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Plunko · 2023-04-24T18:52:51+00:00

I wouldn't be fussed if I never went on a holiday again. Don't get me wrong, I'm incredibly grateful that I have the option but I just think they are such a faff. My husband loves them and I never enjoy myself....too many clothes, finding stuff to do (that's inevitably expensive)....maybe I'm a miserable cow! Just come back from a week away and I'm knackered and have loads of crap to unpack/wash/put away and a weeks worth of work to catch up on. Anyone else not get what all the fuss is about?

AngryBirdsNoMore · 25/04/2023 15:21

thatsn0tmyname · 25/04/2023 10:50

No such thing as a holiday, it's a 'change of scene' ( especially if young children are involved).

Agree that with kids it’s more a change of scene. My DH hates going away with babies / toddlers - his view is it’s just the same as being at home but you had to travel to get there and you don’t know where everything is.

ballerinagirl · 25/04/2023 15:22

Youheshetheysaid · 25/04/2023 15:19

Brighton…. One of my favourite places. Must feel like your on holiday during the summer!

I wouldn't know, as I've never been on holiday. It's just home to me

Youheshetheysaid · 25/04/2023 15:24

AngryBirdsNoMore · 25/04/2023 15:21

Agree that with kids it’s more a change of scene. My DH hates going away with babies / toddlers - his view is it’s just the same as being at home but you had to travel to get there and you don’t know where everything is.

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But surely on holiday you’re not cleaning, cooking, working, doing admin, running errands???

this is what I don’t get!! When I holidayed with young children, it felt like a holiday because I did none or very little of the above list!!

yoga4meinthemorning · 25/04/2023 15:24

Holiday wife work is a thing.

Share the work or LTB.

Youheshetheysaid · 25/04/2023 15:25

ballerinagirl · 25/04/2023 15:22

I wouldn't know, as I've never been on holiday. It's just home to me

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Trust me then.

Surely you’re aware of the influx of tourists during the summer months and that it’s very much a Uk holiday destination?

Do you have children?

rewilded · 25/04/2023 15:28

Have you just come back from a week in Yeovil?
🤣🤣🤣

My guess is Edinburgh it's all that grey sandstone and sick.

theleafandnotthetree · 25/04/2023 15:29

Itsanotherhreatday · 24/04/2023 20:34

Pack a back pack.

Nobody needs tones of clothes on holiday.
Wash and dry them all in the Spanish sun - come home to clean clothes.

You do know people go on holidays to places other than Spain don't you?

ballerinagirl · 25/04/2023 15:30

@Youheshetheysaid yes of course I know it gets very busy in summer especially. But I'm use to it. Yes I have older children who live in Brighton also. They travel a lot and have stayed with their father who lives in Spain every year since they were little

Youheshetheysaid · 25/04/2023 15:33

Itsanotherhreatday · 24/04/2023 20:34

Pack a back pack.

Nobody needs tones of clothes on holiday.
Wash and dry them all in the Spanish sun - come home to clean clothes.

Maybe for the type of holiday you go on (presumably no children? You don’t do different activities requiring different shoes ie trainers for long walks, sandals for the beach / pool, nice shoes for evenings at restaurants?)

Youheshetheysaid · 25/04/2023 15:35

That was for @Itsanotherhreatday

Youheshetheysaid · 25/04/2023 15:38

ballerinagirl · 25/04/2023 15:30

@Youheshetheysaid yes of course I know it gets very busy in summer especially. But I'm use to it. Yes I have older children who live in Brighton also. They travel a lot and have stayed with their father who lives in Spain every year since they were little

Did you not ever take them on holiday or even a hour away because anxious about it?

ballerinagirl · 25/04/2023 15:43

@Youheshetheysaid no I didn't. They visited their father every half term or summer holidays as I worked as a nurse and a carer. He could only see them in school holidays.
They still got to go abroad and I was a lone parent working two jobs to put food on the table. My children didn't miss out.

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Plunko · 26/04/2023 20:26

FirstTimeBuyersHelp · 24/04/2023 22:21

If my husband said he never wanted to go on holiday again it would be one of the few things that would make me question if we had a future together.

What a miserable life to live in this world and not see more of it.

I'm sure it's clear that they're a priority for me.

Fine if they're not for others. But I'd need a partner to feel the same.

I haven't told him this for that very reason, maybe that's the wrong thing to do but I wouldn't want to stop him from enjoying holidays.

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Plunko · 26/04/2023 20:29

MeinKraft · 24/04/2023 23:19

YANBU it's a pain in the arse hanging around the airport etc and when you finally get to your destination you still have exactly the same problems, just in a different place.

Exactly!

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Plunko · 26/04/2023 20:32

AngryBirdsNoMore · 24/04/2023 23:48

One of the best ‘holidays’ I’ve been on was two weeks quarantining in the Irish countryside. We had to come over from a different country in order to see a very unwell (soon to pop clogs) relative and the rules were that we therefore had to quarantine in Ireland.

It was a delight. Long walks around the massive cattle farm we were staying on, lots of reading, board games, box sets in the evening. Our host left sneaky shortbread and fresh baked bread on our door step on occasion then vanished again.

No big activities or new clothes. It was a revelation that a holiday really can just be a rest somewhere fresh.

Now that I would enjoy....apart from the relevant part of course 💐

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MorrisZapp · 26/04/2023 20:33

I can't be arsed either. I like short UK trips, and even then I loathe checking out of places and wheeling to the station.

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Plunko · 26/04/2023 20:37

Youheshetheysaid · 25/04/2023 11:15

Single parent here

and holidays are pure and total heaven. Chance to kick back, chill, luxuriate (I always go high end) and be really present with my children all day every day (as opposed to work, admin, housework, homework etc getting in the way)

all sounds a bit shit op

cards on table, holidays aside, how do you and your dh get on?

Absolutely fine! I think I might suggest something I'd like rather than trying to please the masses.....that's probably where I'm going wrong. I'd enjoy a house somewhere warm for a week where the kids can safely play and I'm not constantly worried they'll wander off/fall in a pool etc etc! I can read whilst genuinely relaxing 😌

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QueSyrahSyrah · 26/04/2023 20:40

I'll take your share OP, holidays are my favourite thing, doesn't matter where or when just show me somewhere new to explore and I'm in my happy place.

It'd be boring if we were all the same.

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Plunko · 26/04/2023 20:41

Theredjellybean · 25/04/2023 11:36

I'm sorry you sound miserable to me...
Firstly why do you need loads of clothes and expensive activities?
If you find that stressful...don't do it.
I go away with hand luggage only, never take dressing up type stuff,heels make up etc
A holiday is supposed to be about what you find relaxing,or refreshing...for me that's shorts,t shirt, no fancy stuff for a week or so.
Lying in sun with a book all day and eating in simple beach bars.
Home with minimal washing...
But if it's the type of holiday you are doing then look for a different type or let your dh go on his own...

Absolutely....after reading everyone's replies I've realised I've not suggested what I'd like to do / where I'd actually like to go. I'm not a miserable cow when I'm on holiday, I just find it all quite overwhelming.

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Plunko · 26/04/2023 20:46

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 25/04/2023 15:20

Do you have children OP?

I have found holidays a lot more relaxing with either just me & DH or with adult DC.

I agree it can feel stressful if you are trying to keep young children occupied .

We normally chose a self catering holiday (we use VRBO but similar to AirB&B) and have very simple food in our accommodation such as bread and cheese and wine and then eat out the rest of the time . Always try to get somewhere with washer /dryer so we just pop clothes in part way through the holiday so can both take less and also don't come home to dirty washing .

We spend a lot of our time just sitting on our balcony / garden or in the accommodation relaxing - I read and DH takes his laptop or Amazon stick to watch films. Or we just have a wander around the town we are staying or somewhere near by and have our lunch . All very relaxed .

Maybe this isn't your kind of holiday though .

Can you analyse exactly what parts you enjoy and what you don't ?

Yes, aged 3 and 10. My 3 year old has a favourite hobby of running off so that makes things tricky! 🤣

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TheVanguardSix · 26/04/2023 20:47

I am NOT saying LTB! Promise! 😆
But I went on my first post-divorce holiday with the kids this year and it really was the best one I’d ever had (kids loved it, jut adding). And it was because I went to a place we really wanted to go to and booked a place we really wanted to stay in. It was the first time we’d stayed in a hotel and ate every meal out. No cooking. No cleaning. No laundry. No bringing the kitchen sink with me.
It was expensive but it was my first proper holiday in years and it was worth every penny.

Hotfootgoose · 26/04/2023 20:50

I prefer a weekend break to a whole week. Like you say OP, the faff when you get home is unpleasant and I feel like I spend a whole week fretting over the kids and being on edge. Much prefer a cheap weekend break

AngryBirdsNoMore · 27/04/2023 00:03

Plunko · 26/04/2023 20:32

Now that I would enjoy....apart from the relevant part of course 💐

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Ahh, thank you. He was very old and had had a good life, and it was a blessing to see him shortly before he passed. Thank you.

UndercoverCop · 27/04/2023 00:08

I only feel like this about UK holidays, everything is the same, weather is mainly shit and everything is expensive. A few days is ok but longer than that and I start to wonder what the point is.
Love a trip abroad though, sun, adventure, freezing cold/snowy, city breaks , European road trip, all of it. Just get me away for a while!

AngryBirdsNoMore · 27/04/2023 00:09

Plunko · 26/04/2023 20:37

Absolutely fine! I think I might suggest something I'd like rather than trying to please the masses.....that's probably where I'm going wrong. I'd enjoy a house somewhere warm for a week where the kids can safely play and I'm not constantly worried they'll wander off/fall in a pool etc etc! I can read whilst genuinely relaxing 😌

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That sounds like a lovely holiday!