Access to other half's phone.

[seventyfour75]

Reading another thread got me wondering how much access do you have to your husband/partners phone?

Do you know the passcode and are you able to use it freely/see their messages?

DH & I don't have access to each other's phone at all. I don't know his passcode nor does he know mine.

Just to put an absolute dampener on things, I’d always suggest knowing each others passwords in case anything happens to either of you.

A few years ago my BIL dropped dead very suddenly and thankfully my sister knew his passwords so they had access to his photos and videos. Just silly selfies with the kids etc and videos with his voice on them. She build up a friendship network on WAY (widowed and young) and lots of people lost these as apple especially won’t grant access, even when someone has died. It’s heartbreaking when someone dies suddenly and you want every last picture/ video/ memory of them you can get.

Have full access to each others phone but tbh dh has never once used mine unless driving or no battery and he wanted to watch YouTube on my phone and vice Versa.

Sometimes he makes me reply to his work group chat lol pretending to be him but I have to admit I wouldn't want him looking at my group chats lol!

We know one another’s passwords and could look if we wanted to, but don’t, unless looking for a photo or something.

I don't know his passcode anymore because he has to change it for work purposes. He'd tell me if I asked him for it though. I'd never go through it all. I figure if you feel you have to go through someone's phone that's a red flag all by itself and you'd be better off out of the relationship.

We know each others passcodes, I might pick his phone up to look at maps or take a picture, and vice versa. Have never felt the tiniest urge to look at his messages.
Our relationship predates phones, I got one before him so I guess this is the source of the "shared" attitude towards them.

The ignorance on here is staggering.

It is a CRIMINAL OFFENCE under the Computer Misuse Act to access a device belonging to others without their permission.

Even if you do have to passcode.

Someone handing you their phone and asking you to answer it or use it is one thing. But accessing your partners phone without their knowledge IS an offence.

We know each others codes and will occasionally text/call someone from
the others phone like if one of us is driving. I
don’t look through it, but would have the opportunity if I needed to.

Does this not relate to businesses and not individuals?

I don't know my other half's pin or passwords- I feel that all adults are entitled to some privacy. I wouldn't expect to look through my best friends phone so I treat my DP with the same level of privacy. I trust him 100%

This.

We know each others' passcodes but rarely look at each others phone. Occasionally when one is driving and need to answer a call or read a text.

Or you could just share these things to a shared album?

Oh do we have to have it writing? Or is verbal okay?

Honestly, what drama.

No, we use fingerprints and don't really have reason to look.

I don't have any access to DH phone and he doesn't have any access to mine.

I know my DHs password, and frequently use his phone, usually to do his internet banking and other stuff. But I do always ask first. I have told him my password, but has probably forgotten it 🤷🏻‍♀️😂

We almost never use each others phones. I know DPs passcode because I set it up for her (huge technophobe) but I've never used it. Don't think she even knows my passcode.

Occasionally if one of us is driving and gets a message or phone rings, we might ask the other to answer it, but thats the extent of it.

Nope. We don't have access to each others phones. I think it's perfectly fine to have some privacy in a relationship.

Could look at it any time. Will answer it if he's not there...but I don't just browse through his messages. They'd be really really boring.

We know each other passcodes, answer calls/ read txts and messages while driving, in the shower or outside/ use each other phones if battery is low. E.g I can take his to check the weather if his is nearer. He can take mine and send himself a photo he wants to have.
It’s not to check messages or browsing history, it’s for convenience purposes. Tbh if I’m at the shower and a message arrives I will ask DD and she will read it me aloud all the same - she knows the password.
I wouldn’t like him browsing on mine just for one reason - I usually have a lot of tabs open and he’s known for accidentally closing some. He is the same with his laptop but not with his phone.

We both know each other passcode. I’ve never gone sneaking to take a look and he hasn’t mine (that I know off!) phones trusted and left around.
we’ve only ever used it when the other one is driving and can quickly check something - but very rarely! He could have changed it and I wouldn’t have a clue!

No access to each others phones. Don't see the need.

We don't touch each others phones.

@redskylight Of course you could!

But I’m guessing most people don’t.

It’s the same deal as anything isn’t it, life insurance, easy access to accounts etc. things that most people thankfully won’t need but everyone thinks they won’t.

Personally I’d find it easier to share a password and trust no one was using it inappropriately than set up shared media accounts.

There were other ‘benefits’ too- looking at lead up to the event (he died while she was on a weekend away with the kids) and looking at contact numbers of friends she wouldn’t otherwise have been able to tell until they found out via FB or whatever. Looking through emails to look at who his personal insurance for car etc was with.

I don’t know- it’s all simple things but it’s been obvious to me how much easier things were with having access to these things compared with other bereaved partners who didn’t. For her it was mainly the videos/ photos angle which she was so thankful for though.

We know eachothers pass codes. We generally leave our phones lying around and if one of us wants to look at something but our own phone isn't nearby but the others is we'd use eachothers. Either asking to or at least saying I'm just going to use your phone to look at ... if we're both in the room, if not we'd just borrow it.

We don't go rifling through eachothers msgs or anything like that. I think we're both too boring to have anything interesting enough for rifling, especially that we wouldn't already tell eachother anyway!