Has Mumsnet had a direct impact on your life?

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I had a thread on here once, and the advice I received was absolutely life-saving. Financially and emotionally. A Mnetter abroad saved my bacon by giving me banking advice - I shall always be grateful to her, although to this day I have no idea who she was.

I have learned so much here.

Mainly how lucky I am.

Some people really suffer in life. The majority of posters here are incredibly generous with their time, knowledge and decency.

Mumsnet has really enriched my life - I am so glad I found it.

Yes absolutely! the wise woman of mumset have helped me in so many ways. The divorce advice I got on here (after my solicitor told me it didn't make a difference being a Sahm/carer for my disabled child) it did and made a huge difference to my settlement. The online dating advice was priceless also. I don't have much support around me and the sensible, intelligent women on here often give brilliant advice. I am a bit scared to post nowadays though, which is a shame, as sometimes even simple questions can get some horrible replies and gets twisted often making the person feel worse.

I joined about 6 months ago when I was pregnant. Initially I hated it, I naively wrote my first thread about MIL and was absolutely flamed 🤣 I was not being unreasonable but had not put enough information in post, the got flamed for drip feeding etc and I had the post deleted. Spent a long time lurking after that, worked out how MN works, made a name change and now I love it!

I have had some lovely support and wonderful advice. I have learned from others mistakes and what to do/not do in so many scenarios. I'm 100% more confident as a person (I used to take so much shit and was such a people pleaser.)

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I totally agree! Much happier without a man.

Many times!
I love this place so much.

I am very pleased for you, op, that really is so positive.

No I can't say Mumsnet has had any sort of impact on me but I do enjoy reading and posting.

One thing about which I will be eternally grateful; there was no Mumsnet when I was pregnant or had a baby/young child :-). If there had, I would have been totally confused and felt I was doing everything wrong! I was far better doing what came naturally and it wasn't difficult.

Yes, definitely! The relationships board in general, and especially Stately Homes, really helped me understand the many ways my relationships were fucked up and helped me to unfuck myself. My therapist used to ask me what I'd learned from Mumsnet that week

FWR went pear-shaped on me a few times, but was invaluable in firming up my views on a few areas where my feminism was a bit woolly. I do like its current incarnation.

Some Relationships regulars and I formed a spin-off Facebook group. We've met in real life and those women feel more like sisters than my sister does.

I miss some of the older posters, and definitely think the humour's faded. I'm glad to be back, though.

Yes, I've made friends and received some fantastic advice. It's helped me feel better about who I am and opened my eyes to the different people there are out there.

I think it’s given me insights into how other people think and live who I wouldn’t ordinarily have met in IRL. Some of the scenarios on the relationships board have really opened my eyes.

The feminism board has educated me on trans issues I knew nothing about previously.

A lot of the regulars who posted pre Covid seem to have disappeared which is a shame. It seems a more aggressive and less kind place these days . Often people don’t read the threads properly before jumping in with criticism. It feels like a less supportive place but I still enjoy coming on here. I actually waste far too much time on it.

I’ve learned a lot about all sorts of things from this board.

Yes,

directly,it helped me recognise and name emotional abuse and coercive control,and realise where to seek help- women’s aid.

I had no RL support. And was very isolated so the support here was invaluable.

indirectly, like pp, it’s opened my eyes to so many things, from GC issues to DIY😁

Yes.

feminism.
empathy.

Not so much me but my DC.

Without MN I wouldn't have realised DD1 might qualify for extra time for her GCSEs. That extra time enabled her to pass them all.

And for DD2, when I realised she needed an EHCP, the advise I got on how to apply meant that my letter covered what was needed and they agreed to do the needs assessment within 3 days of receiving the letter.

During the pandemic I got ahead of the shortages through MN. The only one wrong was peanut butter, but MN helped me to not run out of pasta, loo roll etc.

MN has given me a group of very close, life long friends. We met on the A&W threads in Style and Beauty, sidestepped into our own FB private group and still talk most days, 12 years later. We’ve seen each other through bereavements, pregnancy losses, big birthdays, international house moves and everything else.

Mn gave mea revelation about mental health issues and I sought help. It also helped me get over my ex and I am not a very confident woman who know her self worth.

I meant now *

The breast feeding threads were invaluable about 10 years ago when I got an abscess. Without the advice on here I would have missed the warning signs of sepsis. The doctor said it was very fortunate I went back when I did!

Yes...I've had two jobs that came directly from here. I'm a wedding/funeral celebrant and was approached directly by a couple after posting on here for advice on their upcoming wedding. I talked to them via Zoom, and was booked to do their ceremony early last year. I've since been asked to do a naming ceremony for their new baby, which is happening at the end of May 🥰

Someone read a comment they thpught I had written about them and finally confronted me 6 years later. They were wrong. It really damaged our relationship.

Invaluable encouragement with breastfeeding my first, the best part of two decades ago now. I've now bf 3 children for a cumulative total of 11 years.

Some brilliant RL friends originally from here.

A fascinating window on how others live, what makes them tick.

And as an immigrant (not expat) of 20 years +, a great way of gaining a sense of what's going on back in the UK, how people are using language, what the main social concerns are.

So many things...working out that I had ADHD from threads on here, years of Christmas bargains which has been amazing, just a general window into other people's minds, so eye opening.
I've been here since 2012 when I posted with a relationship question and had my arse handed to me!

Oh and the GC stuff...incredible.

Yes. I was in a terrible marriage and being forced into an awful situation. MN supported me through that and probably saved my life as I was too ashamed to talk in anyone in RL about it and felt absolutely broken.

I'm so many ways. Invaluable support during a terrible time, friendships that in two cases have become RL, a great cream recommended that cleared up my DD's skin when nothing else did and a MN'er found me the wedding dress I bought and wore for my wedding last year.

Certainly has.