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Anybody else with nothing to do this long weekend?

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confusedofengland · 28/04/2023 07:31

Feeling a bit sorry for myself today. We have this long weekend (4 days if you count strike day for schools on Tuesday) stretching out ahead of us & nothing to do!

Everybody else has plans, is going somewhere exciting, having visitors, just doing something. I was supposed to be out with friends tonight but that's been cancelled. DS2 was supposed to have a small birthday do after school but that's postponed. Even DS1 is not doing his usual football training as he's injured.

DH is 'feeling grotty' (he has health anxiety so everything is worse than it is to him) & the DC are tired after a busy week so I can't suggest anything either.

Not the world's biggest problem I know, but I'm just so fed up at the prospect of another long weekend at home doing nothing except homework & housework, hearing of everyone else's exciting times.

OP posts:
amidsummernightsdream · 28/04/2023 07:32

What would you like to be doing OP?

Heroicallyfound · 28/04/2023 07:40

Can you leave them all to chill out with TV and do something you want to do?

Go to the cinema
read a book in a cafe
start a garden/craft/baking project

what do you like doing?

Radiatorvalves · 28/04/2023 07:42

Mine are revising. We (DH and I) might go out for a day and then possibly visit MIL. Not that exciting.

Beamur · 28/04/2023 07:43

Have a staycation weekend.
Go out for lunch.
Go for a walk, cycle, whatever.
Don't do housework.
Watch a nice film with the family, at home or at the cinema.

Beamur · 28/04/2023 07:43

Personally, this is my idea of heaven 😁

Allthegoodnamesarechosen · 28/04/2023 07:45

I had completely forgotten it was a bank holiday, so thanks for that! Not that it makes much difference to the semi housebound ancient ( feeling a bit sorry for myself this morning with a v. Bad flare up).

ThursdayLastWeek · 28/04/2023 07:47

I work at an attraction garden type place and have to work Saturday and Monday. For this reason I always feel a bit blue around Bank Holidays.

Countrydiary · 28/04/2023 07:48

I have chronic FOMO so always over schedule bank holidays. As PP said, what do you like doing? Could you go for a family day out (realise finances might make this difficult)

frozendaisy · 28/04/2023 07:49

Bluebells are out how about a woodland walk and photoshoot
Can you go into the nearest city for a browse, nice lunch?
Is there a fun swim pool near?
You could have a look on lastminute.com, there might be something available still not too late to book a couple of nights away.

hungryh1ppo · 28/04/2023 07:52

I'm going to drag my dc out for a walk. We are going to do 'top your own pizza' for tea on Saturday. I'm going to clean and rearrange the house then spend some time reading with my feet up!

I don't overschedule bank holidays because we're all pleased with a little bit of time back to recoup some energy!

blahblahblah1654 · 28/04/2023 07:53

Same here. I love having no plans. Will find stuff to do each day with my toddler and husband. It's nice to play it by ear sometimes

Theoldwoman · 28/04/2023 08:09

I would rather be home chilling, pottering about cleaning, organising, catching up on shows, pottering in the garden etc. I hate going out spending money just for the sake of it. I’m not one to keep up with the Jones’s, and I don’t use SM so never see what others are upto.
im living my best life!

Theoldwoman · 28/04/2023 08:10

Oh and I love rearranging rooms in the house. As they say, a change is as good as a holiday!

Cocolapew · 28/04/2023 08:16

We're all adults in the house and 2 are working Monday anyway.
I was getting new doors on today and tomorrow but the joiner has just cancelled ☹️.
Me and DH are going to see Sister Sledge tonight then I'm sorting the house out over the weekend.

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confusedofengland · 28/04/2023 08:16

This is making me feel even worse, like I'm some kind of freak 🙈 Everybody seems to love having nothing to do, I hate it. Maybe that's why nobody wants to do anything with me! I can be happy in my own company, but I find it tough to never get to talk to anyone or go anywhere that isn't ferrying DC around or work.

I can & probably will take the kids out at some point, for a walk. DH won't because he's already made it clear he's too 'poorly'. Plus he has lots of DIY jobs to do for when we have an exchange student over. So I will have to make sure they are out of the way. DS2 has ADHD & autism so he's hard work (but lovely).

I hope you all enjoy your weekends.

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andwhy · 28/04/2023 08:17

Op what wouId you like to do this weekend? How old are the kids? Could you get all the homework / housework done tomorrow and then make a plan for Sunday and Monday? Depending on funds you could Go for a picnic/ swim in the sea / museum / movie/ go out for lunch?

bloodywhitecat · 28/04/2023 08:20

I have no plans and it fills me with dread too. I hate the loneliness of weekends and a bank holiday makes it even worse. I will drag me and the little one out to places but finding myself surrounded by couples and families reminds me that I am now on my own. I hear you @confusedofengland , you are not alone.

SunshineLollipopsAndRainbows · 28/04/2023 08:23

So sorry OP - I really do get where you’re coming from. Do you find social media doesn’t help? It’s like with the Coronation long weekend. I haven’t really planned anything, apart from vague noises about a cream tea with my folks on the Sunday, but reading about elaborate plans for street parties etc makes me feel bad.
I was going to suggest that you do something for you, if the rest of the family are not up to activities. What do you enjoy? Can you go for a mini spa session? Or just a swim then treat yourself to lunch somewhere? Pamper yourself. Hope your weekend turns out to be better than you are anticipating

usernother · 28/04/2023 08:37

Yes. By choice.
Do things yourself. Go to the cinema. Go shopping and treat yourself. Go somewhere you've always wanted to go. Leave your family to it.

ssd · 28/04/2023 08:41

This is why i didn't mind lockdown. We don't do much due to financial issues. And i really dont mind. But lockdown was a revelation when i realised i wasn't constantly listening or reading about others exciting plans. Everyone was living like me, which i hadn't considered unusual before. And they were all moaning about it...

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confusedofengland · 28/04/2023 08:48

The DC are 14, 12 & 9, but the 12 year old needs constant supervision due to SEN & DH will be either Busy or doing DIY so I will have to supply that. Then he'll be too tired to talk to me or want to do anything. He thinks I'm wrong to feel this way, I tried talking to him about it this morning & he just said I'm never happy 😏 A hug would have been better.

OP posts:
Simonjt · 28/04/2023 08:50

It’s a big rugby weekend for me, so I’m child free for most of it, my husband is probably going to bring them to watch one match though.

I don’t think he has a great deal planned with the smalls, apart from their usual weekend things like baby sensory, rugby etc. A bank holiday weekend doesn’t have to be busy.

SM33 · 28/04/2023 08:50

You are definitely not a freak for feeling like this! It’s hard when you feel like everyone else has lots of plans and you don’t. i think it’s easier if you find one nice thing to do.

fdgdfgdfgdfg · 28/04/2023 08:53

confusedofengland · 28/04/2023 08:48

The DC are 14, 12 & 9, but the 12 year old needs constant supervision due to SEN & DH will be either Busy or doing DIY so I will have to supply that. Then he'll be too tired to talk to me or want to do anything. He thinks I'm wrong to feel this way, I tried talking to him about it this morning & he just said I'm never happy 😏 A hug would have been better.

Don't give DH a choice, just inform him that you're going out one of the days and he'll have to look after the kids.

And then do it! Go out, do something you enjoy, even if it's by yourself. Your a mother, one half of a parenting team, you're allowed to have your own life on occasion!.

Flappingtarps · 28/04/2023 08:54

Sorry but if your dh is well enough to
do diy then he’s well enough to take a turn looking after your 12 year old op, which leaves you free to plan to do something nice for yourself or with a friend in same situation. Go to a National Trust home, an art gallery, try a sport, climb a hill, go on a steam train, just anything to
get you out of the house.