Anybody else with nothing to do this long weekend?

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Feeling a bit sorry for myself today. We have this long weekend (4 days if you count strike day for schools on Tuesday) stretching out ahead of us & nothing to do!

Everybody else has plans, is going somewhere exciting, having visitors, just doing something. I was supposed to be out with friends tonight but that's been cancelled. DS2 was supposed to have a small birthday do after school but that's postponed. Even DS1 is not doing his usual football training as he's injured.

DH is 'feeling grotty' (he has health anxiety so everything is worse than it is to him) & the DC are tired after a busy week so I can't suggest anything either.

Not the world's biggest problem I know, but I'm just so fed up at the prospect of another long weekend at home doing nothing except homework & housework, hearing of everyone else's exciting times.

It's ironically because yiu are busy and have responsibilities that you feel you've got nothing to do. There are 4 days. Your DH can take on two of them with your 12 year old whether he's ill or not. You're not well either and your brain is telling you that by making you feel negatively. Mental health is important. Two of thise days you need to spend pleasing yourself whether you feel motivated to or not (see brain comment, it will come up with all sorts of excuses why you cant). Your life sounds hard and you need a break.

What I have done is go for such a long walk I'm exhausted. Then go to restaurant and have favourite food and winem go home straight to bed. Or go for a swim, cinema etc. Dont let anyone come with you! Even better if yiu cab go atay overnight in a hotel. Meet your physical and mental needs then properly rest. Second day go see someone like parent or friend or find a nice spot to have a picnic and chill out.

I have got plans this weekend but at easter I felt like you. Luckily my partner took the kids out on an early start day trip and I panicked about being lonely for a while then relished not having anyone needing anything from me. The next night I booked a cheap Premier inn by the sea and chilled the fuck out. It did wonders and I am going to schedule that time again for the coronation weekend. This weekend I'm giving my partner two days then two days as a family.

Make yourself busy first. Honestly your husband will never prioritise you unless you prioritise yourself. If you want things to change you need to change them.

I suggest doing something nice as a family, they’re my best days. Organise a movie night one night. Pizzas, popcorn etc. another night get the kids in bed early - iPad if you have to. And do a date night for you and hubby, drinks, nice food, get dressed up. Plan a nice walk at some point even 30 mins will do you the world of good.

Oh I feel you! If I don’t have anything organised I’m like right what can I do, whereas my husband couldn’t care less if we have anything planned! Tomorrow we are going to get some free Lego (hopefully) from Smyths, then to watch my nephew play football. Home for dinner, maybe takeaway, then a relax on the sofa. Sunday housework in the morning, DS7 football at 1:30 until around 5 then back home for dinner, we might watch a film as it’s bank holiday, then we are going banger racing Monday and I can’t wait! I haven’t been since I was little and DS and DH are car mad (me too) so we’re having a family day out! It doesn’t have to cost the earth, maybe a local beach walk, picnic and park trip? My DS is happy clambering up trees or going down the slides in the park for hours!! Good luck, I hope you find something good and also just spend time together, we often forget that’s the main goal in life now! X

Yup!

Single mum, so weekends like this just drive it home that little bit more. Everyone has lovely family plans and it’s another isolating weekend for me!

Usually I’d make plans but I’ve been off sick most of this year so that’s not really an option financially either. I think we will try short, 30 minute bursts trying to sort the garden out but past that I’ve no idea what we will do.

Is the real problem your "dear" husband?

Because if my "dear" husband tried to pull the, feeling too ill to join in with the family but might manage some DIY on my own and a rest card, on the first ok ish weather wise bank holiday he would be told to (and the swearing is for emphasis here it's not necessary IRL but also not necessarily not) "fucking dose up on over the counter medicine and act like a doting dad you useless excuse for a man"

But my DH knows this in advance so the "oh I'm too ill" would be counterargumented with numerous occasions I have been "more ill" prescribed medicine ill, and still pulled it together for the kids.

Basically health fucking anxiety (but ok to do DIY, would become the least of his concerns.

And I wouldn't hide his fucking arseholery from the kids either.

Look at respite, gettng a befriender for ds with sen so he can go out and do his thing or stay home with someone do their thing
Social services assessment for direct osyments
Local charities med students
Use his dla to hire someone

Go out
No need to do housework all weekend

Direct payments

I'm due my first baby in two weeks. I'm doing NOTHING this weekend by choice. Relax, put your feet up and recharge. Sometimes its just what the doctor ordered :)

I’m obsessively waiting for my period to arrive so that I can draw a line under yet another chemical pregnancy. I might go to the garden centre and what we really need to do is declutter. It’s going to be a fairly shit weekend all in all. We’re not all jollying it up.

No and I don't intend to......I hate bank holidays, everywhere is either busy or full of pissed people fulfilling their need to do something because of a couple of poxy days off for the lucky few. Just no.

We are doing absolutely nothing, hubby is working saturday and monday ( hes an hgv driver) so its just me, the kids and cats at home with the laundry

I'm planning on taking dd swimming on Monday, dh is working all weekend. As long as I have something in place for 1 of the days I don't mind lazing around for the others . Just tell dh, you'll be going out on Monday so he can have the kids. Go for a coffee or whatever you like doing for an hour or two. Or plan a movie, walk whatever you all like doing. I like having a plan in place or I just spend all my time on socials looking at what everyone else is doing which of course is an utterly waste or time and energy.

My dh is away for work and my dd is revising so I'm at a real loose end.

I would say enjoy the slower pace! We've got too much crammed in (ds birthday) and have both done a lot of work hours this week, some chill time would be lovely! Summer's coming up, lot of time to do things then so just enjoy? X

I went through my entire 20s putting so much stuff in my calendar where every single day and every weekend I was doing something 'exciting'. I can tell you it wasn't healthy at all. I was unable to sit with myself and be content because if I wasn't 'busy' doing something 'interesting' I felt like my life was wasting away. It was the validation that my diary was so full that I felt like I had a purpose.

Now in my 30s I can tell you I really enjoy having nothing at al lined up. It is such a relief!

My kids are 25, 19 and 15. 19yo got her first car. Won't see her. 25yo will be out with his gf. 15yo will be in and out. I do my DIY so i'm currently on my 5th day of wfh half days then painting the girls bedroom. Then next week flooring and bed and wardrobe building. I had an op cancelled for today and it will be happening soon so I'm all go here to get it sorted for them. The OH wanted to go to an outdoor tribute festival day in the town park on sunday but the weather is naff this weekend so i dont fancy it. I like to keep occupied though.

This.

Just get up and go out. They can all rest and recouperate.

Go for a walk, to the coast, NT places, shopping, cinema, gardens, museums/galleries, whatever.

When you come back on Saturday, see if they want to go out on Sunday, if not rinse and repeat and go out again. You never know, they might want to come with you on Monday.

How tired are your kids that you can’t go out for 4 days? You know that you’re stuck doing nothing only because you can’t be bothered to do anything. If your husband doesn’t want to go don’t bring him. Get a backbone

”Kids” are 27, 25 and 16. I don’t normally do anything at the weekends just washing, housework, dog walking etc. Today I went to a seaside town 20 minutes drive away with my sister. We had lunch in a little cafe and toured the charity shops. She got some fantastic bargains (because she’s a size 10). Tonight ds3 and I are going to the theatre (I got some £5 tickets). I can’t remember the last time I went out twice in a week, never mind in a day. My weekend will be the usual housework, perhaps a swim on Sunday.

@bloodywhitecat why don’t you john Frolo and go to a couple of the meet-ups?

Lots of things you can do , go to the park and have a mini picnic ( drink , couple of packets of shop bought sandwiches , a box of individuals cakes ) start a garden tidy up / project. Go to your local attraction, visit a destination garden centre , visit family .

Thank you, I hadn't even heard of that but at a few months off 60 (I am a foster parent, my birth kids are adults) I might be quite a bit older than anyone else there?

DH is going to the footy (again-last weekend was Wembley and I’ve barely seen him the last few weeks) then working Sunday. Taking car. Shite buses. I’ll be walking the dogs then housework. Monday will come and it will be “everywhere is too busy.” Rinse and repeat next weekend.

Is the real problem your "dear" husband?

It seems so. He needs to start parenting.