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I realised the other day that I'd be quite happy if I never had sex again.

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Theygolowwegohigh · 09/05/2023 07:13

Just that really. I've realised if I never have sex again I won't be bothered. Does anyone else feel like this?

I'm 40. Single. Have had several relationships over the years.

People often comment on wanting to meet someone new, or fancying someone etc and I'm just not bothered at all!

I have been reflecting on things like attraction and realised I've never felt that sexual physical attraction to someone. I've never had a celebrity crush. I don't have a high sex drive. I've enjoyed sex in the past but it's more about yes it feels nice sensation wise/ is a release in the same way doing it solo is. 🤷 There's not that physical lust towards another person that I read about or watch on screen. There's not the excitement about the other person's body.

Am I weird?

I have lovely family and friends but no one I know in "real life" that I'd feel comfortable chatting about this with at the moment.

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Celibacyinthesticks · 17/10/2023 20:51

Im 55 and I’ve shut up shop for the past five years, don’t miss it one bit and even if Brad Pitt begged me to have sex with him he would get face palmed and sent on his merry way.

beatrix1234 · 17/10/2023 20:53

Celibacyinthesticks · 17/10/2023 20:51

Im 55 and I’ve shut up shop for the past five years, don’t miss it one bit and even if Brad Pitt begged me to have sex with him he would get face palmed and sent on his merry way.

Pssst… send him my way 🤣

Celibacyinthesticks · 17/10/2023 20:55

He’s all yours! @beatrix1234

Luckynumbereight · 17/10/2023 20:57

Me too, and another one in her fifties. I couldn’t care less if I never have sex again. I even get irritated by the sex in TV shows and just fast forward so I can get back to the story again.

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 17/10/2023 20:57

. I feel sad for young women especially who say they could go without it for the rest of their life

Why? It must be quite empowering to break free of an overtly sexual and somewhat tiring sex obsessed society. And it protects you from fuckwits. What’s sad about that?

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 17/10/2023 20:58

Luckynumbereight · 17/10/2023 20:57

Me too, and another one in her fifties. I couldn’t care less if I never have sex again. I even get irritated by the sex in TV shows and just fast forward so I can get back to the story again.

Ha me too!

In fact l often stop watching it. Cba with it.

Totallyaddictedtoshoes · 17/10/2023 21:15

I hear you. I've been with my husband for 21 years, we love each other so much and are affectionate all the time, but just not arsed about sex! Thankfully we both feel the same.

MrsMorrisey · 17/10/2023 21:17

StayGoldenPonyGirl · 09/05/2023 11:45

Same, never again. I used to be an amazing performer but it was all fake and just done to get them to like me (it worked very well, but you then have to keep up the act). I didn't even realise I was doing this until I became single after a ltr and started dating and felt exhausted and grossed out before even the first date at the stuff I would 'have' to do. Realised I didn't 'have' to do it and the longer I go without, the less I can even consider it. And NotAllMen but I can't believe the hygiene I used to tolerate - rotten teeth, onion breath, cheesy piss stinking knobs, toenails that would be more at home on baba yaga etc. It's not worth the risk. I once found a clump of my hair infused with his smeg under a boyfriend's foreskin (at least I think it was mine).

Even hugs and contact I don't miss - the accidental pulled hair, bony elbows, crushing my boobs, face in the armpit, taking over the bed etc. I would like someone to tickle or scratch my back but I've not had a single partner do that for more than 30 seconds without turning gropy or giving up from selfish boredom (usually after I'd massaged them for 30 mins).

My pets and DC give love and affection and I can take care of myself in all other ways.

Dying alone with cats is now my goal, not an insult!

Now that is rank. No wonder you don't want to do it again 🤮

Zerrin13 · 17/10/2023 23:25

I'm 58 and since the menopause I just never think about it anymore. Husband still thinks about it all the time and it really gets on my nerves that men seem to think its essential for them to be able to function. Like it will drop off if it doesn't get used regularly. Men's obsession with sex is pandered to and indulged by themselves making women feel responsible for providing them with it as if its food or water.

MumHereAgain2023 · 18/10/2023 19:38

I've found this thread really interesting.
As someone who isn't in a relationship but have met up with someone occasionally this year and really not that into it even though I did enjoy parts of it I really think perhaps I am asexual? I'm older too and think I could just never have sex and that's ok. Maybe I've been that way my whole life when my previous partner thought I was just being lazy :(

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