Insults/comments that have stayed with you

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Has anyone ever said something so mean and cutting that it's stayed with you for years and years?

A boy at school said I looked like a man, this was between the ages of 12-14 so very sensitive age. It ruined my confidence, and even now when I'm in my early 30s, it's still there in my head. I don't believe any compliments if I receive them, and I've had very low standards in men because quite frankly I've been amazed a heterosexual man would be attracted to me in the first place.

No amount of therapy or reassurance from others will eradicate it from my head.

I had an absolutely evil infant school teacher, who used to make me stand at the front of the class, whilst she told them I was lazy and stupid. I fell asleep a couple of times in school.

She knew perfectly well that my mother was having a mental breakdown and would take me and my sisters out to pubs, or the park all night. The headmaster's wife had been asking us if we were OK at home.

I had the gall to be hit in the eye by a cricket ball and the headmaster quipped that it was suicidal to walk across the crease.

Next day, she had me up to point out that I was not only lazy and stupid, but had tried to commit suicide and that they were all to watch me, as I would try to kill myself - like my "barmy mother."

Thanks, Mrs. Kitching.

No, that’s not true. That’s just something people used to say to make people feel better after someone was mean to them. Sets them up for a lifetime of confusion, tbh. Encouraged to see negative comments as potentially positive.

As an insecure late teen, went out on a works do , thought I had scrubbed up well until my line manager said in front of everyone Omg look at minkymoo isn't it amazing what make up can do !

I had serious issues with the school years ago so did a subject access request. It was so insulting I was devastated

Id been observed on multiple occasions at drop off and pick up and some really unpleasant comments made.
-That I didn’t talk to other parents
-That I looked ‘unorganised’ as sometimes was in a rush
-That I was doing things in the playground for attention (a couple of times I had to check my toddlers blood sugar as she was diabetic)

The HT had after that made a referral to SS saying she had an unusual referral in that she couldn’t put her finger on anything but that something isn’t right . Wanted that logged. They told her it didn’t meet the threshold as was so non specific and bad she talked to the gp which she hadn’t.
When they couldn’t accept the referral she then went back saying actually I fussed over my child with allergies too much and she thought there was ‘an element of munchausens’ in my behaviour

This was completely untrue and so upsetting.

Do some digging . I wonder if your parents had a shotgun wedding? I had this and found out I born long before they were married and they had actually lived together.