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If a young you met your children....

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Chat123 · 30/04/2023 17:38

Back when you were the same age as your children are now, do you think you'd get on?

Was thinking about this before and it's quite interesting, I think we would be friends but then again, would probably find them quite posh 😂😂

What do you think?

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Freshlycutgrasss · 30/04/2023 19:59

And I'd probably have been a bit scared of DDs cutting comments - I liked being unobserved & really can't take a joke if it's about me ( but as I would never make a joke about anyone else I think that's fair)

MotherWol · 30/04/2023 20:05

DD is 7, and according to my mum she’s the spitting image of me at that age, to the point that she sometimes gets our names mixed up! She’s very imaginative and has whole worlds in her head, and loves making up games. Also loves to read, happiest in the library.

where we’re different is I grew up in a much less well off family, and many of the hobbies and activities that are open to her were never an option for me - things like swimming lessons or eating out. She’s much more comfortable in places that I wouldn’t have been in at her age, but that’s no bad thing.

Whochangedmynamec · 30/04/2023 20:12

A young me would be massively intimidated by my kids and would have thought they were cool. Tall, sporty, muscly, good clothes, good hair, confident, mature. But clearly my choice of husband was someone who I also thought was cool etc.

Whochangedmynamec · 30/04/2023 20:14

Oh and in answer to your question yes most definitely would be friends with them although one of them would be off being popular with better looking, more exciting people.

nex18 · 30/04/2023 22:14

Dd and I are very alike so I expect we would be friends. However she’s so much more confident than I ever was, also sportier, prettier, more together, I think I’d be in awe of her.
Ds is very laidback and easygoing but quieter, we wouldn’t have not got on but maybe we’d never have spoken to each other. (He doesn’t speak to me much now!)

rollingpunches · 30/04/2023 22:32

Great question!

Dd25- no she's quite abrasive I think I'd find her hard work
Dd20- I could be friends with she's very like me!
Ds8 - no he's too rough for me

CrispsnDips · 30/04/2023 22:37

Daughter 17 - NO WAY would we have been friends..she’s far too intelligent, self assured, opinionated..

Son 18 - Not friends coz in the early 80’s we didn’t usually have boys as friends (I came from an all girls school). A friend who was a boy was usually a boyfriend !

Daughter 32 - Probably not..I was a mother and she’s too busy building a career and enjoying herself 👍🏼

Mindovermatter247 · 30/04/2023 22:43

If I met DS15 when I was younger we would have got on great, he has a sharp sense of humour and is sarcastic like me, I spent a lot of time with SEN kids as a school kid as the special needs school was next to ours and my best friends mum worked thier, they would bring the kids to our school at lunch time and me and my best friend always looked out for them. DS autism wouldn’t have been an issue in my eyes.
dd10 on the other hand, we wouldn’t have got on, she’s sassy, she talks non stop however her teacher says she’s not like that at school so I’m not sure…
but she drives me nuts at the moment… pre teen in full force.

merryhouse · 30/04/2023 22:48

Oh dear, I've just thought about this...

I would be angsting right left and centre over which one I should go out with

They, meanwhile, would each quietly confide in their mum that I was lovely but far too much like hard work.

Nereides · 30/04/2023 23:07

XelaM · 30/04/2023 17:47

My daughter would blank me. 😂 She's in the "cool crowd" and is a popular pretty girl who's into all the latest trends, very sporty and not at all academic. Pretty much the opposite of how I was 🤣She very often calls me an "NPC" (non-player character) and says that she would not have been friends with me at school and that I must have been "bear bullied" (I wasn't but was very uncool).

Wow that’s so disrespectful! She’s basically saying you’re a non person and unimportant. You let her get away with that?

afterdropshock · 30/04/2023 23:09

This is hard to answer as I think my kids are the bees knees and of course I would love to hang out with them!
I was very very shy, as is my middle child. I think we would have found comfort in each other.
My other two are more outgoing but not loud or boisterous, and they are kind, so I like to think they would be nice to me.

SallyWD · 30/04/2023 23:15

I think my daughter and I would be friends. We're very similar in some ways
However I think I would have been a bit in awe of her confidence! I was a very shy child and never really understood the kids who were confident.
My son's very shy and doesn't talk much to girls! So I don't think we'd have formed a friendship. I do think think I would have liked him though because he's funny.

Howmanysleepsnow · 30/04/2023 23:17

DD15- I’d really like her, and get on so well if I dared speak to her. Which I probably wouldn’t, as she’s so confident, cool, and funny.

DS17- I’d think he was hilarious, but dumb (he’s not the latter at all, but comes across that way). I’d probably take advantage of his good nature and have him fetch and carry for me.

DS11- I’d think he was really smart and funny, but he’d talk too much for me!

DS9- is effortlessly cool and funny. I’d want to be his friend, but wouldn’t as he’s so popular that he probably wouldn’t have noticed me.

EddieHoweisMYmanager · 30/04/2023 23:22

DD and I probably wouldn’t get on if we were the same age as we both have too much main character energy, definitely only room for one of us 😂

We get on much better with a 20 year age gap, particularly as I can’t be arsed with being a main character these days and have definitely comfortably receded into a bit part supporting actor 😏

DS, yes, definitely. He’s cool and friendly and silly.

Parisj · 30/04/2023 23:45

I am not sure they would be wild enough for me, but then maybe they are and I just don't know!

Duckingella · 30/04/2023 23:56

Probably not;my daughters would have been the drama/music kids who hung around in the music block courtyard at lunchtimes and had starring roles in the school plays/shows.

I found them annoying at they just weren't my people.

I'm however glad my kids have their own personality.

Tbh my husband and I were both definitely far more rebellious and out going at my kids ages than they are;there was lots of under age drinking,clubbing and getting up to some quite daft stuff that would now embarrass my teenagers.

MyBloodyMaryneedsmoreTabasco · 01/05/2023 00:02

I think the things that drive me crazy about DD as her mum would also do my head in as her mate. She amazing and funny and kind but THE ANGST never stops. She's so up and down and I find it very difficult to navigate (partly due to my own personality) so as a friend, I'd try not to get too sucked in so I didn't have to go through the stresses too much.

user146539089 · 01/05/2023 00:08

I’d be friends with mine. My best friend’s dd is so different to what she was like at that age. There is no way my best friend would have even noticed someone like her Dd.

LocalHobo · 01/05/2023 00:08

No... they are nice people and I wasn't.
DH would be besties with them all though.

WhereMyRosemaryGoes · 01/05/2023 00:11

Interesting question!

No. Def not. I was one of the sketchy kids who didn't understand the try-hards. My kids are all engaged in their school community and in school sports teams and clubs. I would have been round the back of the bike shed, snogging, smoking and rolling my eyes at them. I wasn't very nice. My kids are lovely.

PastMyBestBeforeDate · 01/05/2023 00:29

DS I think he's possibly too cool for me but we might have been in the same group.
DD I do think we'd be friends. Both clever, left of centre, autistic and loyal. I had an older boyfriend at her age but we have a similar sense of humour.

SleepingStandingUp · 01/05/2023 00:36

This is a lovely qn.

DS is 7 and at 7 I definitely thought I didn't like boys but looking back, I had some lovely lad mates in school and none of them bullied me unlike the girls. So I think yes, I was quite chatty and he's very outgoing, we'd have bonded over books and I'd have thought he was silly but in the way looking back all the best boys were. I suspect my reaction to him wanting to hug me would be the same as some of his girl mates which is a solid no cos boys are icky 😂😂

MargaretThursday · 01/05/2023 00:42

I think I'd have got on well with my eldest. She's very like dh, and quite similar to one of my two best friends.
I'm very similar to my middle so we'd either have got on fantastically or clashed. I suspect a mixture. She's more confident than I was so would have probably dominated me at times.
My youngest I'd have ignored as I did most of the boys-but he'd probably have ignored me back. 🤣

Motheranddaughtertotwo · 01/05/2023 00:50

Great question.
DS I’d have got on with. He’s very similar to my young selfs male friends; intelligent, hilarious and really laid back.
DD is much more like my young “best friend” than she is like me- I hate the limelight, am quite shy and like a small group of friends (I also looked like a total geek with NHS glasses and braces). My daughter is the life and soul of the party, trendy, beautiful and just so switched on, she’d have been the friend I tried to have.

Thisiscrazyshite · 01/05/2023 00:55

Never thought of this before, what a great question!

DS1 (18), not sure I would. He’s very outgoing and has lots of friends. I was quiet and would probably have been intimidated by his popularity.

Dd (15), I don’t think so either. She’s very cool and sporty and fits in well with peers. I wasn’t any of that. I would probably be longing to be her friend but too shy to approach her.

Dd2 (13). Yes, I could see us being friends. He’s a bit shy but very funny. I think we’d click and have our own personal jokes etc going, that no one else would get.

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