Has Mumsnet had a direct impact on your life?

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I had a thread on here once, and the advice I received was absolutely life-saving. Financially and emotionally. A Mnetter abroad saved my bacon by giving me banking advice - I shall always be grateful to her, although to this day I have no idea who she was.

Another survivor of domestic abuse whose escape was encouraged and supported by some lovely posters on here; I now post to help other women escape.

Welcome back.

Stick around - it can be great.

There are wankers who try to make it nasty. Once you learn their style you can ignore them if possible.

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As in, pre paper?

❤️ JB18 - This group of women are amazing.

Yes, I met fellow Cassies on OTBT. They helped me through a very sticky patch in my marriage & together we all learnt more about what we were dealing with. Still in touch with one of them. If there are any more of you reading this, do reply. I would love to know how you're getting on. The only user names I remember are @gardeningmama and something like @MrsTea

It’s a local council weighted benefit. Single people are entitled to the “shared accommodation” amount, which is the lowest amount. Even if they rent a 2bed flat. It’s the lowest level you can apply for.
You can out more on your local council website.
General info here:
https://england.shelter.org.uk/housing_advice/benefits/benefits_for_under_35s_in_shared_housing

https://www.entitledto.co.uk/help/local-housing-allowance

If you fill out the “entitled to” form it looks initially as if you get nothing, but there’s a drop down box in the results which says about being entitled to local housing allowance.

Came for the spray-painted pigeons and fat ball-eating husbands, stayed for the feminism.

Sending love to you.

Me, too! I love those two threads. "Paul, is that you?" still makes me laugh.

Now THAT is something new I have learned today. Am going to tell my teen son immediately.

What is the grey rock technique please?

I joined because I had a baby who wouldn't wean and things had got so bad she was tube fed. I had some great advice from some lovely Mumsnetters at a point where I was very low. One provided me with a list of speech and language therapists specialising with food issues. I have been so grateful for all the help and advice I have received on here over the years.

Not joining in the drama - being very, very boring.
https://psychcentral.com/health/grey-rock-method

It's what all those old wives were doing with their "Yes, dear" and their "Mmm"!

Yes. One of my very dearest friends, I met on Mumsnet. We still speak all the time and we confide in one another about the most secret things. She NEVER judges, or if she does she doesn't show it. I'd have been lost without her straight talking no nonsense advice, multiple times.

Came for the feminism*.

Stayed for the CF threads.

*Lang Cleg, I thank you.

Yes, it has had both a profoundly positive and profoundly negative impact on my life, and wellbeing. I've been around for many years and had support through what I thought were the hardest times in my life. Until it was the hardest time in my life and the most horrible people imaginable appeared to tear me to pieces, here and elsewhere. I don't think I'll ever get over that.

On the other hand, the number of kind and caring people on here who did not tear me down, I can't thank them enough. I think that saved me.

Cutting to the end. Yes. MN was a big part of my life 15-20 years ago. I got given great advice, and gave some (when a 'complaint' by a newbie about me was countered by MN saying 'we can see you've given kind and helpful advice over a substantial period of time to fellow MNetters so we know your remark was not malign'- or words to that affect. You wouldn't get that now.)

Like everything, it's changed; become so, so much bigger. I was on, originally, with people who we all knew. I recall Icod 😢 Scienceteacher (?); TrinityRhino. etc. I wish I could remember all the Greats. I was Miljee. Some of us left, rejoined; were sanctioned for crossing some new manufactured 'offence boundary'.

We knew and cared about each other. We knew their backstory.

Now it's no different to Twitter, frankly.

I get it; thousands of new users, moderation needed, less nuanced and experienced moderators.

It has its place. But I'm glad I had the best of it, in 2003 onwards.

@Fordian I think I remember TrinityRhino.

I miss posters like Mrsdevere and Everlong, though as you say they may well have name changed.

It was Everlong who was profoundly kind to me, many times.

Anyfucker and others on the relationships board helped me leave an extremely abusive marriage. I’m safe and happy now as are, more importantly, my dc, albeit that they are adults now!

I found a divorce support thread very helpful when going through my divorce and we would check in with each other on the thread at least once a week.

TrinityRhino, Tribpot, Lewsifan, Mathanxiety, Dittany, Solid, Expat, Oldladyintheradiator, Showofhands, bumpybecky, Cocolepew, Northernlurker, Hassled, Thumbwitch, Hissy, Hully....I could go on.

to read This Naked Mind - haven't had a drink anymore after I read it in two days and I just can't imagine drinking alcohol anymore - ever, nearly two years now since I read that book. Recently listened to the Huberman Lab podcast on effects of alcohol that a poster mentioned, and it just re-affirmed that I made the right choice for me and I am done with alcohol.

One poster mentioned her writing up nine boxes of things that are important to you, and what you do/have to contribute to these things (friends, health, family, work/study/personal growth etc) and then if you are having difficulties in one area, it will help to remind you of all the other areas where things are going better. It was a very helpful exercise for me, and in practice I have found that a lot of how you work on these important things overlap, so if something doesn't go well, I find it now actually less daunting. I revisit my boxes from time to time and see how I can strengthen them further.

Yes
had my rainbow baby after reading lots of TTC threads and found the medical advice that worked for me! Fertility experts know nothing compared to the experience and wisdom of MN!
forever grateful ❤️

Flagged brexit for me so I got French nationality. (I've lived in France most of my life).

I spend far too much time on here as well. It got me to back away from buying a house that would have been a legal nightmare in hindsight. Amazed about all the people who kindly offered their wisdom in that instance!