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If a young you met your children....

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Chat123 · 30/04/2023 17:38

Back when you were the same age as your children are now, do you think you'd get on?

Was thinking about this before and it's quite interesting, I think we would be friends but then again, would probably find them quite posh 😂😂

What do you think?

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JanglyBeads · 30/04/2023 17:42

Oh this is a really interesting concept!

I think I'd get on with one, not sure about the other. This mirrors how I find them now.
Mid-late teens.

DanceBeneathADiamondSky · 30/04/2023 17:45

I'm not English but my kids are. I'd probably find them very English 😂

My dd reminds me a lot of me and my ds is like a mix between my dbro and DH. So I'd probably get on with them. DD and I would be awful though and we wouldn't be allowed to hang out as we'd be too naughty 🤣

XelaM · 30/04/2023 17:47

My daughter would blank me. 😂 She's in the "cool crowd" and is a popular pretty girl who's into all the latest trends, very sporty and not at all academic. Pretty much the opposite of how I was 🤣She very often calls me an "NPC" (non-player character) and says that she would not have been friends with me at school and that I must have been "bear bullied" (I wasn't but was very uncool).

MarriedAMusicMan · 30/04/2023 17:52

My daughter is basically my younger self at every age, so she’d have been my best friend.

And my son at 20, is now very similar to his dad, so yes, I’d have liked him too. Less so at a younger age. He wouldn’t have been sensible enough for me to be friends with. 😬

CoffeeChocolateWine · 30/04/2023 17:53

Love this question!

DS (14) - probably not. He's definitely in the 'cool kid' gang. I was not. As a 14yo I was painfully shy and avoided talking to boys at all costs. I would have been invisible to someone like my DS!

DD (10) - absolutely. She oozes fun and has the amazing ability to find common ground with anyone and everyone and make them feel special. She is super popular and loves being surrounded by her friends, but is also drawn to quiet and shy people and takes them under her wing to spend time with. That would have been me and I would have absolutely loved having her as my friend.

DD (4) - yes, because she's really funny and really silly and you can't not love her!

Dontcallmescarface · 30/04/2023 18:21

I would like to think we would get on as we share a lot of the same interests. Having said that I think I would be slightly envious of her confidence, her popularity.

NeonRaptor · 30/04/2023 18:23

Dd at 7 shares some of my interests when I was that age but she is prettier and far more confident that I ever was (and am.now tbh). I would have been in awe of her and felt absolutely honoured to have her as my friend.

Dontcallmescarface · 30/04/2023 18:24

Posted too soon

Her popularity and her ability to just "go with the flow" and not overthink things. If it wasn't for the fact that we look so much alike I'd question whether she was actually my DD tbh.

GoodChat · 30/04/2023 18:32

I'd get on with my oldest. She's basically me at that age. I'd probably be scared of my youngest Grin

NotRightNowNo · 30/04/2023 18:33

Ooh interesting. I think my DD wouldn't like me at that age much. I was a bit of a judgemental knob tbh. DS and I would probably get on well because he's other worldly and intriguing at times

Hermione101 · 30/04/2023 18:34

I don’t know…I was living in a refugee camp at my DC’s age (6) and he goes to a top private school in London.

I was quiet, obedient, and hated drawing attention to myself. He on the other hand can pretty much talk to anyone about anything. He has none of that uncertainty, environmental instability and possibly fear I felt at that age and he’s much more carefree than I was.

I don’t think we would get on! 😂

Zola1 · 30/04/2023 18:38

Hermione101 · 30/04/2023 18:34

I don’t know…I was living in a refugee camp at my DC’s age (6) and he goes to a top private school in London.

I was quiet, obedient, and hated drawing attention to myself. He on the other hand can pretty much talk to anyone about anything. He has none of that uncertainty, environmental instability and possibly fear I felt at that age and he’s much more carefree than I was.

I don’t think we would get on! 😂

This contrast is beautiful and you must be so proud of what you have achieved for yourself and your family!

Zola1 · 30/04/2023 18:39

I dunno, she does my head in now. She's more of a princess than I was, I'd have been jealous of her hair/makeup/brands etc. I used to hang round the streets and she thinks that's chav 😂

CoodleMoodle · 30/04/2023 18:41

I think I would get on very well with DD. We both like a lot of the same things now, and she's quite similar to me as a child (good and bad!). We might argue but it would be mostly fine. We'd probably sit and read a lot!

DH and DS would've been best friends, definitely. DS is all about dinosaurs, cars/vehicles and robots. DH has often said if he was a kid he would love to come to play at our house because of DS's toys!

I'm not sure if DD and DH would get on, or DS and me. We'd all be fine but probably not friends as such!

aSofaNearYou · 30/04/2023 18:41

I think so, my DD is very like me.

HeadNorth · 30/04/2023 18:44

No, but that’s because I was an irresponsible idiot as a youth (I blame my rackety home life). My DDs are so much more grounded and sensible, I am super proud of them.

Somanycats · 30/04/2023 18:45

God no. Id be frightened of DS. Hes such a loud personality, up for anything risk taker. Seizes the moment, laughs outloud, has opinions on everything. I would have given him a super wide birth as a young person.

JulieHoney · 30/04/2023 18:50

I was a train wreck at their ages, they are far more emotionally mature and together. They’d be out of my league.

Eldest would regard me with amused tolerance, and value me for my encyclopaedic knowledge of films and science fiction. I’d be a little scared of him as his tongue is very cutting. As his Mum he isn’t harsh to me but I’ve seen him reduce others to bits.

Youngest would not be keen as she swims in very different social straits to the “hide in the library” option of my teens. Far too cool, resilient and competent for teenage me. I’d like her but we wouldn’t be friends.

Middle one? Yes, I would be mates with him because he’s a lot like my friends when I was younger.

Romeiswheretheheartis · 30/04/2023 19:09

Yes, my dd is quiet, sensitive, extremely kind and a very loyal friend. As a similarly quiet girl, who didn't have many friends, I'd have loved a friend like dd.

Xrays · 30/04/2023 19:12

My dd would hate me. I was wild at 19/20. I was working in a pub whilst doing my A levels after restarting them, and I was out getting pissed every night, sleeping with totally unsuitable people, living on 1 hour sleep and basically just a wild child. Dd is at university, very health conscious and studious. Barely goes out, hasn’t had a relationship yet. I can almost feel her disapproval when I talk about things I did! I hope she has a wild time at some stage.

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Chat123 · 30/04/2023 19:37

Big variety of responses!! I agree with some of the others that we would get on but I would be sort of in awe of them.

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Chat123 · 30/04/2023 19:38

But then I do think I was much more streetwise than then too!!

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Colourmylifewith · 30/04/2023 19:47

JulieHoney · 30/04/2023 18:50

I was a train wreck at their ages, they are far more emotionally mature and together. They’d be out of my league.

Eldest would regard me with amused tolerance, and value me for my encyclopaedic knowledge of films and science fiction. I’d be a little scared of him as his tongue is very cutting. As his Mum he isn’t harsh to me but I’ve seen him reduce others to bits.

Youngest would not be keen as she swims in very different social straits to the “hide in the library” option of my teens. Far too cool, resilient and competent for teenage me. I’d like her but we wouldn’t be friends.

Middle one? Yes, I would be mates with him because he’s a lot like my friends when I was younger.

You make your eldest seem quite unpleasant ‘amused tolerance’ and ‘reduce others to bits’ he sounds wuite superior!!

Freshlycutgrasss · 30/04/2023 19:55

Great question & I'm sad to say probably not with one of mine 😪

DS I'd get on with great with - he's easy going, good to chat too & liked by teens his own age & adults. He'd definitely be in my friendship group & we'd have a great time going out, clubbing & drinking.

DD I wouldn't and it's made me feel sad. We are so alike right now at the ages we are, have common interests, make each other laugh & enjoy spending time with each other.

However, I don't think our paths would have ever have crossed as she's very sporty & I'm not. She wouldn't be considered easy going, can be very hard work when you first meet her, isn't a natural people person and takes her time to warm up to you. However, once she's accepted you as her friend she is fantastic - so funny, up for a laugh, adventurous and is a loyal friend. When i was her age I wouldn't have taken to her on first meeting and probably wouldn't have bothered. That's on me rather than her though.

It's made me realise how much of a similar personality DS & I have and how opposite me and DD are. Probably why DS & I clash and DD & I don't!

JulieHoney · 30/04/2023 19:58

Colourmylifewith · 30/04/2023 19:47

You make your eldest seem quite unpleasant ‘amused tolerance’ and ‘reduce others to bits’ he sounds wuite superior!!

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He’s amazing, but he doesn’t like people much. ASD, and can be very prickly. I know him and love him to the ends of the earth but with peers he can be unyielding about human frailty or inconsistency.

As an insecure mess at that age, I’d have found him intimidating.