Anybody else with nothing to do this long weekend?

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Feeling a bit sorry for myself today. We have this long weekend (4 days if you count strike day for schools on Tuesday) stretching out ahead of us & nothing to do!

Everybody else has plans, is going somewhere exciting, having visitors, just doing something. I was supposed to be out with friends tonight but that's been cancelled. DS2 was supposed to have a small birthday do after school but that's postponed. Even DS1 is not doing his usual football training as he's injured.

DH is 'feeling grotty' (he has health anxiety so everything is worse than it is to him) & the DC are tired after a busy week so I can't suggest anything either.

Not the world's biggest problem I know, but I'm just so fed up at the prospect of another long weekend at home doing nothing except homework & housework, hearing of everyone else's exciting times.

Not much!
meeting a friend tmw for a walk, might go cinema w dh tmw night or Sunday. Need to do some paperwork w dh. I did meet friends this pm for coffee as I don’t work on Friday afternoons.
only have young adult ds in house - he’s working tmw I think and idk his plans otherwise.
I also prefer to be busy - our ‘couple’ social life is a bit crap since the pandemic as things fizzled out, plus I’ve had some health issues this year which haven’t helped.

We will go out, to a park or for a walk or similar. In fact, we did that today. But that's not the kind of busyness I crave & need & will make me feel better. I need something for me, something that isn't the park or a walk again.

I'm not doing much. DH is away DS on a sleepover tomorrow night.
Haircut tomorrow morning, either cinema or dinner with Mum in the evening.
I have cleaners coming to deep clean my house on Sunday so will probably go for a long walk and do some food shopping.
Meeting friends for a few drinks on Monday late afternoon.
Work Tuesday

I hate having nothing to do too! DH is away on different work parties tonight and tomorrow. I have DS and DSD all weekend. DSD wants to work on a play she is writing so we can’t go out this weekend. DS is 1. I have written a ‘to do’ list for this weekend. I will mostly be doing DIY. It’s frustrating having no fun plans but I will be happy to square away some annoying jobs.

nothing fun. Nothing exciting. Just life.

Im sure you’ve some things to square away too 😊

I have no end of jobs to do. We have an exchange student coming to stay so need to get the house ready, hence DH doing DIY. I don't think I'll be able to get much tidying done around DSes, though.

yes this you are not alone ! I hate staying in and always need plans I even find it stressful if I have plans but the kids don’t and they are just milling about. I feel like it’s so easy to waste a bank holiday. I can only really just chill if it’s glorious weather then I can get sit in the garden with a beer

Same old story for me on a weekend. Single parent. Kids home an extra day - on my day off. Saturday activities as usual but nothing planned Sunday or Monday. Usually wait to see the weather on the day. Might go out. Might stay home and watch Netflix. I don’t get too stressed by it. I’m over scheduled activities now the kids are older and can actually just potter if needed.

My weekend has not started well. DH predictably disappeared to bed early, leaving me feeling lonely & fed up.

Then the DC were wide awake pretty early this morning & I had to bring them downstairs, rather than taking a cuppa back to bed to read for half an hour, which really relaxes me. They rummaged through the recycling for junk modelling & have left a mess on the floor, which I will have to clear up.

DH, meanwhile, got up later than me then went straight to the DIY store & is now doing DIY, leaving me supervising the DC. All as predicted. We had a blazing row because he had a go at me for being fed up. Blames it all on my hormones 😏

It can only get better, right?

Bank holidays fill me with dread ! Really dislike them. My dd is autistic and never wants to leave the house so it's just an extra day within four walls.

I feel your pain. sometimes it’s not the nothing to do, it’s the everything same stuff to do, clearing up after the kids, dinner to cook repetitions, with not much help.
id go to the shop buy chocolate, popcorn etc and make the kids watch a movie cinema style and catch a couple hours relaxing with them! Then go for a nice park walk to burn off the sugar rush,
dont get upset, lots of us in the same boat! Plan out a great next bank holiday instead!

If your DC are school age, doesn't that mean they could play in a bedroom while you have a cup of tea and read in bed?

Plus they're old enough to clean up any mess they make? You don't 'have' to clean it up, make them do it.

Can you take DC out? Or if they don't want to go, you go out anyway and they can take part in the great learning experience of watching their dad do DIY and pass him tools etc.

Unfortunately lots of these ideas won't necessarily work for us, as DS12 has autism & ADHD. So he will only do certain things, depending on mood, and he needs supervision doing those things, mostly. So, for now, he & DS3 are happily junk modelling, but I need to supervise as he is using scissors.

I will encourage them to clear up, but I will still have to redo it. If they were both NT I'm sure it would be more straightforward.

I get that DH doesn't want to be doing DIY all weekend, but I do feel like he has the better end of the deal!

If they can junk model, they can tidy up! don't be a mummy martyr or the House Drudge.

They can tidy up to an extent, but I will need to go over it.

Honestly I felt exactly the Same over the Easter weekend, it made me so miserable I can’t even explain it. But I rationalised it by thinking it’s just one weekend out of 52 this year so it’s not the end of the world, but I totally understand your feelings

Let the kids have a lazy day today, while DH gets on with his jobs, then plan something to get you all out of the house tomorrow or Monday. I’m a single parent to a teenager, we are having a pyjama day today then a takeaway and film night tonight. Tomorrow DD is working and I’m going shopping then finishing off a DIY project, then on Monday I’m meeting my sister and niece and nephew at a local village fete. Nothing majorly exciting but a bit of a balance between relaxing and doing stuff, maybe you could plan something similar?

Unfortunately a lazy day here doesn't really work. DS's ADHD means he's not great at chilling unless it's on a screen & too much of that leads to meltdowns 😬

Anyway, we are just about to head out into our tiny back garden. Hoping they will play for long enough to let me pull up some weeds. Not a great solution as next door neighbour doesn't like them making noise & complains (ironically, she is a nursery teacher where DS used to go & who set him on the path to his diagnoses!) but hoping we will get lucky & she's not there.

DH has a hectic schedule atm so just me and the kids. I'm happy but there have been times where I've felt like you OP. We're doing something for May Day but today I'm just having a "slow day." As an anxious, easily stressed and irritated person, I really need it sometimes. We're baking today, cleaning, planning a quick walk to get eggs and a play in the garden and that's it.

I've very little to do as DS2 is in hospital (just diagnosed with Crohn's) and I'm sitting here scrolling through Mumsnet while he glugs Modulen and plays Roblox🤣 DP is coming later to take over. DS1 is going out with his mates and staying at one of their houses tonight. I honestly can't remember the last time we did anything as a family and, while I feel guilty, I've had to resign myself to the fact that DS1 would rather eat his own arm off than wander round yet another park/beach/National Trust property and DS2 hasn't the energy to do anything (and hasn't for months). I am, I must say, a world champion at sitting on my arse - so guilty, not guilty😬

The weather forecast for most of the U.K. is lovely tomorrow. I'd make some pack lunches, get the kids in the car, drive to a local beauty spot and spend the day walking, picnicking, letting the kids run free. When you get home, make it clear to DH that he's responsible for kids dinner/bath/bed and then take yourself off to the cinema for a child-free evening. Perfect!

Well, I've survived so far, but the weekend has just reached peak rubbish 😔

Done a lot of gardening, in hour long spurts, while DC were manageable. Went to visit my Nan in hospital, not easy with DC in tow or emotionally. Then today drove DS1 to meet his girlfriend & went to the park & cafe there. Was difficult but ok. DH was not there as he spent the morning at the auction looking for a car to buy.

DH got back from car auction at 3.30, then left at 5pm to go to watch football with DS1. They'll be back at gone midnight. So spending £50 of our (tight) car budget on driving to football & 8 hours of me alone entirely and/or with the 2 difficult DC.

I begged him not to go & listed the logical reasons, but ultimately football won it. I am feeling so rubbish & it just reinforces how I felt when I originally posted. And to make it worse, DS1 is upset because we're arguing again 😥