What moments have made you feel like an adult?

[pontipinemum]

I'm married, have a house and a beautiful baby. But a full matching set of plates/ bowls/ cups and even a tea pot a few days ago made me feel very grown up 😂
Have you had an 'I'm a grown up moment'

(Yes I am bored and just about to make my afternoon coffee at work)

Getting a Will done.

I've always said this too, it hasn't happened yet and I'm 43.

I can relate to a lot of these! @frozendaisy I have always enjoyed a good drying day even in my party going early 20s!

Things like buying flowers or going on flights alone don't make me feel adult I've done those since I was a teen.

@Staggersaurus that must be hard looking after your parents 😥certainly would make you feel responsible.

I have a really sad one.

Watching my parents get older and more frail. Makes me aware of the time passing and is totally heartbreaking. Both my parents are approaching 70 with health issues and it’s a shock every time I see them. In my mind I always expect them to be in their 50s and active and able.

When my uncle died suddenly. Neither his partner nor my mum could handle the funeral arrangements so I took over. During the meeting with the funeral director, I actually looked around the room for a grown up to sort it and then realised that I was a grown up and I had to do it!

Gave my 88 year old dad fish for his pond for his birthday this weekend. I had to supervise him not putting them in too quickly (supposed to follow instructions). He couldn't wait!

Mind you he's always been a bit like that.

Lots of sad ones about parents 😥my grandparents raised me (mum was too young but we get on fine now) grandad died very sudden aged 69 when I was 19 and gran aged 72 when I was 26. Because I have so many older sibling (aunts) I didn't have to do any growing up for that or organising. I did take take my gran to hospital for a lot of the appointment but it didn't make me feel like a grown up.

To lighten the mood - not in the way these plates have 😂

Getting on a train to go give a guest lecture at a university. In my best clothes and shoes. On the way home I bought myself a Mac lipstick, as a reward for being a successful grownup.

When I was 14 I got my first job working in a shop after school and Saturdays. My first pay packet was £2. I gave my Mum 5/- towards my keep and felt I was really a grown up and starting to make a contribution.

When my mum first got ill and I had to deal with arranging appointments, and advocating for her with doctors, and watching horrible procedures. Despite having a baby and a house I felt like I'd grown up over night.

On a lighter note, it's when my kids' friends refer to me 'x's mum'. That always makes me feel like I really should know what I'm doing!

Every time I buy those little toilet cleaner things that hang over the rim of the bowl and release a bit of bleach / smell when you flush...

I unpack the shopping, take them out, and shake my head in disbelief: "When did I become THIS?!"

For some reason, filling the car with petrol always makes me feel like an adult. I hate doing it as I always think I’m going to make a mistake, but when I do, I feel adult goals have been attained!

When I was able to control my temper in an argument and say only things which would resolve the issue.

First pay day, handing lodge money to DM.
DM had brought me up as a single parent.
Never forget her face, one of my best memories.

When my dc turn to me to ask for something or how to do something, expecting me to magically know.

Well mine are mostly depressing or sad things that have really made me feel an adult but I don't want to bring the thread low. So more lighthearted ones are things like helping my DF sort his hearing aids out, sorting a loft coversion and mortgage extension from start to finish. Boring sruff like that.
My teen DD had to send some forms off recently for a job she is going for and she said " I don't like adulting" which really made me think of how it slowly creeps in on you and suddenly one day you are unblocking the bog or arranging the chimney sweep 😂
This had made me want to run off backpacking now!

And I now sound like my mum. I do a very good impression of her.

This ^^

Although this July, I will be going to see a relative in Spain, I've sent off for my passport, booked my tickets, I just hope I've done this right!! And will be checking in and flying by myself!!
Silly or not but feel really pleased with myself, and adulting

Becoming the go to person to talk to when dealing with an expected death or funeral. "I knew you would know what to do..."

Buying an estate car

registering the death of my parents.
I am literally the most grown up person in my family now

I was chatting to my friend the other day and uttered the words "It's definitely my favourite garden centre" and immediately felt like an oap! I'm 30

Making decisions/organising care for my 90+ year old mother. Looking after babies, toddlers and teens is like a walk in the park in comparison.

Being excited to get a 6.5L crock pot for Christmas.

The most recent is being the executor for my Nans will. She didn’t want my mum to do it, so I feel like a proper adult having to negotiate that. I want a proper adult to come and do it for me.

Also, more lighthearted, the fact that my children’s friends are allowed to come to my house and I’m allowed to look after them 😂. I feel like I’m winging it with my own children so having other parents willingly leave their kids with me tells me I must be doing something right!