to back up as he never backs anything up.

We have each others passcodes and will do "can you check/answer I am driving/can't come/having the hands full".

But we don't look into WhatsApp/email/text unless specifically told.

Photos are linked so whatever one of us takes appears on the other person's phone.

It works for us.

I don't understand why they wouldn't. It's strange that people are happy to be physically intimate with someone who isn't allowed to use their phone.

Our faces open each other's phones but we rarely access them. And it would never be without asking/saying first.

I know his as he’s shit with his phones so I often text folks back on his. Like his side family members, although I always say it’s me, and often I use it for bank confirmation codes if we are using his card for something,

he doesn’t have mine as it’s a work phone.

We know each others pass codes and can use it if we need to for something. I only really do to call mine when I can't find it or if mine has died to Google something etc I've no interest and don't go read his messages or anything.

People used to shag way before the iPhone was invented, what does one have to do with the other?

Full access to each others phones, sometimes it’s the nearest one to hand if you need to search something etc. he’ll ask me to read his message if his phone pings and he’s doing something. There’s nothing on either phone we wouldn’t want the other to see.

We could access them anytime we wanted to but trust each other so no point. We also location share on Google maps as we like to have tea ready when the other gets home.

We have no idea of each others passwords but he doesn’t hide his phone and will freely let me use it to make a call or whatever.
I’d be lying if I said I trusted him 100% because let’s face it, we’re all only human but to be honest I’d rather not pry because if you want to find something to be unhappy about you ultimately will. I’m not sure he’d be happy if he found me googling ‘worlds hottest man’ but I have and it doesn’t mean I don’t love him.

My body is more private than my phone!

Perhaps there are private conversations on the phone. Don't you ever have private conversations with your friends that are none of your partners business?

We have full use of each others phones. No passcodes on either of them. If he was on mine he wouldn't read my messages, if I was on his (which is rare,it's crap) and someone messaged he would get me to open it, read it and then probably reply for him!

@NE14T

Yes, we have each other's for this reason. We've seen firsthand through a friend and a relative how much easier it is to sort things out after a death or serious accident when you have access to various accounts and information (and memories). Considering how much of our lives are stored on our phones, it can make a real difference at a difficult time.

I've never checked his unless he's asked me to, i.e. driving or hands full. And, since everyone in the family, including all three kids knows mine, I'd be surprised if he bothered. If I was going to do anything deeply private or duplicitous, I'd be smart enough to not do it on the phone I leave lying around the house all the time, and I would expect the same of him.

He knows my code and I know his as just happened organically never asked for it more like if I wanted to see a pic I’ve asked for it or if I’ve needed a phone number . I never look at his phone and he doesn’t look at mine

We know each others pins and we'd be both more than happy to hand over a phone to use google maps or something but we don't go shopping through personal conversations.

I've a close friend who was mortified when another friends dh asked her, at a party, about something private she'd never told him and it turned out he had read her mates messages. She thought her friend would be angry her husband had snooped but he actually hadn't, they just regularly read each others messages and my friend wasn't aware or she'd never have shared what she did. Her friend genuinely couldn't see what the issue was in her husband reading her messages because she tells him everything anyway and insisted "everyone" did that.

God we have access to everything of the others. Phone codes, email passwords, PIN numbers, bank passwords, social media accounts.

I have complete access to his, he has no access to mine!

We have each other’s Face ID on our phones.

Can’t say we ever use each other’s phones - but it’s there if we need it.

We know each other’s pass code. Tbh I’ve forgotten his. I have no need to go on his phone and vice versa. Maybe he’s forgotten mine! I give DH my phone if I need help setting up an app or something. Otherwise no need to switch.

Would you like to have access to your partners phone OP?

I do have it but don't check his messages or go on it behind his back

I don’t know his, he doesn’t know mine, we’ve never asked each other. I’m sure he could work mine out if he wanted to as it’s very obvious if you know me but he wouldn’t find anything of interest.

None at all. Just have to trust him.