Access to other half's phone.

[seventyfour75]

Reading another thread got me wondering how much access do you have to your husband/partners phone?

Do you know the passcode and are you able to use it freely/see their messages?

DH & I don't have access to each other's phone at all. I don't know his passcode nor does he know mine.

We tend to just use the nearest phone to hand. He often calls his mum from mine as the speaker on his is crap. Wouldn’t snoop, I’m sure his messages are as boring as mine 😂

We know each others pass codes. But would only use the others phone if borrowing it when I forgot my own phone, and vice versa. Neither of us has reason to check the others phone for anything untoward.

He doesn’t “snoop” but will answer my phone if I’m away from it and will say things like “Jess has sent you a text… do you want me to open it?” if I’m washing up or cooking for example.

We're the same. We know each others' passcodes, but we don't spend time going on each others' phones, laptops, computers, etc.

We know each others passcodes and will read out a message from someone if asked, say if one of us is driving or busy. We don’t ‘go down’ each others phones as we don’t need to, we trust each other. It’s just for practical reasons we can access them!

No don't know and don't need to. Same for him.

I think of phones like diaries. They contain private personal stuff.

When I need to look - I need a divorce because it means the trust has gone. 27 years and still never looked .

We know each other's passcodes and would look at each other's phones if ours was charging somewhere and we wanted to check the weather or something. I wouldn't go through his messages and he wouldn't go through mine, anymore than he'd read my diary even though it isn't locked away.

Sorry but that isn't healthy, if you don't trust him and feel the need to read his messages daily and monitor is whereabouts your marriage is over. If he has form why are you still with him?

I probably would know his code if I was bothered about it he has told me but I trust him so I don't need to remember it. He's never given me reason to need to look on his phone and vice versa. If there was an issue I'd address it more directly.

If he needs my phone, I open it as he always forgets the code. I never need his phone, but if I did, I'd just get him to open it, and I'm sure he would.

We have full use of each others phones, his is full of absolute rubbish, pictures of cars, motorbikes, steam engines, lorries and bloody farm equipment. he made one call last month and that was to the vet. As for apps he doesn't even know what they are. Surely couples need to know each others passcodes just in case something happens to one of them..

I know his he knows mine (same with email) I use his phone sometimes, he uses mine sometimes - it's just a phone I find the idea that it is somehow snooping to do so incredibly strange.

The thing is of course most people will
Know there other half's codes and access to their phones if they wanted. I'm sure all women who have been cheated on have said the same thing. It's fine until it's not.

Know his passcode, but can’t be arsed to look-check what he does, lol

No. He's my boyfriend, not my belonging. We are two separate people. I just don't understand why couples access each others phones.

I don't know his passcode, but he'd happily give me his phone if I needed it.

I consider a phone to be the modern day equivalent of a diary - so I might ask for a blank page out of someone's diary to write something, but I wouldn't go reading what they'd written. Same way I'd borrow DH's phone to quickly look up something, but his messages are private.

As much access as either of us want, not that we use that access mind you because we've obviously got our own phones. Both passcodes are the same as is our sons because it's the same as our burglar alarm!

What exactly don't you understand? It's just a phone, a lump of technology for communicating. Quite a leap to being someone's possession purely because you know the passcode to their phone, how very weird.

I can use his but he can’t use mine because he does stupid stuff like change my profile picture on Facebook to pictures of spam and message my mum silly things.

Know each others codes but only time we’d use each others phone is if one or other was driving really and wanted something checked or to change the music

We have the same passcodes he leaves his phone my side of the bed most nights to charge so I can snoop all I like if I wanted to and I leave my phone laying about too so he also has the chance, we occasionally use each others phones for whatever reason, I usually look at his phone at the photos that he has taken

Odd reply. I think you have the wrong end of the stick. It was a general question regarding if you do or don't have access/passcode. Nothing more.

Yeah we know each other's codes. If we needed to look at something and the others phone was up stores or whatever, would just tell the other to Google on the others or whatever.

I've never looked further, highly doubt he has either. Zero interest in doing so.

Compared to my ex who had his phone on him at all times (even in the shower) face down always and wouldn't let me go within about 3 foot of the bloody thing, it's a nice change

We have fingerprint access to eachothers. I never use his though. He often uses mine to ring his because he is forever losing it.

Yes, I use it partly for his business but don't ever look around. I do trust him implicitly but that's mainly because he's too lazy to even think about cheating (hopefully)

We have occasionally used each others phones but I can’t remember the passcode off hand and doubt he knows mine. We don’t answer each others calls or texts. So effectively no access unless there is a particular need.